Ukugxilisa ukuziphatha okufanele ezinganeni zethu akuyona into elula. Sonke siyakucacisa lokho imfundo isekelwe ekunikezeni isibonelo esihle njalo, ukusebenzisa imithetho ecacile nehambisanayo, futhi-ke, esidingweni sokufaka ezinganeni ubuhlakani obungokomzwelo obenele.
Manje, lapho sikhuluma ngokuzibophezela, inkinga iba nzima kakhulu. Ngabe umthwalo ubophezelekile ebuntwini bengane? Ngabe ifundiswa ngendlela efanayo nemikhuba emihle netafula lokuphindaphinda? Singakusho lokho isimilo sokuzibophezela sitholwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ezifundiswayo, ezikhuthazwayo neziqondiswayo ukuze, ngandlela-thile, zibe isimo sengqondo esingaphakathi enganeni ngokwakhe. Ku-"Madres hoy»sifuna ukukhuluma nawe ngalesi sihloko esibaluleke kakhulu.
Isibopho emjikelezweni wokuphila wezingane
Omama abaningi bavame ukukhononda ngakho zihluke kanjani izelamani komunye nomunye: omunye akanaki, omunye unobungane kakhulu, omunye unokwethenjelwa kakhulu, kanti omunye, akakakhuli yize eseyibhungu elinamamitha acishe abe amashumi ayisishiyagalombili.
Konke lokhu kuvame ukwenza kube nokwenzeka uku cabanga ukuthi isimilo esiziphethe kahle sixhumene kakhulu nomlingiswa kunemfundo, okungelona iqiniso. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi siqale sizame ukuchaza esikuqondayo ngomsebenzi:
Isibopho ngumthwalo abantu abanawo wokuthatha imiphumela yezinqumo zethu nezenzo zethu, ukuze kuzuze thina futhi nabanye.
Njengoba ukwazi ukubona, kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu emfundweni yezingane zethu, into okufanele siyikhuthaze nsuku zonke kusukela besebancane kakhulu. Kumele sikukhumbule lokho imigomo esinayo njengomama, njengabafundisi futhi njengaleso sigaba sokuqala senhlalo nesokuxhumana izingane ezinaso lapho ziza emhlabeni, yilokhu okulandelayo:
- Siza izingane zethu zikhule ngenjabulo ukuze babe ngabantu abazimele.
- Khuthaza ukuthi bakwazi ukuzondla, noma iyiphi indlela abafisa ukuyithatha.
- Basize babe bakwazi ukuzithathela izinqumo, bazithande futhi bazizwe bephephile.
Ungayithuthukisa kanjani indlela yokuziphatha efanelekile phakathi kweminyaka engu-2 nengu-7
I-adventure yokufunda, uyikholwe noma cha, iqala kusukela ngomzuzu wokuqala lapho izingane ziza emhlabeni. Izingane zethu badinga imihlahlandlela, imikhuba, isitayela sokukhulisa izingane ngokulinganisela, egcwele uthando futhi engahambelani. Lokho wukuthi, ngokwesibonelo, ekhaya unakekela ingane yakho njalo lapho uyizwa ikhala, kepha, Uma umshiya nogogo nomkhulu wakhe, abakwenzi lokho "ngoba bacabanga ukuthi bammosha ngaleyo ndlela," akuyona into efanele ukwenziwa.
Uma kukhulunywa ngokufundisa, kufanele njalo sifane, ngokuziphatha okuzinzile okunikeza ukuphepha enganeni ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ingane ephephile yingane ejabulayo futhi ephendulayo kukho konke esimfundisa kona. Manje ... Kungenzeka yini ukuthuthukisa izindlela zokuziphatha ezinengqondo ezinganeni ezincane kangaka?
Sikukhombisa yona ngezansi.
Ungakugxilisa kanjani ukuziphatha okufanele phakathi kweminyaka emi-2 nengu-4
Ngomntwana oneminyaka emibili… Akusikho yini ukuthi kusesekuseni kakhulu ukuthi kufundiswe ngomthwalo wemfanelo? Ngokuphambene nalokho, kuhle futhi kuyadingeka, futhi uma sibheka ukuthi basenqubweni yokufunda ukukhuluma, ukuxhumana, ukuveza ...
- Kungenzeka ukuthi phakathi kweminyaka emi-2 nengu-3 ingane ihleli abazi ngokugcwele okulungile nokungalungile, kepha isikhathi esihle kubo ukuthi basilingise, ukusisiza ngemisebenzi elula ezoba yingxenye yosuku lwabo lwanamuhla: ukubeka amathoyizi, izingubo, izinto zokugeza, ukubeka itafula ... Lena imisebenzi eyisisekelo okufanele kujwayelekile.
- Phakathi kweminyaka emithathu nengu-3 izingane zethu ziwuqonda kahle umvuzo nesijeziso, ukuqashelwa ... funda ukugqoka wedwa, ukwabelana, ukuhlonipha ithuba labo, ukulawula ukukhungatheka, ukwazi ukulalela okushiwo abanye nokuthula ngenkathi abanye bekhuluma ...
- Zama ukubenza bathathe isinyathelo ezintweni zansuku zonke, ubavumele ukuthi benze izinto, banikeze umbono wabo ... Ukuziphatha okufanelekile kuzovela noma nini banikeze ukusekelwa nokubethemba. Uma ujezisa, uma ujezisa kuphela, ingane izokwesaba ukuthatha izinyathelo.
Ungakugxilisa kanjani ukuziphatha okufanele phakathi kweminyaka emi-4 nengu-6
Uma sisebenzise iseluleko esedlule, sizoba nomhlaba omningi esizuzile. Kusukela eminyakeni yobudala eyi-5 izingane zethu zizosinika umbono wazo ezintweni eziningi, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, bazosikhombisa izifiso zabo: ube nalokhu nalokhu, yenza lokhu hhayi lokhuya, suka lapha ungakwenzi okuthumelayo ...
Yini ebaluleke kakhulu ngalesi sigaba?
- Ungesabi ukuthi HAYI. Kumele kucace futhi kuchaze isizathu sokwenqaba.
- Bazokuvivinya ezintweni eziningi, babekezele, babeke imingcele futhi baxhumane kakhulu nabo. Yiba nempendulo njalo emibuzweni yakho.
- Kufanele jwayela ukwenza izinto ezithile, futhi wazi ukuthi yini umthwalo wakho wemfanelo ngaso sonke isikhathi sosuku.
- Qhubeka usebenzele ukumelana kwakho nokukhungatheka. Kubalulekile ukuthi kule minyaka, bamukele ukwenqatshwa futhi bazi ukuthi bangakuphatha kanjani ngaphandle kokukhala noma ukukhala.
Ungakugxilisa kanjani ukuziphatha okufanele phakathi kweminyaka engu-6 nengu-7
- Lesi yisikhathi lapho bezokwenza khona izimfuno eziqinile kithi. Kumele baqonde kusukela kunezibopho uma zifuna ukuba namalungelo, futhi izinkambiso zizobe sezichazwa kabanzi.
- Kubalulekile ukuthi sibafundise gcina i-oda ngezinto zakho, ukubhekela "okungokwakho." Izinto zabo esikoleni, amathoyizi, nezingubo zabo ... Uma belawula izinto zabo besebancane kakhulu, sizogwema izinkinga ezinkulu lapho befika ebusheni.
- Akukona ukubeka amazinga njengosayitsheni. Kuxoxiswana ngezinkambiso futhi kumele baziqonde.
- Kule minyaka sebenabangani babo. Ithanda njalo isici esibalulekile se- «zibeke endaweni yomunye ». Ungathanda ukuphushelwa njengoba wenza nje noMiguel? Ucabanga ukuthi kungani uSara kade ekhala? Ucabanga ukuthi kungani umkhulu wayethukuthele namuhla?
Phakathi kweminyaka emi-6 nengu-8
- Bangabukeka bekhulile kodwa cha. Sisebunyeni lapho sicabanga khona ukuthi sebevele bayifakile ngaphakathi imithetho yangaphambili nokuthi abadingi ukugadwa ezicini eziningi.
- Kodwa-ke, ungabi budedengu, kujwayelekile ukuthi amaphutha amaningi okukhohlwa nawokuzibandakanya avele kule minyaka. Bavame ukulahlekelwa izinto, badideke, futhi uma kwenzeka okuthile okungekuhle, uzobeka icala kwabanye.
- Kubalulekile ukuthi wengamele imisebenzi yabo ngendlela ecashile, ngaphandle kokucindezela kodwa ube nabo.
- Isikhathi esihle se- amasiko omphakathi ahlala: ukwazi ukwamukela, ukubingelela, ukuvalelisa, ukuba nengxoxo emnandi, ukwazi ukubonga ...
Ungakugxilisa kanjani ukuziphatha okufanele phakathi kweminyaka emi-8 nengu-12
Sesivele sikule "magic" yobudala. Kusuka ku- Eminyakeni engu-8 ubudala, izingane zenza ukugxuma okubalulekile kokuvuthwa ukuthi ngezikhathi ezithile, kungasithatha sibheke phansi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi, bangasimangaza.
Sebevele benazo umuzwa ongacacile wobulungisa, yize lokhu kuhlala kusekelwe kumvuzo nasekujezisweni. Uyavuma ukuthi wenzani okungalungile kepha awukawuyeki umkhuba wokubeka izaba eziyinkulungwane.
- Isikhathi soku banikeze imithwalo yemfanelo ebucayi ngokwengeziwe: Angaya ukuyothenga, angakwazi ukunakekela isilwane esifuywayo, aye yedwa esikoleni, endlini yabangani bakhe ... Angazibophezela kunoma yini ayifunayo inqobo nje uma ezokukhombisa ukuthi uyakwazi ukufeza imisebenzi yakhe njengomsebenzi wesikole, ukugcina igumbi eliqoqekile, buya ekudlaleni ngesikhathi esibekiwe.
- Uyazi ukuthi kulezizikhathi, umbuthano wakho wabangani uzoba nesisindo esikhulu. Ukuthi uzokwenza izahlulelo zakhe, ukuthi uzosifuna nemikhawulo yethu. Yicabange futhi uhlale uphendula ngokugwema ukuwela ekuziphatheni kobushiqela. Uma ujezisa, ugxeka noma uphakamisa izwi lakho kakhulu, ozokuthola ukwenqatshwa enganeni yakho.
- Kubalulekile futhi ukukuqonda lokho kwesinye isikhathi, kumele sivumele izingane zenze amaphutha. Mhlawumbe uyazi ukuthi abangane bakhe bebefuna indodana yakho ibhalise emakilasini e-karate. Uyazi ukuthi akuhambi naye nokuthi ezinsukwini ezimbalwa uzobhoreka.
Ungazenzi "umbhuli" ngokumtshela okuzokwenzeka, noma uzame ukumvikela ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukuziphatha okufanele, ngezikhathi ezithile kudinga amaphutha ukuze ufunde. Into ebalulekile ukuthi njalo themba ukwesekwa kwakho, iseluleko sakho, ngokuqonda kwakho okuphelele.