Kuyinto engavamile ukuzwa abazali lapho qaphela ukuthi ingane yakho iyisidakwa. Akuvamisile ukuthi imelwe kakhulu emindenini eminingi, kepha le nkinga ikhona. Kulezi zinsuku Kuyinto a umkhuba ovame kakhulu phakathi kwabantu abasha futhi ukusetshenziswa kwayo okukhulu okungazi lutho kungaholela ezinkingeni ezinkulu, kufaka phakathi ukuncika.
Ukuphuza utshwala akudali mpendulo, futhi akumenzi umuntu abe yisidakwa, inkinga kuba lapho udala umkhuba futhi kuthathwa ngesikhathi esifanele esidala izinkinga ezinkulu. Abantu abasha bayithatha ngamaqembu, ukuzijabulisa, kodwa okubi kunakho konke ukuthi kudliwa nini ukukhiqiza isimo sengqondo sokugwema ukungqubuzanaekhanda lakho noma njengokugwema okungokomzwelo.
Ingane yakho iyisidakwa nini?
Abazali bangabuka ingane yabo ibuya ekhaya ekhombisa izimpawu ezisobala zokudakwa kotshwala. Akujwayelekile ukuthi sekuvele kwenzeka njalo futhi leli qiniso likhona kuthinta umndeni wakho nempilo yezemfundo: Uchitha isikhathi esincane ekhaya, ubeke eceleni imisebenzi yakho oyithandayo yokuzilibazisa, izimpi nezingxoxo ekhaya ngezizathu ezilula noma lapho amamaki akho ezifundo ewa.
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali babheke lesi sici, kwazise isimo sabo sokuhlubuka kanye nokuxhamazela kufanele iholelwe kuhlobo oluthile lokusekelwa. Kumele kubonwe ukuthi yisikhathi esinzima, kepha noma yiluphi usizo olunikezwa ngalesi sikhathi luzoba lubaluleke kakhulu ekuthuthukisweni kwalo. ngokwengqondo, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo.
Yini okufanele uyenze lapho ingane yakho iyisidakwa?
Into ebalulekile izingxoxo, zonke izinhlobo zokuxhumana Ukuthi kungasetshenziswa enganeni yakho ekugcineni kuwufanele, noma ngabe kuzanywa. Kunezindlela zokusungula leyo ngxoxo futhi kufanele ivinjelwe, ngoba umzali okhuliswe ngendlela ecindezelayo angaba nemiphumela engemihle ekuziphatheni kwengane.
Ngakho-ke, ukuxhumana kufanele kusekelwe ku phawula ngesimo, zama ungabeki igunya eleqile noma ukuxabana ngendlela eyeqile. Le ngxoxo kufanele ibe yokuxhumana lapho zombili izinhlangothi kufanele zisho lokho ezikucabangayo ngale ndaba, zigweme ukwahlulela. Ayikho inkhulumomphendvulwano lencono kunaleyo oqinisayo, umhlekisiNgizwa ngokufuna ukuqonda omunye umuntu. Akusebenzi kahle lapho udala ukungezwani okuningi futhi wenza ngendlela ulaka futhi ungenzi lutho.
Lapho kubekwa imithetho noma imikhawulo kufanele ungagunci kulokho okubizelweyoKufanele uyiphoqelele futhi ungasusi "izijeziso" nhlobo. Umthetho ongahlangatshezwa kuzoba nemiphumela engeke bayithande futhi uma isimilo sibekiwe, kufanele siqiniswe njalo, kepha ngaphandle kwengcindezi enkulu.
Abazali kumele babe yisibonelo esikhulu kunazo zonke ukulawula lolu hlobo lokuziphatha. Bayisibonelo senkomba nalabo okufanele babonise indlela abaziphatha ngayo ukuze izingane zingathathi indlela efanayo. Siyazi ukuthi intsha noma izingane ezinokuzimela okuthile azisachithi isikhathi esiningi nabazali bazo, kepha singakwazi phakamisa imisebenzi yokuzilibazisa nesikhathi samahhala ukuchitha njengomndeni. Noma singavumi, kuvela ukuthi ingane yakho ingakhuthazwa ukuthi iphinde izenze lezo zikhathi zomndeni ezazithandeka kangaka.
Izinyathelo eziqinile lapho inkhulumomphendvulwano ingagcwaliseki
Isimo singaba nzima lapho ukusetshenziswa kotshwala kwenzeka futhi isimo esibi senziwa. Uma kunikezwe lesi simo, kubekwe izingxoxo nemikhawulo. Lapho izindinganiso zibekiwe, azihlangatshezwa futhi ziyaphindwa ekusetshenzisweni kwazo, into enhle kakhulu ukumenza aye kudokotela. Ngale ndlela kuzoba nokuhlolwa nokulandelwa kwalesi simo.
Iya kudokotela nokucela usizo kuholela ukuhlolwa bese uhlola isimo sakho. Lapha kuzonconywa kuwe ukuxilongwa okungcono kakhulu nosizo lwengqondo. Uma ingane yakho ineziqephu ezithile zokudakwa kwangempela kungcono ukumyisa esikhungweni sezimo eziphuthumayo futhi ungalindi ukuthi isimo sakho sidlule. Lapha uzobe usezandleni zethimba lezokwelapha elizolinganisa inani lotshwala egazini. Izinyathelo zizothathwa ukuletha ezandleni zochwepheshe lokho kuzokukhombisa imiphumela yokusetshenziswa kwayo.
Ekuphetheni, ukusekelwa komndeni kuyisibonelo esihle kakhulu. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukunikeza ukusekelwa okungenamibandela, ukukhombisa ukuthi siyasikhathalela isimo sakho futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukufuna imininingwane yokusekela ngangokunokwenzeka. Ungafunda enye yezindatshana zethu ku- "Kungani utshwala kungafanele bube khona emndenini."