Ekhulwini lama-XXI kungudaba ngeshwa olusakhathaza abanye abazali. Kungokwemvelo ukwesaba ukuthi bahlushwa ukucwaswa kwabantu bobulili obufanayo esibonile umndeni, abangane, abantu esibajwayele kanye nabathandekayo bethu bebonke behlupheka. Sisenobandlululo oluningi ngobungqingili nokuziphatha kwabesilisa nabesifazane, kwamukelwa ngokwamasiko, okuyizinsumansumane kuphela.
Sizozama ukuchaza ngezansi izizathu zokuthi kungani kungafanele uphathe ingane yakho ngokwehlukile ngemuva kokwazi lesi simo, esizalwa naso, njengoba nje nobungqingili bunjalo nakwabanye abantu.
Ubungqingili kanye transsexuality emlandweni nasendalweni
Ngokuphikisana nalokho ongakucabanga ekuqaleni, ubungqingili bukhona emvelweni. Kunezifundo eziningi zesayensi ezibonisa isimilo sobungqingili kuzo zonke izinhlobo ezifundwayo. Kukhona nezichasiselo kulezi zifundo eziqokomisa i-anecdote yokuthi ubudlelwano phakathi kwabesilisa abukaze buhlukaniswe njengezocansi, kepha kunalokho njengokubusa. Okungenzeka ngenxa yokungazi noma ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhlekwa usulu ozakwabo.
Esinye isenzakalo esenzeka futhi emvelweni ukuthandana kwabantu bobulili obufanayo, Kukhona izinhlobo ezithile ezishintsha ubulili, kungaba ngokubukeka noma ngokuphelele, ubulili. Isibonelo kungaba yinhlanzi ehlekisayo, inhlanzi encane enhle edlala umlingiswa kaNemo, inamandla okushintsha ubulili.
Kepha ubungqingili nokuziphatha kwabantu ngokobulili obufanayo kwabantu sekukhona futhi kuzohlala kukhona, ngoba ngokwemvelo siyizilwane. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi amandla okucabanga kufanele abekhona kithina, angakhonjiswa ezilwaneni. Kodwa-ke, ubuhlakani nesizathu akuhlangene neze nesimo socansi ngalunye.
Ukuzondwa kwabantu bobulili obufanayo nobulili obubodwa, i-transphobia kanye nokubandlulula
Ubungqingili kanye ne-transphobia ngokwencazelo yinzondo noma ukwenqatshwa kobungqingili kuya kwezobulili obufanayo ngakho-ke kubantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo ngokulandelana. Njengawo wonke ama-phobias, ukwenqatshwa okuqala kusukela ekwesabeni okuthile okungaziwa.
Lokhu kwesaba kubangelwa ubandlululo futhi lokho kusho ukuthi ukwesaba nokwenqatshwa kusekelwe ezahlulelweni zezinto ezingaqondakali ngokweqile. Ubandlululo oluvame kakhulu kubantu abathandana nabobulili obubodwa nabobulili obuthile ukuthi abafana banesimilo sabesifazane noma besilisa, amantombazane, athambekele ekudlaleni indima yobulili bobunye ubulili, njll. Lezi zonke izinganekwane, azilona iqiniso ngempela.
Okokuqala, nikeza indima yobulili, isivele ibandlulula, futhi kungaba yingozi enganeni yakho. Intombazane ingadlala ngebhola likanobhutshuzwayo ngaphandle kokuba yisitabane noma idlulise ubulili kwabesilisa, iyayithanda nje ibhola likanobhutshuzwayo. Umfana angadlala ngonodoli futhi asho ukuthi uzoba ubaba omkhulu, hhayi ngoba ezobungqingili noma ngoba ezizwa njengowesifazane.
Ubandlululo luhlala luyingozi ezinganeni zethu, noma ngabe abanye bayazisebenzisa ezinganeni zethu, noma uma izingane zethu zizisebenzisa nakwabanye.
Uma ingane ingeyena ungqingili noma i-transsexual futhi izungezwe ubandlululo, ingakhombisa isimilo esinolaka kulabo, ngenxa yokuthuthuka kwe-phobia futhi lokhu kuyingozi kuye. Uma ingane ingungqingili noma i-transsexual futhi izungezwe ubandlululo, kungenzeka ukuthi izisebenzise kwabanye nakuye, ilimaze ukuzethemba kwayo emikhawulweni engalindelekile.
Ngakho-ke, singasho ukuthi kuzo zombili lezi zimo ubandlululo luyingozi ngokulinganayo.
Ukuthi thina bazali kufanele senze kanjani kulesi simo
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ake sifundise izingane zethu zisencane ngokuhlukahlukana ngokocansi. Akudingekile ukuthi sibanikeze imininingwane, kepha kunalokho ukuthi sibachazele ngokoqobo ngendlela elula nengokwemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka. Njengoba sesishilo, ubungqingili kanye ne-transphobia kusekelwe ekwesabeni okungaziwa. Lapho sifundisa ngokwengeziwe ngokuhlukahluka, mancane amathuba okuba kube nokubandlululwa okungakondla.
Kumele uchaze ukuthi uthando luthando nokuthi wonke umuntu kufanele aphile njengokuzizwa kwakhe. Ukuthi umfana angathanda intombazane noma omunye umfana ngendlela efanayo, ukuthi kunabafana abazizwa bengcono ngokuba amantombazane namantombazane athanda ukuba umfana kakhulu, akwenzeki lutho.
Ikakhulu Awudingi ukuhlanganisa idrama lapho uthola ngesimo sabo, noma kunjalo uthola. Akukho lutho olungahambi kahle ngakho, akusikho ukugula ngengqondo, futhi akusikho okwenyama, akusikho ukukhubazeka. Indodana yakho yehlukile nje kuwe, ifana naleyo enekhono lokuba ngumculi, uthisha noma unjiniyela, akukho okunye.
Akunasidingo sokukhathazeka ngomhlaba wangaphandle, ngomonakalo abazokwenza kuwe. Inqobo nje uma bezizwa besekelwa ekhaya, akukho lutho olungaphandle olubalulekile. Abakwazi ukukulimaza kakhulu kunalokho ongakwenza ngenxa yemibono yakho yezepolitiki, noma ngenxa yenkolo yakho, noma ngenxa yomsebenzi oqondakala kancane, njll.