Zonke izingane zehlukile. Inkulumo eqinisekisa ukuthi "ingane ngayinye umhlaba" ayiphutha. Kunezingane okuthi, selokhu zazalwa, zilale ngokuthula isikhathi esingaphezu kwamahora amathathu ngesikhathi. Njengoba bekhula, ubusuku buba ngcono kubazali; ingane yakho ilele, bayaphumula, futhi emini bangenza izinto zabo buthule ngenkathi ingane idlala. Kwabaningi bethu, le phrofayili yezinsana kungaba iphupho; singayithokozela ingane yethu ngomqondo ophumule futhi ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa yingxenye yenkululeko yethu.
Kepha kuneqembu lezinsana nezingane elidinga ukunakekelwa okwengeziwe. Lokhu kuyinkinga kuphela kubazali ngoba abanakho ukuphumula okulinganayo noma isikhathi sabo. Yizingane okuthiwa zibiza kakhulu, yize uqobo, angithandi ukubhekisa kuzo ngaleyo ndlela. Ukufuna okuphezulu akuhlobene nanoma iyiphi inkinga engokwengqondo noma "udlakela olungokomzwelo" oludumile abantu abaningi abasola abancane. Okunamathiselwe kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ekukhuliseni izingane zethu futhi kunezingane ezidinga ngaphezu kwabanye. Kuyenzeka nakubantu abadala; kunabantu abadinga ukuzungezwa abantu ngaso sonke isikhathi, abathandi ukuba bodwa futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu ababona abantu abadala abadinga kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, kutholakale uchungechunge lwezici leli qembu lezingane nezingane elifana ngazo:
Nomfutho
Izingane nezingane ezifunwa kakhulu, kungekudala futhi zishiwo kabi, zinamabhethri angapheli. Bafaka umfutho omkhulu kukho konke abakwenzayo, njengokungathi babecabanga ukuthi: "Uma ngikwenza, ngikwenza kahle." Ingqondo yabo nomzimba wabo kuhlala kukulungele ukwenza okuthile. Akuvamile ukuthi abantu abangabazi babaphenye njengezingane ezingasebenzi kahle.
Endabeni yokuba mncane, lezi zingane zifuna ukuba cishe njalo ezingalweni; abamukeli ukulala kwenye indawo engaxhumani nabazali babo. Futhi, ukuba nalesi simo sesenzo esiqhubekayo emzimbeni, kuyaqabukela balale ngemuva kokuncelisa noma ukuncelisa ibhodlela, okungaholela ekudidekeni ukuthi ubisi alubondli.
Abamangali
Njengoba igama labo liphakamisa, yizingane nezingane ezifuna kakhulu. Kodwa yini ngempela? Ukunakekelwa akwanele ngabo kuphela, bafuna nokusabela kuwe kulokho abakwenzayo. Ngokuvamile bayizingane bafuna ukwamukelwa nguwe ezenzweni zabo. Bazokufuna futhi ukuze uthole ukuxhumana okuqhubekayo.
Uma ubancelisa, ngokuqinisekile bazothatha ukondliwa okuningi kakhulu noma bebadala.. Isibonelo, indodakazi yami eneminyaka engu-1 incelisa ibele umzuzu owodwa futhi ngemuva kwemizuzu emi-5 iza izofuna omunye umzuzu. Futhi-ke, izingalo zakho ngeke zanele futhi uzobe ufuna ukuthola owesithathu njengoba nakanjani kubadinga kakhulu kunezinye izingane nezingane zeminyaka efanayo. Abazi ukuthi bangazithulisa kanjani; Ama-Duels axazululwa kangcono ngabantu obathembayo, ngakho-ke ukubashiya benolaka futhi ungabasekeli kuzobalimaza.
Akuphumuli
Akufani namandla. Ingane noma ingane edingeka kakhulu, noma ngabe ikhathele kakhulu, izolala kabi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi nathi, njengabazali, sizophumula kabi. Akusebenzi ukugcina bezivalele ekamelweni labo phakathi kwemigoqo yombhede. Ukubayeka bakhale lapho bevuka ebusuku futhi bengakunaki ukukhala kwabo kuzoba isihogo esibi kakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Bazoba nezikhathi phakathi nosuku lapho bephonsa khona ukuthukuthela nokuthukuthela okuzoqondwa yibo kuphela. Ingqondo yabo isebenza ngokushesha okukhulu ekuvuthweni abanakho. Njengabazali, kufanele sikhombise ukuthi ngubani omdala futhi sibafundise ukuthi baqondise kanjani imizwa yabo (qaphela, kufanele ubayeke bazizwe bonke kodwa uhlale uhamba nabo).
Ukuzwela
Ngeke bayijwayele indawo engabenzi bazizwe bekhululekile; ngeke zivumelane nalokho abangakuthandi. Uma bezwa othile ephakamisa kakhulu amazwi abo, bazokhombisa ukusabela okweqile kakhulu kunezinye izingane. Ukuthintana nabo ngokomzimba kufanele kube nobuthakathaka kubo ngoba "isenzo esibi", njengokuthatha isandla sabo noma okunye okufana nalokho, kungadala ukukhala okuphelelwe yithemba.
Kuyashintsha
Namuhla kunento eyodwa esebenzayo ukumthulisa futhi kusasa lapho ingane noma ingane ikwenza akayeki ukukhononda noma ubukeka ethukuthele kakhulu. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi akulindelekile nakancane futhi abawuthandi umqondo wokulandela imizila ngokweqile. Badinga ukukhuthazwa Futhi uma sebazi vele ukuthi yini elandelayo, bazogcina sebenesithukuthezi futhi benganeliseki.
Uma unengane edingeka kakhulu, hlomani ngokubekezela. Lapho bekhula bazoqhubeka babe, kepha nsuku zonke unethuba elisha lokufunda kubo. Khumbula lokho abanankinga nokuthi ukukhathala oyozizwa kujwayelekile.