Uma uzizwa kanjalo izingane zakho zikwehlula nokuthi ungumama omubi ngakho, shiya lo mcabango. Njengoba izingane zethu zizalwa siphila inqubo eqhubekayo yokufunda nokuzivumelanisa nezimo, futhi lesi simo singakugcina sikukhungathekise kwesinye isikhathi. Kepha lokhu akukwenzi ube ngumama omubi, ukuthi akulula noma kudingekile ukufeza zonke izindima ezibekwa ngumphakathi.
Ukuba ngumama kuthinta ngendlela ongakaze uyicabange. Ukuhlala uzolile futhi uhlale uzolile futhi uqoqwe ngangokunokwenzeka kuthatha inqubo yakho. Noma kuhamba isikhathi, ungahle ungazizwa ukhululekile nge-100% ngempilo entsha. Siyethemba ukuthi laba amathiphu okukusiza ukujabulele ukuba ngumama ngendlela engcono ukwedlula manje.
Uma izingane zakho zikucindezela, thola izikhala zakho
Akunandaba ukuthi izingane zakho zineminyaka emingaki, noma emavikini ambalwa okuqala, kufanele uqhubeke uzinakekele. Siyazi ukuthi la magama kulula ukuwabhala, kodwa kunzima ukuwasebenzisa. Noma kunjalo, zama, thola izikhathi zokuphumula nokuphumula. Ngokuvamile, ukuba nenqubo eyisisekelo yansuku zonke nengane yakho kuzonisiza nobabili.
Uma unesikhathi samahhala, sisebenzise ngokunenzuzo. Khuluma nomlingani wakho ukuze ube nalesi sikhathi lapho ungagxila kuwe hhayi kukho konke onakho okulungiselela umntwana, noma ngabe awumnakekeli. Ungacabangi ukuthi uzicabangela wena ukhombisa izidingo zakho, izifiso zakho. Futhi zama ukuzenza. Zama ukwenza izinto ozithandayo, hhayi nje ezilungele ingane noma ingane.
I-athikili ku-New York Times ilandise ukuthi omama abasebenzayo balwa kanjani phakathi kwe icala yokuthi kufanele bashiye izingane zabo nabantu abagada izingane noma izikhungo zokugcina izingane futhi bangakwazi ukuzinakekela ngokwabo, ngesikhathi esifanayo lapho bezizwa bekhululekile khona ngokuzola kwezinye izindawo, bekhuluma nabantu abadala ... Lokhu kuphazamiseka kukhulu komama abahambayo .
Umama nemizwa engemihle
Ukuba ngumama kuvusa ukwazi. Kunjalo kakhulu evamile ukuzizwa ukhungathekile, nokuthi ngokuzumayo sifuna ukukhala ngamandla. Izikhathi eziningi, le mizwa ayixhumene ncamashi nezingane zethu, kepha ifana nesibangeli.
Mhlawumbe umehluko nophathina wethu, uma sinezinye izingane, nabo, kanye nomndeni wethu, kusiholela esimweni sengcindezi esisenza singathandi konke okusizungezile, kubandakanya nomsebenzi wethu njengomama. Sibona sengathi izingane zethu, nempilo yethu iyasihlula, futhi lokhu ingcindezi enkulu kangaka, asikwazi ukuthatha yonke into.
Ngasikhathi sinye lokhu kubangela amahloni, sizwa omama ababi, asiphenduli amamodeli abesifazane ezaziswa isiko. Asibona abesilisa abanothando, abalinganiselayo nabasebenza kanzima. Ungavumeli imiqondo yomphakathi ikweqe. Uma ungenzi kahle ngokuba ngumama, eminyakeni yezingane zakho, cela usizo, khuluma ngokwenzeka kuwe.
Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba lapho izingane zingaphezu kwamandla
Konke kusha ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, futhi ukucindezeleka kuvame ukuvela ekwesabeni, ukungaqiniseki, ukungazethembi, ukuba sengozini, ukushintsha kwamahomoni, konke lokhu nokuningi yi-cocktail okunzima ukuyiphatha. Ungakhathazeki ngokwanele, lezi zinto zivamile. Usuyijwayela le ndlela yokuphila entsha.
Abanye abesifazane banomuzwa wokuthi bahlulekile ngenxa nje yokuthi babelethayo okunokuphazamiseka okuthile. Ukucabanga njengoba bengekho esimeni sokuba ngumama. Khuluma nomlingani wakho noma abanye abantu abangakulalela futhi bakuqonde. Thembeka futhi ungazami ukufihla imizwa yakho yokukhungatheka noma yokweqisa. Akuwena wedwa oke waba nale mizwa.
Kulokhu kulahlekelwa ukuzethemba kungangezwa abanye bakutshele ukuthi uyinakekela kanjani ingane. Abakwenzi ngezinhloso ezimbi, kepha isikhathi esiningi lawa macebiso asinda kakhulu kunokuba asize. Ungathathi iseluleko sanoma ngubani njengesibalulekile. Hlaziya ubone ukuthi uyavuma yini nokuthi ucabanga ngempela ukuthi kungakuhle yini ukuthi ukusebenzise kumongo womndeni wakho. Ukulawula izinqumo zakho kuzoqinisa ukuzethemba kwakho.