Ukufika kwengane kusho isigaba sezinguquko eziningi okufanele uzivumelanise nazo. Omncane ufuna ukunakekelwa kwethu okuphelele futhi izidingo zabazali zihlala esihlalweni esingemuva. Izinkinga zomshado ngesikhathi sokuzalwa yinto ethinta imibhangqwana ebikade ibukeka ingabhomu.
Okungasebenza njengombhangqwana akudingeki ukwenze uma ungumzali. I- izingane ziwumthombo wengxoxo: kunezinqumo ezibaluleke kakhulu okufanele zenziwe, izindleko eziningi, ubumfihlo obuncane, ukukhathala okungaphezulu ... futhi kunzima kakhulu (noma kunalokho akunakwenzeka) ukuvumelana ngakho konke. Konke lokhu kudala ukungezwani okuningi kulezi zithandani.
Izinkinga zobudlelwano ngenxa yokuzalwa: ukuthi zibuthinta kanjani ngamunye
Yekani ukuba babili ukuze nibe bathathu. Izinto zishintsha kakhulu! Kufanele uvumelane nesimo futhi ulungise ubuhlobo bakho.
I-Las omama bakhathele ukulethwa kanye nezidingo zengane. Asikho isikhathi sokuhlela, konke kwenziwa endizeni. Ukulala, ukukhathala okuqoqiwe kanye nokuguqulwa kwamashejuli nakho akusizi. Omama abaningi bayavuma ukuthi banayo ukukhungatheka nokuhamba okuncane kulolu shintsho kubalingani babo.
Bacabanga ngomona ukuthi ofunda nabo bangaphila kanjani impilo "ejwayelekile": bangalala, babe nobudlelwano nabanye, baye ejimini,… ngenkathi benikela ngobusuku nezinsuku zabo endodaneni yabo. Abesifazane abaningi bayakuvuma lokho bazizwa benesizungu, bekhathele futhi bedumele.
I-Los amazambane Ngakolunye uhlangothi, bazizwa belahliwe ngemuva kokuzalwa, kuyilapho lonke uthando nokunaka kowesifazane kungengane. Bazizwa engaqondakali futhi enqatshiwe. Ambalwa kakhulu amadoda azovuma ukuthi anomona ngezingane zawo, kodwa iqiniso yilokho eliyikho. Impilo yezocansi, imizwa kanye nezithandani ithatha isihlalo sangemuva. Bazizwa bekhishwe eqenjini elisha lomama nengane.
Isisekelo esihle kakhulu ukuxhumana
Abesilisa nabesifazane babonakala bekhuluma izilimi ezahlukene. Sihlala sicabanga ukuthi siyathukuthela noma siphikisane ngoba enye inecala, njengempendulo hhayi isisusa. Sigxumela kowokuqala, siyafuna futhi asilaleli. Izithako ezintathu zomlilo oqinisekile ukudala ukungezwani okuhlafunayo.
Izinkinga zokuxhumana ziyanda ngokufika kwengane yokuqala. Izinkinga zobudlelwano zikhula njengomphumela wokuzalwa kwengane yokuqala. Ngalolu shintsho olubalulekile, i ukuxhumana kuyahlupheka. Ilungu ngalinye lombhangqwana liyabona ukuthi lenzani futhi lihlambalaza elinye, lisisole ebusweni balo. Uyeka ukusebenza njengeqembu ukuze abukeke njengezimbangi.
Amathiphu wokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bakho
- Konke kwenzeka: Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukubona ukuthi izinyanga zokuqala zokufika kwengane ziyakhathaza futhi ziyinselele, kepha zizodlula. Ingane ilala inyanga nenyanga, umama uzizwa elulama ngokwengeziwe, amashejuli aba ajwayelekile ...
- Ukusatshalaliswa komsebenzi wasekhaya: Angithandi ukusho ukuthi abazali kufanele basize. Ukusiza "ukwenza okuthile ngokuzidela komunye umuntu ukwenza lula umsebenzi wakhe." Umsebenzi wasendlini nokunakekela izingane kuyinto ebili, kumele kwabelwane ngayo. Futhi kunezinzuzo zombili ezingeni labashadikazi nakwezabantu ngabanye, ngoba ikholelwa ukuthi indoda izizwa ibandakanyeka kakhulu futhi ihlanganisiwe, futhi owesifazane akazizwa ekhungathekile futhi eyedwa enezibopho eziningi kangaka.
- Ukuxhaswa: Ukuzizwa usekelwa futhi usekelwa kungenza umehluko omkhulu. Kufanele nisebenze njengeqembu futhi, nibe munye. Ukufeza lokhu, inhloso ukubheka okwenziwa omunye, ukukhuluma kuqala ngezinto esivumelana ngazo ukwakha isimo sezulu sokubambisana, finyelela izivumelwano...
- Ukuziqhenya akukwenzi ukhuluphale: buqamama ngemuva kwengxabano kuhlala kunempi ebandayo yokuthi ngubani ozoba ngowokuqala ukusonta ingalo yakhe. Ukugwinya ukuziqhenya akukwenzi ukhuluphale, ngaphandle kokusondela akukho ukuqonda. Akusho ukuthi uvumelana naye, noma ukuthi awuvumelani naye. Kusho ukuthi ufuna ukuzulazula, bese ufika endaweni yokuhlangana. Lokho akukubi neze.
- Izikhathi zezithandani: Ngokufanelekile, lapho kuphela izinyanga ezinzima kunazo zonke sezidlulile, nikela ubusuku obubodwa ngenyanga kwabashadikazi. Ungathatha ithuba lokuya kumabhayisikobho, nibe nesidlo sasemini esinokuthula, nibukane emehlweni, nikhulume ngezihloko ezingezona izingane, nivuse inkanuko ... izikhathi njengezithandani ezidingeka kakhulu ukuzizwa futhi.
Amathiphu ezintweni okufanele uzigweme
- Akukho ukuthukwa: Uma ugxila kwezimfuno, ukuhlanjalazwa nokuthukwa, kunzima kakhulu ukuxhumana nokuzwiwa. Thola isikhashana sokuzola, ungakhulumi ushisayo. Phakade ukuzama ukungalimazi izinzwa futhi uhloniphe, uveze imibuzo yakho ukuthola isisombululo. Musa ukuletha izingqinamba ezedlule noma izinkinga zixazululwa. Gxila okwamanje esimeni sokubuyisana. Akukho kokuthi "uhlala njalo ..." noma "awusoze ...".
- Abantu ababhuli: uma ufuna okuthile, ungalindi omunye afunde ingqondo yakho. Lokhu kudala kuphela ukungezwani nentukuthelo. Uma udinga okuthile, kungcono ukucele.
- Engikwenzayo kuhlala kulungile: Uma kukhulunywa ngezingane, kubonakala sengathi sonke singochwepheshe futhi siwubukela phansi umbono womunye. Gwema izibuyekezo ezingezinhle "awunazi". Lokhu kudala ukwenqatshwa nokuqedwa. Ezimweni ezintsha kujwayelekile ukuthola amaphuzu wokubuka ahluke ngokuphelele. Umqondo uwukuthi khuluma, phikisana, hlonipha umbono womunye futhi uwazise. Kwesinye isikhathi kuzofanele unikezele futhi kwesinye isikhathi uzowina. Ukukhuluma abantu bayaqonda.
Ngoba khumbula ... zonke izigaba zokuphila ziyamangalisa, kepha yilokho. Isiteji.