Abazali sinochungechunge lwezibopho ezifana amandla nokunakekela izingane zethu. Alukho uvivinyo olusebenza kangcono ukwedlula zithande ukwenza yonke into nge-altruism ephelele futhi kukhona abazali abaningi abazi kahle ukuthi izibopho zethu zinjani.
Kodwa ngaphakathi kwalezi zibopho kunenombolo yemibandela engakasungulwa futhi esebenza njengomsebenzi oyinhloko imfundo enhle nokukhuliswa. Uma ungazi ukuthi bangaba yini, lapha siphawula ngezibaluleke kakhulu ukuze ukwazi ukufeza konke okuhle kakhulu kubo.
Ukukhombisa uthando olungenamibandela kuyisisekelo sakho konke
Abazali kufanele bakunikeze lokho uthando olungenamibandela futhi kufanele kube wamukelwe futhi fair. Ingane ezizwa ithandwa futhi ihlonishwa inomuzwa wokuthi noma yimiphi imithetho elawulwa ekhaya izuzisa yona. Izingane kufanele zikhule ngothando, ngenhlonipho futhi zijabulele ukuthandwa.
I-Spanish Civil Code ihlanganisa Isihloko VII - "Ebudlelwaneni bomzali nengane" lapho izibopho zikababa nengane yakhe zichazwa ngokucacile:
Izingane ezingakhululekile zingaphansi kwegunya labazali. Igunya labazali liyohlale lisetshenziswa ukuze kuzuze izingane, ngokuvumelana nobuntu bazo, kanye nenhlonipho ngobuqotho bazo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
La mandla ahlanganisa imisebenzi namandla alandelayo:
1. Babheke, bagcine bekanye nawe, bondle, bafundise futhi ubanikeze ukuqeqeshwa okuphelele.
2. Bamele futhi uphathe izimpahla zabo.
Uma izingane zinokwahlulela okwanele, kufanele zilalelwe ngaso sonke isikhathi ngaphambi kokwenza izinqumo ezizithintayo.
Abazali bangase, ekusebenziseni igunya labo, bafune usizo lwegunya.
Ngokufanayo izingane kufanele zilalele kuyilapho bengaphansi kwegunya labazali babo futhi belondoloza inhlonipho.
Nikeza ikhaya eliphephile
Izingane kufanele ukhule ngaphansi kwekhaya eliphephile futhi enempilo. Izingane kufanele zibe phakathi kwabazali bazo futhi kulokhu kufanele zibe nekheli elifanayo. Awukwazi miss ubukhona kanye into ebalulekile njengoba inkampani engokomzwelo neyengqondo, into abayobonga ngayo ukuphila kwabo konke.
Izinga lendawo yakho Kumele kube yinto ekhululekile kakhulu ukukwazi ukukhula ngaphandle kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwesithiyo futhi ukwazi ukudla ngendlela efanele. Kulokhu kufanele kwengezwe ukuhlonipha ukukhathazeka kwengane yakho, ubumfihlo bayo kanye nesikhathi sayo.
Ukubanakekela nokubavikela
Kungenye yezibopho ezinkulu. Izingane bayokwanela izintaba eziningi ukuze bafunde ukuthi ukuphila kungabanikezani futhi abazali bayoba khona ukuze babasize. Akukona mayelana nokuvikela ngokweqile, kodwa kuyabalungiselela noma iyiphi ingozi futhi bazi ukuthi bangabhekana kanjani nezinselele ezinkulu.
Qinisa ukuzethemba futhi unikeze amanani angcono kakhulu
Kusukela lapho beqala ukuqaphela ukuthi bangakwazi hlaziya konke okubazungezile nendlela yokwenza ngayo. Kufanele bazazise izisekelo zokuphila manje bazithande. Ngale nselelo nokunye okuningi, ukuzethemba kwabo kungaqiniswa, kuzoba isipho esingcono kakhulu sempilo yabo yonke. Ngaphezu kwakho konke lokhu, ungakwazi qinisa ngamavelu angcono kakhulu, inqobo nje uma zikhula zisuka endaweni ehloniphekile yomuntu ngamunye.
Qaphela ngesiyalo
Kuleli qophelo sihlanganyela ukuphilisana futhi ngenxa yalokhu kufanele hlinzeka ngochungechunge lwemithetho. Lapha kufanele uphathe isiyalo futhi uma kungenjalo siyagcwaliseka ulaka nezijeziso kuyofika. Njengoba bebhekene nazo zonke lezi zinselelo lapha, abazali bangenza izigilamkhuba, kodwa kufanele ulawule imithetho ukuze izingane zazi ukuthi zingabhekana kanjani nazo futhi zizilawule.
Ukuze ukhuliswe ngenhlonipho kufanele ube yisibonelo esihle somzali, akukho okudlula ukubeka isibonelo esihle kakhulu enganeni ekhuliswe ngokufana nathi. Ukuvikeleka kwethu futhi kungomunye wokhiye komunye wezibopho zethu, njalo ekhombisa usizo nesivikelo sethu.