Ukuze amantombazane abe nolwazi nobufakazi bokuthi kusho ukuthini ukufukulwa kwabesifazane, kubalulekile ukuqala ukubaphatha, nokukhuluma nabo kusukela ubudala bokuqala. Ngakho-ke bazohlanganisa ukuthi bangabaphathi bekusasa labo, ngokusebenzisa okhiye abanjengokuxhumana, ubuholi noma ukuxoxisana.
Le mibuzo ifundwa kubo bonke iziteshi zokuxhumana nabantu, umndeni, abangane, isikole, nomama, njengabantu besifazane sinendima ephambili. Akukho ukusetshenziswa kwetiyori mayelana nezinyathelo eziya ekulinganeni kwangempela kobulili, uma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi thina bomama singakhombisi lokhu kuziphatha futhi siqhubeke nokusabalalisa nokwamukela izindima ezisuselwa kuzinzalamizi ekhaya.
Ukufukulwa kwabesifazane nokuzethemba
Ukuthi uzichaza kanjani njengowesifazane futhi njengomama njengesifazane noma cha, i ukunika amandla abesifazane kudala ukuzethemba okungcono. Intombazane enokuzethemba okunempilo, ozithandayo futhi ozithandayo, owemukelayo futhi abone amandla akhe aphelele, uzoba ngowesifazane ozokhula ngokugcwele futhi, ngokunokwenzeka, ajabule kakhulu. Akukhona yini lokhu okufunayo njengomama?
Emncane kakhulu, kuze kube yiminyaka eyi-12 noma ngaphezulu, ubandlululo alukho neze. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi kule minyaka a ukuziphatha komphakathi okususelwa ekulinganeni nasekuhlonipheni ngakuwe nakwabanye. Ukugwema izindima zobulili.
Kubalulekile ukuthi amantombazane, njengabesifazane, akholelwe kusukela ebusheni ukuthi aphethe umhlaba ezandleni zawo. Akufanele bamukele ukulinganiselwa noma ukuthi amalungelo abo aphuliwe. Le nkululeko isho lokhu ukungafuneki ukuhlangabezana nokulindelwe noma amaphethini ezenhlalo, nokuthi uma efika ebusheni angaya ngaphandle kokwesaba emgwaqeni ... ngokwesibonelo.
Ukufukulwa kwabesifazane kanye nesibindi
UReshma Saujani ungumsunguli we Amantombazane Abhala Amakhodi, inhlangano engenzi nzuzo efuna ukuqeqesha abesifazane abasebasha emhlabeni wezobuchwepheshe. Kungenzeka uke wezwa eyakhe Inkulumo ye-TED ekufukuleni amantombazane. Uma kungenjalo, sincoma ukuthi uyibuke nendodakazi yakho futhi nixoxe ngayo. Ngiyakuqinisekisa ukuthi ngeke kumoshwe isikhathi.
Kule nkulumo, uReshma ugcizelela umbono wokuthi amantombazane amaningi afundiswa ukugwema ukwehluleka nengozi. Ngezibonelo ezahlukahlukene iReshma Saujani ikhombisa ukuthi indlela "Ukushoda kwesibindi" amantombazane athinta impilo yabo yonke, ekusebenzeni kwabo siqu nangobungcweti. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uCarol Dweck wenza ucwaningo lapho abona khona ukuthi abafana babhekana kanjani nomsebenzi onzima njengenselelo, kuyilapho amantombazane esheshe anikela. Ucwaningo luphetha, kungubufakazi bokuthi abantu besifazane bahlalisene nabantu ukuze balangazelele ukuphelela.
Ngakho-ke lapho ukhuluma nendodakazi yakho ngokufukulwa kwabesifazane, khumbula ukumfundisa ukuthi angaphelele, ukuba nesibindi, ukuqaphela ukudala nokungahlali ukhubazekile ngokwesaba ukwehluleka.
Ungawanika kanjani amandla amantombazane?
Sesikushilo ngenhla, into esemqoka ukuthi isibonelo abasibona kobaba bomama babo, futhi ikakhulukazi kubhekiswa ekufukulweni kwabesifazane kumama. Uzoba yisibuko azibheka kuso ngokungazi noma ngokungazi. Amantombazane afunda okuningi kokwenziwayo kunalokho okushiwo kubo.
Kusukela ebuntwaneni, ungalindi isikhathi sobusha, khuluma nabo, ubalalele futhi ubaphelezele lapho behamba. Musa ukwahlulela izintandokazi nezinqumo zabo, kumshukumise ukuze bahlale benakho konke okuhle kunabo bonke. Ukuthi uyayemukela imikhawulo yakhe, angafuni ukuphelela kuyo kanye nobukhazikhazi kuyo. Lapho sikhuluma ngokuphelela, nokuningi phakathi kwentsha, mfundise esemncane ukuthi isithombe sakhe somzimba akufanele sihlangabezane nanoma iyiphi imfuneko. Bonke abesifazane bahlukile futhi okusenza sibe yigugu, ubuhlakani, ubuntu.
Kukhuthaza ukuzimela kwabo, ukuthi abakaze bakungabaze lokho njengabesifazane abanakho ukulinganiselwa. Bangakwazi ukufeza lokho abazimisele ukukwenza ngaphandle kokuncika kunoma ngubani. Mtshele izindaba ngazo abesifazane besayensi, abasubathi, noma abaphumelele, abangahlali emiphakathini engalingani ngisho nangaphezulu kunalena yamanje.