Lapho izingane ziqala ukukhuluma ziyehluka kakhulu kuye ngengane. Njenganoma iyiphi enye ingqophamlando yokuziphendukela kwemvelo ngayinye inesigqi sayo. Abanye bangasho amagama abo okuqala ngaphambi konyaka, kanti abanye bangaba neminyaka emithathu ubudala futhi basho amagama ambalwa. Kungakho abazali bekhathazeke kakhulu ngokuthi bangakugqugquzela kanjani ukukhuluma ezinganeni, ikakhulukazi uma sekuyisikhathi sokuziyisa esikoleni.
Abazali bangadlala indima yokugqugquzela lo msebenzi ngendlela emnandi ezodala ukuzwana nokubambisana nabo. Lapha uzothola izeluleko ezisebenzayo zokukusiza ukukhuthaza izingane zakho ukuba zikhulume ngokunensa nangeziqu zazo.
Kusukela esiswini
Kuyafakazelwa ukuthi abantwana kusukela ngenyanga yesithupha uzwe izwi likamama ngokudlidliza umgogodla futhi uzwe imisindo evela ngaphandle. Ungaqala kusuka kulowo mzuzu ukhulume naye, umtshele izinto ozenzayo nokuthi ukujabulele kangakanani ukuba naye.
Kusukela ekuzalweni kuye ezinyangeni ezintathu
Ukufika kulo mhlaba kungacindezela ngenxa yolwazi oluningi abalutholayo. Bayidlulisa ngokukhala. Kulokhu kuxhumana kokuqala ungakhuluma naye ngobumnene (indlebe yakhe ibucayi kakhulu) futhi umbheke emehlweni ukuze uthole oxhumana naye. Ungakwazi faka izandla zabo ezincane emlonyeni wakho noma entanyeni yakho ukuze bezwe ukudlidlizela lapho bekhuluma.
Kusuka ezinyangeni ezi-3 kuye kwezi-6
Kulesi sigaba uba nobungane ngokwengeziwe, akubheke, akhulume kakhudlwana, abhebhe futhi aqale ukuhleka.
Ungakwazi lingisa ukukhuluma kwabo futhi umtshele umuzwa ngamagama, khuluma naye kusuka ezindaweni ezahlukahlukene ukuze aphendukele lapho ukhona (ukuze baxhumane nokuzwa nokubona) futhi njengoba eseqala hlola umhlaba mnike izinto azisebenzisayo futhi akhulume naye ngaye.
Kusuka ezinyangeni ezi-6 kuye kwezi-9
Cishe ezinyangeni eziyi-9 sezivele zihlobana nemvelo yazo ngokugigiyela nokubhuza. Baqala ukufanisa imisindo, futhi yize bengakakwazi ukukhuluma okwamanje vele uyakuqonda. Kulesi sigaba ungamkhombisa izithombe bese uziqamba amagama, ukhulume naye, imidlalo ye-cause-effect exhumanayo (uma uyithinta izwakala, uma ucindezela inkinobho bayakhuluma…).
Kusuka ezinyangeni ezi-9 kuye kwezi-12
Kulesi sigaba ufunda okuthile okusha nsuku zonke. Bangavele baqambe izinto ngohlamvu lwamagama, futhi babona izinto ezisetshenziswa ngokujwayelekile (i-pacifier, ibhodlela ...). Esikhathini esihle sokuzifundisa ubuhle besandla obunemvumelwano (isibonelo, izimpisi ezinhlanu), ukuvalelisa, mfundise ukulingisa imisindo (izilwane, izimoto ...). Kuhle indawo enothe ngezinto ezithile kodwa ngaphandle kokukhungatheka.
Kusuka eminyakeni emibili kuya kwemithathu
Ngemuva kwezinyanga zokuqonda, kuza i- isigaba senkulumo. Cishe unyaka baqala ukusho amagama abo okuqala, bese baqala ukuxhumana ngolimi lwabo. Ungaxhumana kalula nabo. Sizokushiyela izeluleko zalokho okufanele ukwenze nokungafanele ukwenze:
Amathiphu Wokukhuthaza Inkulumo Ezinganeni
- Khuluma nabo: khuluma ngezinsuku zabo zansuku zonke (kubo nsuku zonke ukutholakala), ngemisebenzi yabo nangalokho abakubonile namuhla, abakhulume nabo ... futhi ubabuze imibuzo ethile ngemininingwane yokubakhuthaza ukuba baziveze. Vele, lokho akuyona into eyodwa. Isifiso sakho sokukhuluma sivela ekufuneni ukuxhumana nathi. Uma bezwa ukuthi abavunyelwe ukukhuluma ngeke benze mzamo.
- Mfundele izindaba: umzuzwana wokusebenzisana nengane yakho nayo ezomsiza ukuthi ahlole umhlaba. Ungashintsha iphimbo lobuntu ukuze likwenze kube mnandi futhi ungafundi njalo ngokufanayo. Ngemuva kwesikhashana bagcina bekwazi ngekhanda, singama kancane ukuthi ingane iqhubeke nendaba noma imnikeze umkhondo. Ngale ndlela uzozijwayeza amagama amasha.
- Imidlalo yamagama: imidlalo elula ngokolwazi lwakho ukuze uqambe izinto ezisendaweni ethile. Izingane zifunda ngokushesha ngenkathi udlala. Ukufaka amagama amasha, bahlebele endlebeni yakhe ukuze awaphinde.
- Mqondise ngokungaqondile: Uma esho igama elingalungile, uphendulwa ngegama elishiwo kahle kodwa ngaphandle kokumtshela ukuthi ukhulume kabi. Isibonelo uma ingane ithi “umfana” njalo uma ibona imoto yamaphoyisa ithi “Yebo, yimoto yamaphoyisa”.
- Bakhuthaze ukuthi bakhulume ocingweni: njengoba bengakwazi ukuveza imizwa yabo ngenye indlela, akukho okunye abangakwenza ngaphandle kokukhuluma ukuxhumana. Uma ubona ukuthi ukhungathekile ungamsiza.
- Ncoma impumelelo yabo: ukuhalalisela ngempumelelo yakhe encane, kuzomnika ukuzethemba nokuphepha, futhi uzofuna ukufunda kabanzi.
Amathiphu wokuthi yini ongayenzi
- Ungamniki ulimi lwakhe lokuthinta: izingane eziningi zixhumana nokushukuma komzimba ngoba kulula kakhulu kuzo. Uma akhomba i-pacifier, ithoyizi, ungambuzi ukuthi uyayifuna yini. Ake azame ukuveza imizwa yakhe ukumkhuthaza ukuthi akhulume. Hlonipha izikhathi zabo.
- Ungakuhlukumezi ukusetshenziswa kocingo, ithelevishini nethebhulethi: ubuchwepheshe buhle kodwa ngendlela elawulwayo. Ngalezi zindlela bathola imininingwane eminingi kepha ngendlela engenzi lutho, futhi bavame ukusetshenziswa ngabazali ukubenza bathule futhi bazole. Okufanelekile, kusukela emncane kakhulu, bakhuthaze ukuba bafunde ukuze bavuse imicabango yabo nobuchule.
- Ungasebenzisi ulimi lwakhe naye: Kuhlekisa njengoba kungazwakala, ungasebenzisi ulimi lwabo noma ngeke kuqhubeke. Khuluma naye ngolimi olulula kodwa olufanele ngokweminyaka yakhe. Izingane zilingisa abadala bazo, futhi lapho ungalindelanga, ulimi lwabo luzothuthuka.
- Ungaphenduli esikhundleni salokho: Lokhu kwenziwa kakhulu ngabazali, umuntu omdala ubabuza okuthile bese thina siphendula esikhundleni salokho. Mnike isikhathi futhi uma engasho lutho, khona-ke akwenzeki lutho.
Futhi ngalezi zeluleko, abazali bangazizwa benelisekile ngokubandakanyeka futhi basizwa ukuthuthukisa ulimi ezinganeni zethu ngendlela engokwemvelo, ngaphandle kwengcindezi nangokuqonda okuningi.
Ngoba khumbula ... ingane ngayinye ihlukile futhi iyamangalisa. Masigweme ukuqhathanisa!