Kwesinye isikhathi ukubhekana nokuthukuthela kwezingane kunzima. Futhi ukuthi akekho umuntu ositshela ukuthi sifundisa kanjani izingane, senza konke okusemandleni ethu. Kepha ezikhathini eziningi asazi ukuthi senzeni esimweni nokuthi singabhekana kanjani nengxabano nezingane zethu. Ake siqale ngezilula, ukuthi imaphi amaphutha ayisisekelo okungafanele siwenze.
Ngokombono wethu njengomama, sifuna ukuvikela izingane zethu. Futhi izikhathi eziningi sicabanga ukuthi enye indlela yokubavikela iwukubaxwayisa ngokuthi bazokwenza iphutha futhi bafuna ukukugwema. Ku Madres Hoy Sichaza ukuthi kungani izingane kufanele zenze amaphutha.
Njengomama sifuna konke okuhle ezinganeni zethu. Emashumini eminyaka amuva nje imodeli yomndeni ishintshile, ngaphandle kwenkinga sibeka imali eningi ekufundiseni izingane zethu kunakuqala. Iningi lomama nobaba bacabanga ukuthi lapho imfundo yezingane zabo iphakama, kukhuphuka nezinga labo emphakathini.
Futhi ukuthi sidlala indima ebalulekile ekuthambekeni, kumagugu nakumakhono izingane zethu ezinakho, yingakho sikhathazeka kakhulu futhi kudala ukungavikeleki okukhulu nosizi. Kepha, Awucabangi ukuthi kufanele zifunde zodwa ukwenza amaphutha futhi zilungise?
Uhlangothi oluhle lwezingane ezenza amaphutha
Ochwepheshe be-psychology kanye ne-pedagogy bachaza ukuthi uma thina omama nobaba siguqula okulindelwe esinakho ezinganeni zethu, lokhu kuzosisiza ukuthi sigweme izimo zengcindezi nosizi, kokubili kubazali nasezinganeni. Ake ngichaze, uma esikhundleni sokucabanga ukwenza yonke into ngokulungile, singacabanga ukungakwenzi ngokungalungile, futhi sigweme lawo maphutha angalimaza kakhulu futhi abe yingozi ekufundiseni izingane zethu. Kuhle ukuthi bayawenza amaphutha ngoba:
- Kufanele funda ukubona amaphutha akho. Ngoba ungamxwayisa kepha akukho okufana nesipiliyoni sakho sokwazi ukuthi ungabona kanjani uma wenze iphutha.
- Bazokwazi ukukhungatheka. Ungase ucabange ukuthi kuyahlanya kepha ngokukhungatheka kufana nakho sifunda ukulawula imizwa yethu.
- Bazofunda ukuthola izixazululo. Iqiniso lokubona ukuthi basebenze kanjani alisebenzanga lizobakhuthaza ukuthi bafune ezinye izindlela. Bazoba ngabantu abathatha izinqumo ngokwengeziwe. Ngenkathi uma "umsindisa" ekwenzeni amaphutha, bazokwamukela umuntu ozohlala eza ukuxazulula izinkinga. Njengamanje bancane futhi kungabonakala kufanelekile kuwe, inkinga ukuthi abancane bakho ngelinye ilanga bayoba ngabantu abadala futhi kuzodingeka bazitholele izixazululo zabo futhi ngeke bazi ukuthi bazokwenza kanjani ngoba abakaze basibone isidingo sokwenza it.
- Bazozizwa bethandwa kakhulu. Yebo, njengokungajwayelekile kuwe, ukubenza bathole indlela yabo futhi kungabi nguwe oqhubeka uyimaka kuzobenza bakubone njengosekela futhi bazizwe bethandwa kakhulu.
Leli phuzu lokugcina libalulekile. Kufanele ube ngumqondisi wabo, ukwesekwa kwabo, hhayi lowo obenzela izinqumo. Futhi noma ngabe ubona noma ucabanga ukuthi bazokwenza iphutha, ungabasoli, qhubeka ubanikeze ukusekelwa, uthole ukwethenjwa kwabo ... Ngoba usuku okuzokwenzeka ngalo okubi kubo, bazokwethemba ngokuphelele. Ngiyethemba ukuthandile lokhu okuthunyelwe.