Isigaba sobusha iqala kusukela eminyakeni eyi-10 ezinganeni eziningi, yize kwezinye kungabambezeleka. Ukuze kuchazwe kanjalo, uchungechunge lokuziphatha futhi izinguquko zomzimba nezengqondo. Konke lokhu kuzoqala leyo nkathi futhi kuzoqala lapho leso sigaba sobuntwana sinqotshwa.
Esikhathini sobusha singahlukanisa uchungechunge lwezikhathi eziphetha sithuthuka kanjani lesi sigaba. Ngenkathi sazi ukuthi ingane eyeve eshumini nambili ingaqondakala phakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 nengu-17 ubudala, futhi umfana oseneminyaka eyi-18, noma ngabe eba mdala, uzohlala enesimo sobusha.
Ngabe ukuthomba kusencane kunjani?
Yileso sigaba lapho ukuthomba kuyaqala nalapho izingane zithola izinguquko eziningi. Mhlawumbe ushintsho luqala ngoshintsho lwakho lokuqonda futhi nezinguquko zomzimba ziza kamuva, noma okuphambene nalokho. Okucacayo wukuthi lapho imizimba yabo baqala ukuzwa ushintsho lwabo konke okunye kuvela ngendlela efanele.
Iziphi izinguquko ababhekana nazo ebusheni? Ngokuvamile izinguquko emzimbeni, ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo aqala aphakathi kweminyaka engu-13 no-15. Amantombazane aqala ngokuya esikhathini noma ukuya esikhathini, anokwanda kwamabele awo nokunwetshwa kwezinqulu. Abafana baqala ukuletha ushintsho emasendeni abo nasemthonjeni futhi bahlakulele imisipha eminingi kakhulu. Phakathi kwazo zonke lezi zinguquko kuqondana ne- ukwanda kwesiqu, ekushintsheni kwephunga lomzimba, ekwakhiweni kwezinduna nabafana imnatha ivela emphinjeni nasekukhuleni kwezinwele zobuso.
Izinguquko zengqondo zibalulekile futhi. Baqala ukuzwa ushintsho kwimizwa yabo, lapho abanye beqala ukudala ukuhlubuka. Abanye bangaba ayizinzile, ayiqondakali futhi bangahlukaniswa. Bazizwa bephoqelekile ukwenza izinqumo nezibopho yingakho kukhula ukungafani nabantu abadala kanye nomndeni. Uthando noma uthando luvela ngenye indlela kakhulu ezithinta inkanuko futhi baqala ukuba nothando lweplato.
Ubusha obuphakathi
Intsha iyaqhubeka nokukhula futhi abesifazane baqala ukuba nezikhathi ezijwayelekile. Bangene isigaba esiphakathi kweminyaka engu-14 no-17 ubudala. Baqhubeka nokuba nezinguquko zomzimba futhi baqala ukubambana nobunjalo babo bobulili. Baqala ukuhlola imizimba yabo futhi bafune ukusondelana nothando.
Ingqondo yakho ilokhu iguquka futhi ikhula futhi lokho kuwumzabalazo oqhubekayo kubo. Ama-lobes angaphambili obuchopho bakho awokugcina ukuvuthwa futhi yiwona anenhlanganisela nezinqumo zokuthatha izinqumo. Ngakho-ke, ingenye yezingxenye ezenza intsha igqoke umzabalazo oqhubekayo nemvelo yawo futhi uxabane nabazali bakho.
Banekhono lokukwenza cabanga ngokungaqondakali, kodwa abakwazi ukusebenzisa imithwalo yabo yemfanelo ngoba becabanga ukuthi ababalulekile kakhulu. Kusukela eminyakeni engu-18 kuya phambili lezi zingane sebekuqedile ukukhula kwabo. Sebevele belawula izinkanuko zabo kakhulu futhi bayazi ukuthi bangazenza kanjani izinqumo ezibalulekile ezingaholeli ekuziphatheni okungafanele.
Umuntu osemusha ukhula nini njengomuntu onokwethenjelwa?
Ebusheni laba bafana baziwa njengo abantu abadala asebevele benesibopho ngezenzo zabo, kepha kunokungezwani okuningi ngalolu hlobo lwemibono. Uma kuliqiniso ukuthi kwesinye sezigaba zayo ezisezingeni eliphakeme kakhulu kungenzeka ukuthi bavele bahola amagama athile, njenge abantu abanesibopho, abahlulekayo futhi lokho kubusa kangcono isimo sabo somzwelo. Kepha ngenkathi bengena ebusheni kusesekude ukuthi bahambe yonke le migomo.
Osemusha angase athwale umthwalo wakhe omncane lapho sebeneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-25 ubudala, Okwamanje kuneminyaka lapho kufanele akwenzele lokho kukhuphuka futhi kufanele anakekelwe futhi anakekelwe ngothando. Ezimweni eziningi lowo mfana akaguquki ngokufanele ngoba ukuxhumana kwakhe nomndeni akuvumeli futhi lokho kuthinta inqubekela phambili yabo engokwengqondo. Ukuvikelwa ngokweqile kungenye yezinto ezibambezela le nqubekela phambili, kukhulisa ubusha babo kakhulu.