Uthando olungenamibandela lungenye yemiqondo ethandwa kakhulu okwamanje, kukhona uhlobo lwenganekwane oluzungezile. Kubukeka sengathi uthando olungenamibandela, noma izinkolelo zalo, yiyona kusebenza kuphela, futhi konke okunye kunhlanhlatha kule modeli ekahle.
Ngokwesiko Uthando lukamama, kusukela endodaneni kuye kumama, kanye nolo lukamama ezinganeni zakhe, kubhekwe njengokungenamibandela bese ubeka njengesibonelo. Kungakho sifuna ukuchaza ukuthi lo mqondo uqukethe ini, ngokwengqondo.
Umqondo nencazelo yothando olungenamibandela
Uthando olungenamibandela, kumqondo walo, yi indlela yothando esetshenziswa ngaphandle kwemibandela. Womabili amaqembu ayayisebenzisa ngaphandle kokuba kube nenzuzo ebonakalayo, ngale kwesipiliyoni sothando uqobo. Uma singahlala kule ncazelo kuphela, le ndlela yokuthanda, njengoba ingaphindiselwa, futhi lokho kungacelwa ngothando olungenamibandela, ijwayele ukudala ukuhlupheka.
Singachaza futhi uthando olungenamibandela njenge umuzwa nesenzo sokufuna okuhle komunye umuntu ngaphezu kwazo zonke izinto. Akunandaba nemiphumela. Lolu thando luchazwa futhi ngomqondo wamaGrikhi we-agape.
Kepha ngale kwenganekwane kanye nomqondo kufanele sazi, njengabomama, lokho uthando lomama ukufundela umsebenzi. Kuyinto a umkhuba oqhubekayo futhi singakubheka njengothando lweqiniso, yize kulokhu kufanele sibheke futhi sihlele kabusha eminye imibono ngothando.
Eminye imihlahlandlela nemibono ngothando olungenamibandela
Uthando malungabi nemibandela, uma sifuna ukulubiza kanjalo akusho ukuthi uthando oluyimpumputhe. Kungumsebenzi wesikhathi eside ngakho-ke uthando ngamehlo avuleke kakhulu. Ngalo mqondo, isimo semibandela sisho ukuthi a isenzo Ngaphezu komuzwa. Ukufuna okuhle kothandekayo, kulokhu indodana noma indodakazi yethu. ngukuthi senza uchungechunge lwezenzo. Lezi zenzo zingaba nemiphumela emihle noma emibi, kepha umsuka wazo uthando.
iso! ngoba ngaphansi kwale ilebula yothando olungenamibandela ingafihla i- ukuvikelwa nokulawulwa kwamandla enjalo ngezingane ukuthi iba ngundlovukayiphikiswa omncane. Obaba nomama bayazinakekela izingane zabo kungakhathalekile ukuthi bayakwazisa noma cha.
Kwesinye isikhathi ngaphansi kothando olungenamibandela bayacasha amandla engqondo nawokuhlobana ezimweni eziningi ayingozi. Ukwazi ukuthi ungakuthola kanjani ukulinganisela okuhle phakathi kokunakekela othandekayo nokugcina ubuqotho bakho kubalulekile ekugcineni inhlalakahle yomndeni, kanye nobudlelwano bomzali nengane. Sifuna ukuncoma okudala ngale ndlela, incwadi ethi The Art of Loving ebhalwe ngu-Erich Fromm.
Uthando lukamama, uthando olungenamibandela
Siqambe igama lakho ngokuthi incwadi kaFromm Ubuciko bokuthanda, ngoba kuye uphatha uthando lukamama, njengothando olungenamibandela ngokwemvelo yalo. Isazi sefilosofi sithi lokho omama bathanda izingane ezisanda kuzalwa ngokuba yizingane zabo, hhayi ngoba ingane ihlangabezana nanoma yisiphi isidingo esithile, noma ihlangabezana nokulindelwe okuthile. Umbhali uphinde acacise ukuthi ubhekisa othandweni lohlobo olufanele, okungasho ukuthi bonke omama bathanda ngale ndlela.
Kusuka ohlangothini lwengane, uthando olungenamibandela yi- ukulangazelela ngokujulile yanoma yimuphi umuntu. Awudingi ukwenza noma yiluphi uhlobo lokufaneleka ukuze ufanele uthando lwabazali. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuyisifiso, ngoba izingane eziningi nentsha izizwa ingavikelekile ngobuqiniso bothando lukamama. Besaba ukuthi lolu thando luzophela uma okulindelwe kungafezeki.
UFromm uthi yingakho sinamathele uthando lukamama, ebuntwaneni nasebudaleni. Uthando lukamama lwakha umuzwa wenjabulo nokungabikho kwalo umuzwa wokuphelelwa yithemba nokushiywa. Umama uthanda izingane zakhe hhayi ngoba zilungile noma zilalela, noma ngoba zihlangabezana nezilindelo zakhe, kodwa ngoba nje zingabantwana bakhe.