Nini indodana iyakuzwisa ubuhlungu futhi ufuna ukwesekwa okungcono kakhulu, ungahlala uthola isihloko okunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nakho. Imibono namaqiniso athathiweyo angahluka kakhulu futhi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuhlola isimo ukumunca yonke imikhuba edingekayo bese uhlola isimo. okungcono kakhulu engasebenza.
Ngempela, ukuhlupheka ingane engakunika yona ngenxa yomphumela wakho uhlobo lwemfundo etshaliwe? Noma izingane zingaba nobuthi futhi zazi ukuthi ziphathwa kanjani futhi zama ukucekela phansi umuntu?
Lapho umama ezwa ubuhlungu
Umama ehlushwa yikho konke okwenzeka eduze kwakhe, ekugcineni yinto leyo izingane ziyaqaphela endaweni noma ngabe awufuni kangakanani ukwenza kwaziwe. Ekugcineni, ingane ehlushwa ukuhlupheka kukamama nayo iyokhula inalobo buhlungu. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bangase bakholelwe ukuthi baphansi kunabanye noma ukuthi abajabule njengabanye. Ingane ezizwa ngale ndlela ine ukuzethemba okuphansi futhi ngeke balwele ukufeza izinhloso zabo.
Omama abaningi baphuthuma yamukele indima kamama ngaphandle kokucabangela imiphumela, futhi nakuba bakwenza ngalo lonke uthando emhlabeni, kubabiza kakhulu ukuzithoba endaweni ebagcwalisa ngokucindezeleka.
Kufanele uhlole ukuthi ungumama obani kwenza indodakazi yakho noma indodana yakho ihlupheke ingazi, ngoba uma ucabanga ukuthi uhlupheka ngakho konke okukuzungezile, ekugcineni ukhulisa ingane ngomgomo omubi.
Siyakuqonda lokho Kunezikhathi ezibuhlungu njengokushoda kwezomnotho, izinkinga ezingokomzimba noma ezingokwengqondo izingane ezingaba nazo, noma ngisho nokwehluleka ukufeza izifiso ezithile futhi zigcine zikhungathekile. Uma siqhubeka sizilimaza kanjalo ekwazi ukudlulisa ubuhlungu.
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Omama abaningi ngesikhathi sabo sokubeletha bagcine sebezizwa njengezigqila nasenkonzweni yalolu hlobo lwesibopho. Bazinikela kulolu hlobo lwesiyalo kangangokuthi bakhohlwa ukunakekela impilo yakho yengqondo noma inhlalakahle engokomzwelo.
Bahambisa amakhono abo njengomama Amahora angama-24 ngosuku ngaphandle kokuphumula, uhlale elalele inkonzo yezingane zakhe noma wonke amalungu endlu, uma ephuma endlini akasuke eyojabulela ukuphumula, kodwa uyothenga izinto zendlu noma uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi. Ekupheleni lezi zinhlobo zabesifazane azizizwa zifanelekile, hhayi ukunqoba ngokomuntu siqu, noma ngokomsebenzi.
Indlela yokunakekela impilo yengqondo
Ekugcineni umama ocindezelwe noma ozidela ngokweqile Ungawela ekucindezelekeni. Ukufika kuleli zinga kungamenza alimaze wonke umndeni, ngoba uwumgogodla womndeni.
Ngokuvamile, omama abanalolu hlobo lokuhlupheka nabo bamukele ukusondelana okukhulu nezingane zabo. Nakuba ezizwa, akufanele umenze akholelwe ukuthi ingane yakho iyohlale iyingxenye yakho, ungamenzi esabe ukuthi uzokhula akushiye. Asikho isidingo sokuzizwa noma ukwenza leli phuzu lizwakale.
Kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi uwakhiphe lawo mandla ngaphakathi, lwela njengomama nesisebenzi, yiba nesibindi, ulungiselele noma yimuphi umcimbi. Futhi-ke, dlulisa injabulo, ukubonga, wazisa yonke into ngethemba, thola inhlalakahle... uma konke kuhlangana kancane kancane, wonke umuntu ekugcineni sidlulisa iculo elifanayo.
Ngokuphambene, uma kuyindodana edlulisa i-narcissism lokho kuchitha ukuba khona kwawo wonke umuntu oseduze kwakho, mhlawumbe kufanele uyeke ukuzithoba futhi uthathe indima yokuba ngumama okungadingeki ukuthi ahlupheke, kodwa kunalokho ube negunya.
Kufanele uzimise futhi uqale beka izindinganiso eziqiniledlulisa ukuzethemba. Ingane kufanele iphendule kahle futhi ihambisane nemithetho, uma lolu hlobo lwesinyathelo lungasizi ngalutho, mhlawumbe kuzodingeka ukuthi cela usizo lwezengqondo. Ngalolu hlobo losizo uzolufuna aqede ukuhlupheka futhi afune ezinye izindlela ezintsha, ngaphezu kokukwazi ukulungisa yonke iminyaka eye yahlupheka ngaphambili.