Ngiboleka amagama kumngane wami uMarie Thepaut, kusuka kwisethulo sakhe kubhalansi ye-Work-life emcimbini we-eWoman: "Isimo sedijithali, isihluthulelo sokufeza ukulingana." Lapho abesifazane aba-5 abaphumelele emkhakheni wabo behlangana khona, bakhulume ngokulingana nangebhalansi yempilo yomsebenzi.
UMarie ukusho lokho Esinye sezihluthulelo zokufeza ibhalansi yempilo yokuphila yangempela kumama ukubambisana. Lokhu kubalulekile ukuthi umama akwazi ukusebenza phesheya, noma ngabe usesikhundleni esiphezulu, abelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo maqondana nokunakekelwa kwezingane.
Buyini ubunceku?
Akukona okungaphezulu noma okuncane, kunokwabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo ephathelene nezingane. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi asisoze sayeka ukuba ngomama babo. Kuzoba nezinto okungekho muntu ongasenzela zona, njengokuzincelisa. Noma kunjalo, sidinga umuntu ozosisiza sithwale umthwalo wokukhulisa ingane.
Lo msebenzi awugcini endizeni yezomnotho, ngoba sikhuluma ngokulinganisela kwempilo yomsebenzi. Kungenzeka ukuthi uhole ngaphezu komlingani wakho futhi awudingi. Esikhundleni salokho, ukuthi uma ingane yakho kufanele iye kudokotela, kukhona umuntu ongayinakekela ngenkathi usebenza, uma kungenzeka ungaphuthelwa isikhundla sakho.
Olunye ukhiye wokubuyisana
La ukuguquguquka kwamashejuli, ukuzisebenza noma i-telework, sinikeze amathuba ahlukahlukene angaziwa kuze kube manje. Akusadingeki ukuthi ube nohlelo oluhleliwe, lapho kufanele uhambe nsuku zonke, uzenzele inqubo. Kunemisebenzi lapho ungavumelana khona ngohlelo lwakho nomphathi wakho noma osebenza nabo, uvumelanise nezibopho zakho njengomama.
Kukhona ngisho nokwenzeka kokusebenza ekhaya, ukwazi ukusebenzisa isikhathi esisele ngemisebenzi yasendlini noma umsebenzi kanyoko ukuqhubekisela phambili umsebenzi. Ngaphandle kokukhohlwa lokho noma yiluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi owenzayo luzodinga ukubambisana omunye umzali noma umuntu okhetha ukunakekela izingane zakho ungekho.
Indima yezinkampani ekubuyisaneni komndeni
Okwamanje, zimbalwa izinkampani ezithatha isinqumo sokuqasha abesifazane. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ngokwesiko bahlala benikezwa umthwalo ophelele nezingane zabo. Akekho umuntu ozibuza ukuthi umphathi omkhulu noma umthuthi uyabaphuthelwa yini phakathi nohambo lwabo olude. Kodwa abaqashi abaningi bacabanga ukuthi uma umsebenzi ekhulelwa, kuzofanele athathe ikhefu lokuyobeletha. Bakholelwa ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuzobe kungasebenzi kahle ngokuba nemithwalo yemfanelo yomama. Bambalwa ababonakala bekhumbula ukuthi amadoda nawo anikezwa ikhefu lobaba nokuthi banezibopho ezinganeni zabo.
Okunye ukuqasha okukhokhelwayo ukuzimela. Ngokwesibonelo, kukhona omama abanquma ukuqala ibhizinisi elisha ekhaya. Njengoba sesishilo, ngifuna izikhala phakathi kwezibopho zakhe njengomama, sizilungise komunye nomunye. Impela, ukulinganisa umsebenzi kanye nesibopho somama, ngoba zombili zibalulekile ezinganeni zethu.
Ukubaluleka kokubuyisana komsebenzi nokuba ngumama
Ukubuyisana akuyona into elula, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi izingane zakho zikubone usebenza. Kuphilile kakhulu kubo ukuthi bakhule benesibonelo sikamama osebenzayo ekhaya naphesheya. Ngalokho qonda, ngesibonelo, ukuthi kufanele usebenze kanzima nsuku zonke ukuze uzuze konke empilweni.
Impumelelo ngeke iwe esibhakabhakeni futhi ngalokho badinga ukubona ukuthi umama wabo ubakhombisa nsuku zonke ukuthi benzeni ukuze bakufinyelele. Akukhathalekile ukuthi umsebenzi wakho ungumphathi omkhulu noma uhlanza isikole, impumelelo ayikho ngalokho. Uhlala ukhetha ukuthi iyini impumelelo yakho, ngoba mhlawumbe impumelelo yakho enkulu ukuba neshejuli ekuvumela ukuthi ubone izingane zakho amahora adingekayo.
Lokho kuyisihluthulelo sangempela sokubuyisana komndeni nomsebenzi. Kuphela Kuyindaba yokufuna umsebenzi ohambelana kangcono nezidingo zakho, izinhloso nezimo zakho. Ukwazi isidingo sokumboza imithwalo yemfanelo nezingane zakho, sebenza futhi nemigomo yakho yangasese.
Umama naye ungumama omncane ngokuba namaphupho, ukufuna ukuba ngumuntu nokufeza izinhloso zakhe. Yonke ingane idinga umama obakhuthazayo ukuthi benze lokho kanye. Shumayela ngesibonelo.