Mhlawumbe isihloko salesi sihloko singakumangaza, futhi mhlawumbe awukwazi lokho la ukwehluka ngokocansi isivele idlalwa ezikhungweni eziningi zemfundo ngaphakathi koqeqesho. Ngokuvamile, izihloko ezihlanganisiwe ezobulili, ezihlobene ngqo nokungabekezelelani ngokobulili, izinkomba zobulili, ubunikazi bobulili kanye ne-LGTBIphobias.
Iminyaka lapho lezi zihloko zivame ukuxoxwa ngazo ekilasini kusuka ebangeni lesi-5 kuya esikoleni esiphakeme, yize othisha bezwiswa noma kufanele baziswe kakade ezinganeni.
Ukwehluka ngokocansi kubafana namantombazane
Kungenzeka ukuthi ingane yakho eneminyaka emine isivele ikutshele ukuthi ithanda umfana, noma intombazane yakho ukuthi iyayithanda intombi. Asifuni ukungena empikiswaneni ngokuthi uzalwe noma uba yisitabane, kepha sifuna lo mbuzo ubuzwe ngoba kuzodingeka ubhekane nakho. Abafana namantombazane besebancane abanayo indlela yokuziphatha ngokocansi abazi, kepha banakho usho okuncamelayo.
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ziqinisekisa ukuthi ekuqaleni, lapho lezo zingane zibona ukuthi zinezintandokazi ezihlukile kuningi, kunjalo uwuphike lo mehluko. Abanye nabanye bakuthatha njengesimo sesikhashana (futhi kungaba njalo). Isinyathelo esilandelayo i-bagpipe nokuphikisana nawe ngokwamukela. Lesi yisikhathi esibalulekile lapho umndeni nokuziphatha kwabo kokwala noma ukwamukela kubalulekile.
Uma abafana namantombazane befundiswa ukuhlonipha nokwamukela ukwehluka ngokocansi, futhi uma abazali beqonda futhi bazi leli qiniso, umphakathi uzokwabelana futhi wamukele kangcono, futhi ngenhlonipho eyengeziwe, labo bantu abanokuthambekela kwezocansi ngaphandle kobungqingili. Ubungqingili yinto ejwayelekile, kepha cishe abantu abayi-3 kuya ku-5% bomhlaba wonke bakhangwa abantu bobulili obufanayo noma kubo bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane.
Ukushintshana ngocansi kwezingane, kukhona futhi kufanele ukhulume ngakho
Kunabantu abancane abathi, besebancane kakhulu, bakhombise okwabo ukungavumelani nobulili abakubo ngokwemvelo, nokuzizwa ngokocansi. Ngakho-ke kuyinqubo ebalulekile lapho umfana noma intombazane ifuna umzimba ngokobunikazi bayo. Ufuna ukwamukelwa njengomuntu wobulili ozizwa ungowakho. Ngokusho kochwepheshe, izimpawu zivame ukuvela phakathi kwe- Uneminyaka engu-2 no-3 ubudala. Kukuleso sikhathi lapho abafana namantombazane beqala ukuthuthukisa ubuwena.
Ezinye zezimpawu ezivame kakhulu ukwenzeka yilezi ukwenqaba uhlobo lokuphathwa kwalo. Bazwakalisa ukungavumelani kwabo ngokumemezela ngokuqondile ukuthi bangumfana noma intombazane, noma ngokwamukela igama lowesifazane noma lowesilisa emidlalweni yabo. Ezimweni eziningi baphikelela ekutheni babizwe kanjalo. Kujwayelekile nokuthi bafuna ukugqoka izingubo zobulili obuhlukile.
Abafana namantombazane amaTransgender abavamisile ukungena emaqenjini amakhulu, yingakho ukuzihlukanisaNoma, ungahle ukhululeke ngokwengeziwe nabangani bobulili obukhomba kubo.
Ngezingane ezi-transsexual nentsha, ayikho inqubo elandelwayo esunguliwe. Kukhona labo abadinga ukwelashwa ngama-hormonal ukuze bazizwe kahle, kepha kukhona nalabo abangakudingi. Icala ngalinye lihlukile kumuntu.
Amathiphu emindeni nasezikoleni
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali nezingane zakwabo zomfana noma zentombazane ezibonisa ukwehluka kwabo ngokocansi, futhi abakhangwa abantu bobulili obufanayo, bakuthole lokhu okuvamile. Ngakho-ke umfana noma intombazane ngeke bahlushwe ukwenqatshwa kumbuthano wabo osondele kakhulu futhi obaluleke kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho uzozizwa kuqinisiwe phambi kofunda nabo kanye nothisha.
Kuhle ukukunikeza izinkomba labantu abanalolu hlobo lokuthambekela ngokocansi, ukuze ungazizwa wehluke kakhulu. Isikhungo semfundo nabazali bangathembela ekusekelweni ngochwepheshe, kepha akuyona inkinga yomfana noma intombazane ethandana nobungqingili, kepha kunalokho ukwenza kube lula ukwamukelwa kwabo emphakathini omningi wobungqingili.
Ku-inthanethi nasemitatsheni yolwazi uzobe usuthole izincwajana ezisiza ukubhekana nalolu daba oluyinkimbinkimbi, ngokweminyaka yamadodana namadodakazi akho.