Izilo ngaphansi kombhede, umbani nokuduma, ubumnyama. Bonke abafana banokwesaba, kungaba ngezinto zangempela noma ezicatshangwayo. Futhi njengoba bekhula, kanjalo nokukhathazeka kwabo. Ingabe abafana beqembu lebhola bazongithanda? Ngabe ngizokwenza kahle esivivinyweni kusasa? Iningi labazali liyakwazi ukududuza izingane zabo futhi linciphise ukwesaba, kepha kwezinye izimo ukukhathazeka kuyeka ukuba yinto ejwayelekile bese kuba yinkinga.
Ingane ayifuni ukudla ngoba isaba ukuklinya; omunye wesaba izilwane; intombazane yenqaba ukuya esikoleni ngoba isaba ukuba kude nonina usuku lonke. Ngenhlanhla, kunezindlela eziningi abazali abangasiza ngazo izingane zabo ukulawula ukukhathazeka.
"Ukukhathazeka kuyingxenye yenqubo yokukhula nokuvuthwa," kusho uMarie Cumming, owelapha umshado nomndeni waseWaterloo, eCanada. “Kujwayelekile futhi kuyimpilo ukuthi izingane zikhathazeke kancane, ngoba ngalokhu zithola izikhali ezidingekayo zokubhekana nezinselelo zempilo. Ukwesaba ngaphambi kokudlala emdlalweni wesikole noma ngaphambi kokwenza isivivinyo esibalulekile kukhuthaza izingane ukuthi zisebenze kanzima futhi zenze konke okusemandleni. "
Izinkathazo ezincane zisiza ukwakha uhlamvu ezinganeni futhi zibeke nezinselelo ezingafunda kuzo. Kukhona nokukhathazeka okuthi, esikhundleni sokubanikeza inselelo, bakhathazeke. Ingane enokukhathazeka okunjalo ayikwazi ukubhekana nalokho kwesabayo; ngokwesibonelo, ifindo esiswini sakho likuvimbela ukuba uphume emotweni ngaphambi nje komdlalo webhola lezinyawo. Izingane ezinalolu hlobo lokukhathazeka zidinga usizo olungaphezulu kunezinye (futhi mhlawumbe nodokotela wengqondo). Okungajwayelekile kakhulu ukukhathazeka ngokweqile, okuvimbela izingane ukuthi zisebenze ngokujwayelekile, njengengane esaba ukungcola kangangokuba igeze izandla zayo kaningi zilandelana. Lezi zingane zidinga ukwelashwa ngamandla kwengqondo futhi zivame ukuthatha imishanguzo.
Ngesikhathi esemncane, u-Amanda Sprague * wanamathela kubazali bakhe eduze kwabantu angabazi, walala umnyango uvulekile futhi ihholo likhanya, futhi wethuka izinambuzane. Abazali bakhe babecabanga ukuthi, eminyakeni yakhe yobudala, akukho kulokhu okwakungajwayelekile. ULaura, * umama wakhe, uthi: "Kodwa lapho eqala ukuya esikoleni, usizi lwakhe lwanda futhi lwakhula. Lapho kufika isiphepho, ingane yayisonga embhedeni, ikhubazeke ngokwesaba, futhi lapho ibona amaphela amabili ophahleni lwegumbi layo, yaphuma imemeza futhi yenqaba ukulala lapho futhi.
Ukudla nakho kwamenza wakhathazeka kakhulu, njengoba umcabango wokuminyaniswa wawumethusa. Lapho eneminyaka eyisishiyagalombili ubudala, ngolunye usuku wayeka ukudla. "Uthe akakwazanga ukugwinya nokuthi kunokuthile okubhajwe emphinjeni wakhe," kusho uLaura. "Udokotela wethu wenqabile ukuthi angenwe yigciwane, kanti i-X-ray ikhombisile ukuthi ubengenakho ukugula emzimbeni."
U-Amanda wayesebunzimeni obukhulu kangangokuba umphimbo wakhe wawuvale, wamvimbela ukuba agwinye.
Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva, u-Amanda waba nokwesaba okungenampilo kokufa. Ngesikhathi sokulala, wayekhala kakhulu ngoba wezwa inhliziyo yakhe ishaya kakhulu. Wabe esengeniswa esibhedlela, lapho athola khona ukuthi unesifo sokukhathazeka esijwayelekile. Wayekhathazeke kakhulu ukuthi umphimbo wakhe uvalekile, wamvimbela ukuba agwinye.
Udaba luka-Amanda lweqise, kodwa luyisibonelo senkinga enkulu izingane eziningi nentsha ebhekana nayo namuhla. Yize zingekho izibalo ezisemthethweni, kulinganiselwa ukuthi abafana abaphakathi kweminyaka engu-8 no-10 abaneminyaka ephakathi kuka-5 no-17 banenkinga yokukhathazeka njengo-Amanda. Abanye banezinkinga zokukhathazeka ngokulingene.
Izingane zivame ukuhlupheka buthule ngoba zingaqondi ukuthi kwenzekani kuzo noma zingakwazi ukuchaza imizwa yazo. Ngokwengxenye yabo, abazali bangakushaya indiva ukukhathazeka kwezingane zabo, banciphise, noma bazichaze kabi izimpawu, njengoba izingane ziveza ukukhathazeka ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene; ngokwesibonelo, ukukhombisa amahloni ngokweqile, ukucasuka kanye nokuhlubuka.
“Ukuthola inkinga kubalulekile. Ukukhathazeka okungapheli kungaholela ekutheni ungazethembi, ungazethembi, udangele, ube nobunzima ekwakheni ubudlelwano obuhle, futhi uze uzibulale, ”kusho uBarbara Ward, usonhlalonhle futhi ongumqondisi-ndawonye we-kidsLink, isikhungo sezempilo sezingane esiseSaint Agatha.
Ukukhathazeka okungavamile ngesikhathi sobuntwana kwandisa amathuba okuphazamiseka ngokomzwelo nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa empilweni yabantu abadala.
Iyaqhubeka Ngokwesaba Izingane (Ingxenye II)
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Kuhle ngiyakutshela ukuthi intombazanyana yami eneminyaka emithathu ubudala ibingafuni ukudla izinsuku ezimbili ngoba yesaba ukuminca, njalo lapho sikusa ukudla emlonyeni wayo ikhala ngokulangazelela futhi nangaphezulu uma iqinile njengokuncane irayisi noma i-noodle. Empeleni, lokhu kuyangikhathaza ngoba ubehlale edla kahle kakhulu futhi ezinsukwini ezimbili ezedlule ubengakadli, ngiyesaba ukuthi uzogula noma okubi kakhulu kuzokwenzeka; Ngiyacela ukuthi ungiqondise maqondana nalokhu bese uphendula i-imeyili yami. Ngiyabonga.
Indodana yami ineminyaka engu-8 futhi amasonto amathathu yenqabile ukulala egumbini layo, noma ngabe simtshelani noma siyichazelani, umane athi ufuna ukuba segumbini elilodwa nami nomyeni wami, uze waveza nokuthi ufuna ngimbeke embhedeni wakhe egumbini lethu, zonke izimpikiswano zami seziphelile.
Sawubona Yacky!
Uma ulale ekamelweni lakho ngaphandle kwezinkinga ngaphambili, kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona okwenzekile kuwe ongasafuni ukulala wedwa. Zama ukuthola ukuthi uke waba nephupho elibi yini, ingane imesabise ngokuthile noma ngabe uke wavuka ebusuku ubonile ukuthi uya ocansini unganakile. Umsindo owenziwa lapho kwenziwa ucansi kwesinye isikhathi udida izingane futhi bacabanga ukuthi ubaba ulimaza umama, ngakho-ke bayazama ukumvikela ngokuqinisekisa ukuthi akuphindeki futhi bavuka ebusuku, ngomsindo omncane nje abazobona ukuthi yini noma bezama ukulala egumbini elilodwa.
Phendula ngokucaphuna
Sawubona NGIKHATHAZEKILE TEMGO UMFANA ONEMINYAKA EYESITHATHU OPHELE IZINSUKU EZINTATHU SEKUDLULE NGEMUVA KWESIQEPHU AHLASELWA NGAKHO UKUDLA, NGABE NGITHOLA KAKHULU UKUTHI AKADLI LUTHO. UFUNA KUPHELA UKUGUQULA UBISI KANYE NEZINYE IZINDAWO ZOKUPHILA ZE-LIQUID, NGICELA UKUTHI ANGAZI UKUTHI UNGASENZA KANJANI NOMA SEKOMILE, KUDONYA UKUDLA OKUNCANE. NGANGIZAMA NGOKUDLA KUQALA NGAMBONISE UKUTHI AKWENZEKI LUTHO, NGABE NGIMBONISA ATHI UKUTHI UMA EDA INKULUMBUSO NEZINXENYE WANGIQHUBEKELA ICHIQUITAS NGOKWENZEKA, NGOKWANGEMPELA UKUTHI NGABE NGIYINTOMBAZANE, KWENZEKA NGAYO KIMI NOKUNQOBA NGOSIZO LWENGQONDO, KODWA ANGIFUNI UKUTHI FIKELE KULO NGICELA UKUTHI NGIDINGA USIZO OLUNZIMA NGILIMALE KAKHULU NGALOKHU KANYE NOKUTHI ANGAZI UKUTHI NGINGAYisingatha KANJANI, NGOBA ANGIDINGI INSELELE NGOBA NGIYAZI UKUTHI UZIZWA KANJANI, KODWA ANGEKE NGIMVUMELE YEDWA UKUTHI SELUYEDWA YEDWA, NGIYABONGA NGIDINGA IMPENDULO ENGAPHEZULU.
Sawubona Analia,
Mhlawumbe indlela engcono kakhulu yokumenza anqobe ukwesaba ukuqala phansi ngokudla kwakhe, okusho ukuthi, buyela emuva kuma-purees bese ukhulisa ukwakheka kancane kancane uze ufinyelele izingcezu futhi. Kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke, bekezela kakhulu futhi uyidedele kancane kancane, uzobona ukuthi iyinqoba kanjani; )
Phendula ngokucaphuna
Sawubona, ngikhathazeke kakhulu ukuthi nginendodana eneminyaka engu-9 ubudala eklingene nokudla ngoJanuwari, kusukela ngalowo mzuzu wesaba, akafuni ukudla inyama enethambo, ngokuhamba kosuku ucabanga ukuthi noma yini kungenzeka ukuthi ifakwe emlonyeni wakhe ukuminyanisa, uhlala azi ukuthi kukhona okuthile emphinjeni wakhe. ngingayisiza kanjani
Indlela engcono yokumsiza wukuphinde umtshele ukudla, ngokubekezela futhi umkhombise ukuthi uma edla ngomoya ophansi futhi ehlafuna kahle, akukho okumele kwenzeke kuye. Ukudla ungakuletha izingcezu ezincane okwesikhashana bese ukukhulisa kancane kancane, okokuqala ungakuphoqi futhi, uma ubona kudingekile, ungaya kosizo lwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Unenhlanhla! 😉
Sawubona, ngifisa ungisize, ndodana yami, kusukela eminyakeni engu-3, idla into efanayo (idla inyama yenyama, amasoseji aluhlaza, amakhekhe amazambane, inkukhu enemifino, namasobho erayisi) futhi ayifuni ukuzama okusha izinto, kwesinye isikhathi usevele abe nesithukuthezi ngokudla okufanayo Kodwa akafuni ukuzama manje uneminyaka engu-6 futhi ngiyesaba ukuthi wagula selokhu angena esikoleni samabanga aphansi futhi angazi ukuthi ngimupheni ukuzilibazisa , lapho ngifuna ukumnika okusha uthi akafuni bese eqala ukuhlanza amemeze ukukhala ngize ngingakuvumeli
Ngokuthula futhi lapho siphuma singena emgwaqeni angazi ukuthi ngizomnikani ngoba azikho izinto azithandayo, yini engingayenza ukuze indodana yami idle izinto ezintsha, ngicela ungisize, ngoba ngisho I-Quesadilla noma i-ham noma ikhekhe leqanda nge-ham kuyadliwa, USIZO
Sawubona, nginomfana oneminyaka engu-8 kanti ngolunye usuku waklinya iqabunga eliluhlaza manje usesaba ukudla agwinye futhi akafuni nokudla noma yini, angenzani?
Sawubona, NGINENDODAKAZI YAMI EYINEMINYAKA EMithathu EYIMINYAKA EYI-3 YEDLULA KANYE IZINSUKU EZIMBALWA EDLULE WABHEKA KWISINKWA SESINKWA ESIMHOKELELA UKUKHUTHAZA KANYE NASO SONKE ISIKHATHI AZIKHOMBELE ISINYE ISIZATHU ESINIKA UKWESABA KAKHULU AKUFUNI UKUDLA KUPHELA UKUPHUZA UBISI NGOKUTSHINTSHA KANYE UZAMA IZINTO ZONKE UKUTHI BAZIDLE BADLE FUTHI KODWA ANGIKUTHOLANGA NGIKHATHAZEKE KAKHULU FUTHI ANGAZI UKUTHI NGENZENI NGIKHULEKELA OWAYENENKULUNKULU LOKHU ANALOKUHLANGANISWA NGAKHO ANQOTSHWE NAYE NDODANA UKUNGELULEKA UKUTHI NGINGAYISIZA KANJANI INDODAKAZI yami