Ngandlela thile kufanele ube ngumuntu onobubele wokuthola ingane. Ikakhulukazi ezimweni ezithile ezifana nalezo eziphakanyiswe yimindeni esingethe. Bangabantu abakhetheke kakhulu, abazimisele ukunikeza uthando nokunakekela bazi ukuthi, kungekudala noma nini, leyo ngane izosuka kubo itholele umndeni wayo. Okwamanje, le mindeni ibakhulisa njengeyabo, ibanike uthando nokulungisa. Uyazibuza mhlawumbe ungaba kanjani ngumama nomondli, njengobaba owamukela umfana omncane ongenathemba ...
Kunendwangu eningi okufanele uyisike ukuze uzinikeze yona njengomndeni wokutholwa. Bathola izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka engu-18 ubudala, ngenxa yezimo zomndeni wabo, abasesimweni sokusizwa. Noma ukuthi sebehlukanisiwe nemindeni yabo abadabuka kuyo. Kungukugcina ukuphepha kwabo noma ngoba belahliwe. Umhlaba wokutholwa uvezwa ngemiphetho eminingi futhi phakathi kwawo ifayili le- omama abangabondli Kuyindlela ethile lapho usondela enganeni futhi uyibheke.
Yini omama bokutholwa
Ngenhloso yokuvikela abancane, imindeni yokutholwa iyazalwa. Noma ngabe basesimweni sokulahlwa, sengozini noma uma behlukanisiwe namakhaya abo ngenxa yezimo ezithile, imvamisa kuxhunyaniswa nodlame. Umphakathi ngamunye we-Autonomous waseSpain unohlelo lokuphatha lomphakathi. Lokhu kuhlelela inethiwekhi yemindeni ezimisele ukwamukela laba abancane futhi ibanakekele isikhathi esithile.
Lezi omama abangabondli banikela ngokunakekela nokunakekela laba bantwana okwesikhashana. Kwezinye izimo, izingane zibuyela emindenini yazo ngemuva kokuxazululwa kwezinkinga zomndeni. Kwabanye, bahlala nemindeni yokutholwa kuze kube yilapho isigaba sokugcina sokutholwa siphothulwa ngumndeni osohlelweni lokutholwa.
¿Ungaba kanjani umama okhulisa ingane okungesiyona eyakho? Ukuze wenze lokhu, kufanele uhlangabezane nezimfuneko ezithile. Labo abanentshisekelo -yikuphi bangaba futhi ngabazali- kufanele abe ngaphezu kweminyaka engama-25 ubudala futhi okungenani abe neminyaka eyi-14 ubudala kunengane yokutholwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kumele bawasebenzise ngokugcwele amalungelo abo omphakathi. Endabeni yokunakekelwa kwabantu abangabodwa kubantu abangaphezu koyedwa, kuvunyelwe kuphela uma bengabashadile noma abalingani abazinzile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ezinye izidingo ezinjengokuba nesimo esilinganiselayo se-affective, ukuba nesikhathi nokuba nesimo sengqondo sokuguquguquka kwezemfundo kanye nemvelo yomndeni ebumbene kuyahlolwa.
Faka isicelo sokuba ngumzali wokutholwa
Uma unesithakazelo ku- ube ngumama omondlayo noma umndeni osingethe futhi unezidingo ezifanele, kufanele uye kubandla lomphakathi elibhekele umphakathi wakho ukuyocela isicelo. Uzongena ohlelweni lokubhalisa bese kufanele udlule kwinqubo yokuhlola nokukhethwa. Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukwenza izikhathi zokuqeqesha. Ekugcineni, umndeni noma umuntu uyakhethwa kanye nomncane. Uma amukela, ubudlelwano buqala ngosizo lwezinsizakusebenza ezingokwengqondo nabasebenzi abafanele.
Uma ufuna ube ngumama omondlayoKufanele wazi ukuthi kunezinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokwamukela:
- Isimo esiphuthumayo nokuxilongwa: kuvumela osemncane ukuthi ahlale nomndeni ngenkathi isimo somntwana sifundwa, esenzelwe izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka eyisithupha.
- Isikhathi esifushane: ukwamukela iminyaka emibili kwabancane ukuthi babuyele emndenini wabo wokuqala.
- Isikhathi eside: ukunakekelwa kwabantu abangabodwana isikhathi esingaphezu kweminyaka emibili ngenkathi umndeni wendabuko uxazulula izinkinga zawo.
- Amaholide nangezimpelasonto: ezinganeni ezingaphezu kweminyaka eyi-9 ezisezindaweni zokuhlala futhi ezidinga ukujabulela isimo somndeni.
- Isenzo sezemfundo: sabantwana abanezidingo ezikhethekile zemfundo, izifo ezingamahlalakhona kanye / noma ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha kanye namaqembu ezelamani.
- Unomphela: lapho ukushiywa kuqondile futhi ukunakekelwa kwabakhulisa izingane ngaphambi kokutholwa kungathathwa njengokuhle.
Amalungelo engane afaka ukuthi yonke ingane inelungelo lokukhulisa imindeni nokuthi uMbuso kufanele uyiqinisekise. Lokhu kusungulwa ku-athikili 19.1 yoMhlangano Wezizwe Ezihlangene we-1989 kanye noMthethosisekelo VI weSimemezelo Samalungelo Engane.