Le yibhulogi lapho abahleli bengabesifazane, sibhala ngezinkinga ezihlobene nokuba ngumama, ubuntwana, imfundo, ezempilo ...; Uma sikhuluma ngezibhedlela zabakhulelwe, ngicabanga ukuthi akunakuphikwa ukuthi kufanele futhi sikhulume ngobaba, ngenxa yezizathu eziningi. Ngicabanga ukuthi okugqame kakhulu kungaba ukuthi ukukhuliswa nokufundiswa kwezingane kuyindaba YABABILI (ngokungabikho kwemiphakathi emikhulu); nokuthi siletha phambili abafana namantombazane abazokwakha umphakathi wakusasa; kimi akukho ukungabaza.
Kusobala nakimi ukuthi kufanele sikhulume udaba olunezihloko ezifana nokuthi "udlame lobulili"; hhayi kuphela ngoba eyamanje, futhi ngoba obaba abaningi nomama abaningi bafuna ukuhlala emphakathini ongenalo udlame: Futhi kungani ungasho njalo? Baningi abesifazane nabesilisa abaningi abangafuni ukulifulathela leli qiniso ukuthi kufanele kubhekwane nalokhu ukukhishwa. Kusukela ngo-1997 udlame lobulili lwaqala ukubonakala eSpain (ngaphambi kokuba luhlukunyezwe buthule ngabalingisi balo) sesibulewe NGAPHEZU KWABESIFAZANE ABAYINKULUNGWANE; okuthunyelwe okuhlukahlukene kuma-blogs nakuma-social network kukhombisa ukuthi lesi sibalo siphezulu kunezisulu ze-ETA kuwo wonke umlando waso. Zonke izisulu, hhayi kuphela labo abalahlekelwa yimiphefumulo yabo ezenzweni ezinobudlova, kepha nemindeni yabo, kufanele inhlonipho yami, kepha ukuphathwa kwabezindaba, ezenhlalo nezombusazwe ngodlame lobulili akufani nakwezinye izimo. Kepha namhlanje sizothola ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwabesifazane kunama-nuances amaningi kunalokho okucabangayo, funda futhi uzobona.
Phambilini, ngithanda ukusho ukuthi selokhu kwaqala ukwenziwa kabusha kwePenal Code entsha kulo nyaka, "Ubulili" bufakwa njengento ebhebhethekisayo (i-athikili 22.4), ukuze kungabekwa amacala ngamacala abhekene nokuphila, ukuphathwa kabi, kanye nasekhaya. Ngisho ngalokhu ukuthi yize ukusabela ekuvikeleni nasekwelapheni udlame lobulili, kushiyeka kungathandeki, uma intuthuko encane ibonakala yaziswa.
Kulezi zinsuku siphila (yebo, siphila ngoba kufanele kube yisibopho sokuzibeka endaweni yabathintekile, imindeni yabo) ngolaka njengoba abesifazane nezingane bebulawa ngodlame. Ukugqugquzela kuyadingeka, futhi nokuvikela; kepha izisulu azigcini kulabo besifazane abangaphezu kuka-1000 abalahlekelwe yimpilo yabo. Ngo-2014, kwakukhona izikhalazo zansuku zonke ezingama-347, Futhi uyazi ukuthi bangaki abesifazane abahlushwa lolu dlame? Yebo, ngokuya ngemininingwane evela eMnyangweni Wezangaphakathi (uhlelo lweVioGén) kunamacala angu-374.503 esewonke, phakathi kwe-Active, Inactive, Waiting and Discharges. Lolu lwazi ngilutholile e-Observatory of Violence.
Udlame Lobulili: inkinga enhlobonhlobo
Kusengukubonakaliswa okucacile okucacile kokungalingani, kanye nobudlelwano bamandla / ukubusa kwabesilisa phezu kwabesifazane. Ngo-1980 kwasungulwa ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwabesifazane kuyicala elithuliswe kakhulu emhlabeni.
Manje yebo: anginayo inhlonipho ngokukhombisa lolo Dlame Lobulili kufaka phakathi "ubudlova" kwesinye isikhathi esingabuqondi kahle; kukhona ochwepheshe abaningi abavela emikhakheni ehlukene, nabantu abaningi abangaziwa, labo abeza (beza) beyigxeka. Ngibhekisa ukukuchazela UMnyango Wezobulungiswa kanye ne-Argentina. Izindlela zokubonisa lolu dlame yilezi:
- Ezasekhaya: lapho isithunzi, inhlalakahle, umzimba, ingqondo, ezocansi, ezomnotho noma ezomnotho zobuqotho zonakaliswa.
- Isikhungo: lapho kubambezeleka, kuvimbela noma kuvimbela abesifazane ekutholeni ukufinyelela kuzinqubomgomo zomphakathi nasekusebenziseni amalungelo.
- Ezabasebenzi: ukucwaswa emsebenzini kungaphezu kokwazi, ngaphandle kokuqhubeka, bangaki abesifazane abenza imisebenzi efanayo neyendoda ethola amaholo aphansi?
- Ngokumelene nenkululeko yokuzala
- I-Obstetric: yilokho okusetshenziswa ngabasebenzi bezempilo emzimbeni nasezinqubeni zokuzala zabesifazane; futhi kuvezwa ekwelashweni okwenziwe ubuntu, ukuhlukunyezwa kokwelashwa nokwelashwa kwezinqubo zemvelo.
- Abezindaba: siyitolikela ekushicilelweni noma ekusabalalisweni kwemiyalezo nezithombe ezinomqondo ongakhuthaza ukuxhashazwa kwabantu besifazane noma izithombe zabo. Iphinde ibhekise emthethweni wezindlela zokuzala zokungalingani kanye nezimbangela zodlame.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lesi sithombe esivela ku-Amnesty International siyichaza kahle INDLELA yalolu dlame: kwesinye isikhathi siyabonakala, kwesinye isikhathi asibonakali; futhi akwenziwa ngokusobala ngaso sonke isikhathi
Noma yisiphi isisulu sodlame lobulili sihlangabezana nemiphumela yako, ngezinga elikhulu noma elincane; kuzoncika ebuntwini nasisekelweni salowo ohlukunyeziwe. Kwezinye izimo ubudlova buyancishiswa, noma bunqatshelwe, buvunyelwe; kodwa okubi kakhulu imiphumela yengqondo (ingasaphathwa eyezinto ezisobala ezingokomzimba) njengokucindezeleka, ingcindezi, intukuthelo, ubunzima ekusunguleni ubudlelwano obunempilo phakathi kwabantu, ukungabethembi abanye abantu, kwesinye isikhathi kusetshenziswa izinto zokulutha (utshwala noma ezinye izidakamizwa).
Ngokwami, ngiyenqaba ukwenza noma yiluphi uhlobo lodlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane, ngoba ngingowesifazane, umama, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke ngingumuntu, futhi ngifuna umphakathi lapho amalungu alo akha ubudlelwano obulinganayo, futhi lokho kuvikela (empeleni) abasengozini enkulu.
Sawubona, uqinisile, ngicabanga nokuthi kufanele kube nokulingana okukhulu, futhi ezinyangeni ezisanda kwedlula, ngenxa yomsebenzi wami, ngazile izimo ezinobudlova phakathi kwezithandani (nakuzo zombili izinhlangothi) ezingenza ngicabange ngodlame njengenani elingalungile umphakathi uthathe izintambo, nokuthi kufanele sikuqede nya. Ngicabanga futhi okuningi ngokuhambisana, angisacabangi ngezinzuzo ezilethwa yinye noma enye, kepha mayelana nokukwazi ukuhlala ndawonye ekuxazululeni izingxabano ngokuthula.
Siyabonga ngokuphawula.