Ngokuqhelekileyo ngabantwana abangenakuphumla, abakhutheleyo abangathandi ukuzithoba, abanexesha elibi kakhulu lokuthobela imithetho ethile.
Ngokusebenzisa i-reverse psychology kunye nabantwana, sibafumana ukuba benze okuchaseneyo ngokubacela into, kanye le nto besifuna ukuba bayenze ukususela kumzuzu wokuqala. Ngezantsi uya kufumanisa indlela yokusebenzisa obu buchule kunye nabancinci endlwini.
Yintoni i-reverse psychology?
Phantse akukho mntu uthanda ukuxelelwa ukuba zenziwa ntoni na kwaye njani. Into eyalelweyo yeyona inomtsalane. Abantwana nabo abakuthandi ukuphathwa ngabaphathi, kwaye banokubonisa isimo sengqondo sendelelo. kwaye bajongane nabazali babo okanye abanye abantu abadala. Bavame ukungazinzi, abantwana abakhutheleyo abangathandi ukuzithoba, abanobunzima bokuthobela imithetho ethile.
Xa kungekho enye indlela esebenzayo ukwenza umntwana athobele, umntu uziva ediniwe ziingxabano kunye umsindo, ungasebenzisa oku ubuchule bangoku be-behaviorist, eyenziwe yingcali yengqondo uViktor Frankl. Ukuba umntwana uyala ukwenza oko kuceliwe kuye, kunokwenzeka ukuba alandele izithintelo kwaye akaphulaphuli izizathu, ukusebenzisa i-psychology eguqukayo kunokuba luncedo.
Le nkqubo ijoliswe ukuba nefuthe kwindlela umntwana aziphatha ngayo ngendlela esempilweni. Into ozakuyenza kukuxelela umntwana ukuba enze ngokuchaseneyo nale ufuna ayenze. Le yinto enobunzima ngandlel’ ithile, ngoko ke kufuneka yenziwe ngendlela efanelekileyo, ecingisiswe kakuhle nangendlela efaniswayo ukuze ingabi namveliso emntwaneni.
Abachasi ngokuchasene nobu buchule bengqondo
Phakathi kwabo bakholelwa ukuba le ndlela ayimlimazi umntwana, abanye, kuquka neengcali zengqondo, abawamkeli. Ngamanye amaxesha banokuqwalasela ukusetyenziswa kwayo, nangona kunjalo, ukusetyenziswa kwayo rhoqo akuthandi ukukhula kakuhle komntwana. Okunye ukukhohlisa kunokubonwa kwindlela yokuqhuba, ekubeni umntwana ekholelwa ukuba uzenzela isigqibo, yaye ngokwenene ngabazali bakhe okanye abantu abamnyamekelayo abamkhokelela ekubeni enze eso sigqibo.
Iingcali zempilo yengqondo zilumkisa oko Ukusetyenziswa rhoqo kobu buchule kunokuvelisa uloyiko, ukungakhuseleki, okuphantsi ukuzithemba kunye nokuzicingela. Kwezinye iimeko kucingelwa ukuba xa umntwana evuma ukwenza into ebengayifuni ngokwenene, akubangelwa kukuba umntu omdala ekufezile, kungenxa yokuba ngokwenene umntwana akakhathali, okanye ngaphakathi engaphikisani kangako. Ngokwenene zizimvo ezizimeleyo.
Kwiimeko ezithile, kwaye njengendlela yokugqibela, njengaxa emva kokuzama ukungaphumeleli ukuba adle okanye ahlambe, akavumelani, ukusetyenziswa kobu buchule kunokusebenza njengeqabane, nangona kunjalo, Kukho iimbono ezicinga ukuba i Libertad womntwana ukuba abe nguye kwaye enze izigqibo zakhe kwimiba ethile.
Ungasifaka njani i-reverse psychology?
Abantwana abakufumanisa kunzima ukuthobela baya kuxelelwa ukuba benze ngokuchaseneyo noko ufuna bakwenze.
I-Reverse psychology isebenza ngenxa yokunganyangeki ngokwasengqondweni, oko kukuthi, ukuzibonakalisa ukuba unokwenza izinto ngokwakho. Umntwana ofuna ukuzivocavoca kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, xa ethintelwe okanye enyanzelekile ukuba enze into ethile, kufuneka wenze okuchaseneyo ukuze uzibonakalise wena nabanye ukuba uzimele kwaye unokugqiba. Abantwana bafuna ukuzifumana kwaye baya kwenza iimpazamo izihlandlo eziliwaka kwinkqubo. Ngubani owenza obu buchule kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo oku kulandelayo:
- Nabani na owenza i-reverse psychology nomntwana kufuneka yongeza imvakalelo okanye imfihlakalo ukutsala umdla, ukunganyaniseki, uxinzelelo kwaye uqiniseke kwiingxelo zakho.
- Ukuba unomsindo okanye unomsindo ngomntwana, kufuneka uqhubeke ngaloo ndlela kwaye umntwana uyaqonda ukuba ayisiyonto yokudlala okanye ukuba ayibalulekanga ngokwaneleyo.
- Ukuba ucelwa umngeni kwinto ethile, njengokubeka izinto zabo zokudlala ngexesha elirekhodiweyo okanye ukuzilungelelanisa umkhwa , uya kuyibona njengento emnandi.
- Kubalulekile ukuba umntu omdala, mhlawumbi utata okanye umama, sukunikezela kuxinzelelo, ungalibazisi, uthandabuza okanye utshintshe ingqondo yakho. Kufuneka ilandelwe kude kube sekupheleni.
- Ngamaxesha xa umntwana esenza izinto kakuhle, eyona nto iphambili kwicala likayise, unokuvuzwa.
- Njengeqhinga elithile, kwiimeko ezininzi, Kwakhona abantwana bafanele bavunyelwe ukuba bazenzele ngokwabo, ngokuphumelela okanye ukwenza iimpazamo.. Inyathelo ngalinye olithathayo liya kuba kukufunda.
Imizekelo ye-reverse psychology kubantwana
Xa usebenzisa obu buchule, into oyenzayo kukwenza umntwana akholelwe ukuba le nto uyibuzayo yile nto uyifunayo, xa okuchaseneyo kuyinyani. Ukuba ufuna umntwana atye i imifuno kwaye ufuna iifries, uya kuxelelwa ukuba atye ama-fried, ukuba imifuno engcono kakhulu iya kutyiwa nguye. Ngabantwana abaninzi abangathobeliyo okanye abangalawulekiyo, ngokuqhelekileyo kusebenza ngcono. Isimo somntu omdala kufuneka sibe siqinisekisa kwaye sinzulu.
Omnye umzekelo ngowokuba umntwana anikwe izinto ezimbini anokukhetha kuzo. Ukuba, umzekelo, uxelelwe ukuba unokukhetha ukutya ipere okanye iapile kwaye ukhethe enye yazo, iya kuba mnandi kuba enye yazo lukhetho oluhle. Xa umntwana enikwe ucelomngeni, uyabongozwa ukuba anxibe ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka, Uwuthatha njengomsebenzi ekufuneka ajamelane nawo kwaye udla ngokuwenza ngokuqhuba nangomnqweno.. Iba a juego ukukholisa
Sonke sifuna ukuziva sikhululekile kwaye sibulawula ubomi bethu, ngoko ngokumodareyitha kunye nokufika ngexesha umntu unokungena ezingqondweni zabo bakhula kwaye bebumbe njengabantu. Kubantwana abahlalutya yonke into kakhulu, ayisiyondlela icetyiswayo. Abantwana kufuneka bamanyelwe, baxhaswe kwaye bakhokelwe ngendlela eyiyo. Amaxesha amaninzi uva abantwana besithi abafuni ukwenza into, kodwa emva kokukhanyela, uloyiko luyabonwa. Bamele bancedwe ngaphandle kokunciphisa ubunjani kunye nobuntu babo, kwaye kwiimeko ezithile, apho ingazange isebenze ngaphambili ukuthetha nabo, ukubacacisela okanye ukubayalela..