Kule mihla akukho kunqongophala kweengcebiso ekuthengeni iithoyi: iingcebiso ngokhuseleko Iintsana ezisukela kwiinyanga eziyi-0 ukuya kwezingama-36Ukuqhelaniswa kweentsapho ezinabantwana phakathi Iminyaka ye-3 kunye ne-6t mdala. Izinto zokudlala aziyonto ngaphandle kokuba sisixhobo sokudlala, kwaye ziyasebenziseka, nangona benokusetyenziswa okwahlukileyo (ukufundisa, ubudlelwane, njl. Ootatomkhulu noomakhulu bethu bazenzele ezabo izinto zokudlala, kwaye abazali bethu bebengonwabanga kwaphela kwilori, unodoli, okanye ibhola unyaka wonke. Sibe nethamsanqa lokuba eminye yeminqweno yethu ithathelwe ingqalelo, ithamsanqa lokuba ezinye zezinto zokudlala ezi-odolwe azifikanga "ngenxa yokuba ziphelile" (isizathu esilungileyo sokufihla imeko yoqoqosho losapho), kwaye nethamsanqa ekugqibeleni! uncwadi lwabantwana kwaye iipuzzle ziya kuqala ukuthathwa njengezipho zamantombazana namakhwenkwe.
Sibe nethamsanqa kwakhona ukuba sibe sesinye sezizukulwana zokugqibela ukuya ukonwabele ukudlala ngokukhululekileyo, ezitalatweni, kunye nexesha lokuphola elingalungiselelwanga ... indlela yokulawula Imali eyangena endlwini yayintle kakhulu, kwaye sasinokuphononongwa kwetafile kwigumbi lokuhlala notata (okanye umama) ecaleni kwethu. Kwaye besingazi ukuba siyiqonde njani loo thamsanqa, kuba kule minyaka idlulileyo (kwaye sibe ngoomama okanye ootata) siwele kwisilingo sokuvula umnyango kungekuphela koosiyazi baseMpuma, kodwa nakuSanta Claus, kwaye ngayiphi indlela! yindlela abanokungena ngayo ezindlwini zilayishwe ngokungathi ziyinto yokudlala.
Kodwa azitsho iingcali nge 3/4 zokudlala ezincinane sele zilawulwa? Abasixeleli ukuba umdlalo ngokwawo ngumsebenzi oluncedo kakhulu kwaye abantwana abafuni ukuba sibaxelele "indlela yokudlala"? Besizilibala izinto ezininzi kangangokuba siye sazibhengeza njengabazinikelayo kubathengi, kwaye mhlawumbi siphambukile kancinci kwindalo yobuntwana, leyo kufuneka intuit okanye ukwazi ukuququzelela uphuhliso lwabo. Qaphela ukuba nokuba yintoni na esengqiqweni, sifuna ingcebiso ("akukho zincinci ukuba yinto eyenzelwe iintsana"); kwelinye icala sihlela YONKE into yenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuba inkululeko ibekho: ukususela nini incwadi ekucetyiswa ukuba abantu abangaphezulu kwe-9 ingabi yeyamantombazana ngaphezulu kwe-7? Ukusukela nini ukuba intombazana ingayifuni into yokudlala? ukususela nini umntwana akanakunxiba njengemakhosazana?
Abantu abadala, ukudlala kwabantwana kunye nokuveliswa kweenkolelo.
Umntwana kwasekuzalweni kufuneka akhelwe, kwaye nangona esona sazisi siphawulweyo sigcinwa ebusheni, zizidalwa ezingayeki ukuzama iimvakalelo zazo kunye nokusingqongileyo. Ngexesha leminyaka emibini yokuqala, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kubomi bosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa ngumama, kwaye ayisiyiyo le nto ndiyithethayo okanye iyinxalenye yenkcubeko yendawo leyo okanye kwenye indawo, iyimfuneko ukuyilwa kwesincamathiselo esikhuselekileyo; Ayenzi ngqondo kakhulu ngeli xesha ukwandisa kulo mbandela kuba yenye into.
Usana kwaye umntwana angadlala nabantu ababangqongileyo, okanye banokwenza njalo besebenzisa izinto. Ayibonakali kangako iithoyi ezijolise kwiqela lobudala ukusuka kwi-0 ukuya kwi-36 yeminyaka ubudala, kodwa ukuba ujonga kufutshane, kuyeza ixesha apho Iimpawu zangaphandle zezinto zokudlala zinomahluko omkhulu: epinki xa ithelekiswa neblue, imibala efanayo nale siyiphawula ngayo ekuzalweni. Xa olu phazamiseko luqala ukwenzeka, ubuntwana buchaphazeleka kulwakhiwo LWABO, kwaye abantwana bayayeka ukukhululeka.
Kolu dliwanondlebe olukhulu, UAlba Alonso uthethe nathi ngokuchanekileyo ngombala wepinki kunye nentsingiselo yawo, xa kuthelekiswa nabanye mhlawumbi ngekwakukhethwe ukufuzisela amandla.
Ukucinga ukuba (njengoko siza kubona kamva) ngabantwana ngokwabo abayaziyo indlela yokudlala, ngabo (okanye kufanele) ibe ngabo abagqiba ngento abadlala ngayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngoku ucinga ukuba: "ukuba andikhathali ngentombazana ekwibhola", kodwa uthini malunga neenkolelo ezithi zivelise intengiso? Kuthekani ngamashalofu anemibala? Kunzima kum ukukholelwa ukuba akukho njongo, kuba ukuququzelela ukukhangela, ndiyakholelwa ukuba ngemilinganiselo yobudala okanye uhlobo lwento yokudlala, besele siqhuba kakuhle.
Abantwana bayakwazi ukudlala, abantu abadala basilibele.
Yiyo loo nto, thina bantu badala sicinga ukuba umdlalo kufuneka ubhekiswe, abantwana kufuneka okanye mabangakwenzi ngokwezehlo zethu, kwaye kufuneka silicwangcise ixesha labo lokudlala. Akukho nto inokudlula inyani, okanye yintoni eyinxalenye yophuhliso olusempilweni. Ukuba iipaki eziqhelekileyo ("hayi naloo mntwana", "hayi ezantsi kwesilayidi", ...) sizisa kwezinye iindawo, sifumana oomama abaneempumlo kuba umntwana wabo ucele unodoli, abazali uzama ukweyisela intombazana ukuba irobhothi isenokungabi yeyona nto ayifunayo.
Kwaye ke, inqanaba abanokuthi bathathe isigqibo ngalo belilibalekile kwiminyaka emi-2 xa sibayeka bakhethe phakathi kweebhatyi ezimbini ezazikhethwe ngaphambili kuthi, okanye sababuza "isidlo sakusasa, ngaba ufuna isonka esineoyile okanye isonka esinejam?"
Isini asiyiyo eyendalo, kodwa yinkcubeko.
Sizalwe njengabafazi okanye amadoda, asizalwanga ukuba siphendule kulindelo okanye kwiingcinga ezizezinye, kodwa uluntu luyabanyanzela, kwaye Le yeyona nto ikhubekisayo ekubonakaliseni nasekufezekiseni amaphupha amantombazana, kunye nokubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo ebantwaneni. Sijongene nolwakhiwo lwenkcubeko oluphawulwe ngokufanelekileyo esinokuthi siludilize ekhaya, okanye ngokubuza esikolweni amanyathelo anje... Kodwa ukunikezelwa kwemisebenzi akunanto yakwenza nokuba inkwenkwe okanye intombazana yazalwa.
Iithoyi ezipinki, izinto zokudlala eziluhlaza… umahluko ngokwesini.
Kwaye into esiyifunayo kukuphelisa lo mahluko, wamkelekile kwimibutho efana nayo Vumela iithoyi zibe ziithoyi!, Kwaye kwilizwe lethu, iiprojekthi ezinje Abantwana bokwenyani. Okucacileyo kukuba intengiso inenjongo, kwaye oku kunokungahoywa okanye kucelwe ukuba ube noxanduva, kwaye njengomzekelo ndiyakudibanisa ividiyo ye #CambiemoselJuego. Nayiphi na into yokudlala isebenza kuyo nayiphi na indalo, ukonga ngaphandle okuphawula ukhuseleko, okanye izakhono (umzekelo: ihelikopta elawulwa kude kude kwintombazana eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, hayi: hayi kuba eyinkazana, kodwa ngenxa yobudala bayo).
Kwiintsuku zamva nje, iBhunga lesiXeko saseValencia lenze iindaba ngePhulo lazo lokuDlala, elijolise ekubonakaliseni ubuyatha kulawulo lwabantu abadala (ukusuka kusapho ukuya kwintengiso). Kuyinyani ukuba awukwazi ukunyanzela intombazana ukuba ithathe umthetho kwaye yenze ugqatso lweemoto, kuyinyani ukuba awunakunyanzela inkwenkwe ukuba idlale ekucoceni indlu ... kodwa yile nto imfundo engathathi hlangothi ngokwesini. Into elula kakhulu ukubavumela isigqibo, cela kwaye usebenzise iithoyi ZAKHO, ezingezizo ezethu.
Kwaye, ukongeza kwinkululeko engakumbi, siya kufumana amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe kubelula ukusebenzisana, kwaye hayi ukukhuphisana, kuba siza kususa ukungalingani.
Masiphumle ... akukho nto yenzekayo, kwaye sikonwabele ukuzibukela.
(Ndiphetha ngomzekeliso andinike wona UMnu Angeles Miranda, kuba ithoni ehlekisayo izinto ziqondwa ngcono. Uninzi lwethu lufuna ukuncama ukuba ngumntu omdala, lubone ukuba zinjani izinto; Ewe, ngaphandle komnqweno, ndizakuqhubeka ukuba ngomnye wabantu "abadala" abakwicala labantwana, kuba kufanelekile ukufumana inkululeko encinci).