Abantu abaSensitive Highly (HSPs) bayilelwe ukuba babe nolwazi olunzulu ngeendawo zabo ezibangqongileyo. Obu buntununtunu bubenza banikele ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha eziphucukileyo, bazive nzulu, bazilumkele iziphumo, kwaye babe novelwano kakhulu ngeemvakalelo kunye noxinzelelo lwabanye. Ukuba uchonga unyana okanye intombi yakho ekwishumi elivisayo ngale nkcazo imfutshane yabantu abanovelwano kakhulu, ngoko unokuba nomdla kweli nqaku kuba ukunyanga okwishumi elivisayo onobuthathaka kakhulu kunokuba lucelomngeni.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuqonda iimvakalelo zonyana okanye intombi yakho, ukusuka apho, indlela iya kuba lula. Ngenxa yobume babo njengomntu obuthathaka kakhulu, baya kuchanabeka kubunzima obungakumbi, kungekuphela nje kusapho kodwa nasekuhlaleni. Ngokuba, kubalulekile ukuba, njengabazali, nizazise, nibaxhase kwaye nibancede nanini na kukho imfuneko.
Iimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho unovakalelo oluphezulu
Njengabazali, usenokuba uqaphele iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba unyana okanye intombi yakho i umntu obuthathaka kakhulu. Eminye yale miqondiso Zizo zilandelayo:
- Ukuchonga ngokukhawuleza izivuseleli zeemvakalelo ezifana nengxolo, isandi, ukukhanya, ivumba, incasa okanye ukuthungwa okwahlukileyo. Ezi zivuseleli zinokucaphukisa kakhulu.
- wonganyelwa lula phambi kwabantu abangaziwayo kunye nezihlwele.
- Nakuphi na ukuphawula kuthathwa ngokobuqu., ngoko uziva ukhathazeke ngokulula ngokuziva ugwetyiwe, ulahliwe okanye ugxekwa.
- Ukukwazi “ukufunda” iimvakalelo zabanye.
- Ukuziva kunye nokugcina iimvakalelo ezinzulu njengomsindo, usizi okanye uloyiko. Bacinezela ezi mvakalelo ngokuzahlula okanye ngokusabela ngokuziphatha okumangalisayo.
- yakhe kusenokwenzeka ukuba ube nexhala nokudandatheka.
Ziziphi iingxaki anokujamelana nazo okwishumi elivisayo onobuthathaka?
Indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngehlabathi elibangqongileyo ngamanye amaxesha ibakhokelela ekubeni babe neemeko ezingemnandanga kubo. Ngokuba, kufuneka ulumke ukuze bangakwazi ukuqalisa ezinye iingxaki kwimpilo yakho yengqondo. Makhe sijonge ezinye zezi ngxaki zijongene nolutsha olunovakalelo oluphezulu:
- I-Syndrome "yokutshiswa" okanye i-Burn out. Amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana anovelwano kakhulu basengozini yoxinzelelo, kuba baziva iimvakalelo zabo kunye nezo zabantu ababangqongileyo kakhulu. Ngolindelo loluntu lokuba namandla nokuba ndlongondlongo, amakhwenkwe namantombazana anovelwano ajongana nowona mngeni mkhulu: ukuziphatha ngendlela echasene nesiqu sawo sokwenyani. Oku kuya kubangela ukuba bacinezele isiqu sokwenyani kwaye kubabangele unxunguphalo olungephi.
- Ukuxhatshazwa. Xa umntwana okanye umntwana ofikisayo ebonwa “njengomntwana okhalayo”, okanye ahluke nje, anokuba lixhoba lamanye amakhwenkwe okanye amantombazana afuna ixhoba lokuxhaphaza.
- imiba yokuzithemba. Ebutsheni, ukuthandwa yinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Abakwishumi elivisayo bafuna ukwamkeleka koontanga babo. Nangona kunjalo, ulutsha olunovelwano luhlala lungenabo abahlobo abaninzi njengoko luhlala luzihlukanisa. Le meko kweli nqanaba liethe-ethe lobomi inokubangela iingcinga eziphindaphindayo ezenzakalisayo, ezinjengokungathandi nabani na okanye ukuba abanakuze bangene kwibutho labantu.
- Iingxaki zengqondo. Xa ulutsha olufikisayo olunovelwano kakhulu kufuneka luzifake ngaphakathi iimvakalelo zalo ezinzulu, iingxaki zengqondo ezifana nokuxhalaba, ukudandatheka, iingxaki zokulawula iimvakalelo, ukugqabhuka komsindo, okanye indlela yokuziphatha ezonakalisayo inokubakho ekhokelela ekubeni ukuzenzakalisa.
Amacebo okunyanga umntwana ofikisayo obuthathaka kakhulu
Kuyabonakala ukuba umntwana ofikisayo onovakalelo kakhulu akanakuphathwa njengomnye ongazigqali ngokunzulu iimvakalelo. Ngesi sizathu, siza kubona ezinye izicwangciso eziya kukunceda ukuba ube nokuqonda okungcono kunye nobudlelwane kunye nonyana okanye intombi yakho ebuthathaka kakhulu.
- Ukuqonda kunye nokwamkelwa. Ukuba endaweni yokujonga unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ngamehlo agxekayo uzama ukwazi nokuqonda umbono wakhe wehlabathi, oko kukuthi, uqaphela uvakalelo lwakhe oluphezulu, uya kufumanisa ukuba akakho buthathaka, uxhalabile okanye u-hysterical njengawe. cinga. Uya kubona ubuhle anabo ngaphakathi, ububele bakhe obukhulu, uvelwano lwakhe, ukunyaniseka kwakhe, ubuchule bakhe kunye nokuphendula kwakhe ngokweemvakalelo. Uthando olungenamiqathango kunye nenkxaso iya kunika unyana okanye intombi yakho ukuzithemba abakufunayo ukujongana neemeko ezinzima. Njengabazali, kuxhomekeke kuwe ukuba umqonde kwaye umamkele umntwana wakho endaweni yokuzama ukumxonxa ukuze angabi namvandedwa. Ukumfundisa ukuphakama emva kokusilela, ukuzikhusela kubaxhaphazi, ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakhe okanye ukufunda ukulawula uxinzelelo, kuya kunceda unyana wakho ukuba ahambe phakathi koluntu ngaphandle kokuthintela uvakalelo lwakhe oluphezulu.
- Fundisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuhlangabezana nazo. Izakhono ezichanekileyo zokulawula uxinzelelo zinokuba kukuphuhlisa izinto zokuzonwabisa, ukubhala, ukuthatha uhambo kwindalo, leer, ukukhala, ukumamela umculo, ukuthetha nomhlobo, ukwenza iyoga, ukucamngca okanye ukwenza iiphazili okanye amagama anqamlezayo. Nawuphi na umsebenzi owufumanayo wokuphumla ufuna ukukhuthazwa ukuze ukwazi ukuwusebenzisa ukulawula uxinzelelo.
- Ummiselo weemvakalelo. Ibhekisa kwisakhono sokulawula iimvakalelo ezinamandla kunye nokusabela ngokufanelekileyo kwiimeko. Ukuzilolonga ngengqondo kunye nokuphefumla kuneziphumo ezintle ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo, ukukhula komntu, kunye nokuzamkela. Ezi ntlobo zemisebenzi ziya kunceda okwishumi elivisayo ukuba azamkele. Ngale ndlela, nabazali ngokwabo bayancedwa ukuba bangakhanyeli, bangamhloneli okanye bafundise umntwana wabo indlela yokuziva.