Kunezinto ezithile abazali bakho abazazilindela kuwe lapho sebekhulile, futhi yizinto ozozilindela ezinganeni zakho lapho usumdala. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi iningi labazali njengoba bekhula abaneme ngezingane zabo futhi bakhala ngokungaziqondi kwabo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izingane zikholelwa ukuthi abazali balindele okukhulu kakhulu kubo. Eqinisweni, izingane eziningi azazi nokuthi abazali bazo bafunani ngempela kuzo. Lokhu kubangela ubunzima bokuxhumana okuhle komndeni. Ukukusiza ukukhulisa ubudlelwano nabazali bakho asebekhulile nokuthi kusasa izingane zakho nazo zazi ukuthi uzolindelani kuzo, Ungaphuthelwa yilezi zinto abazali bakho abazilindele kuwe futhi ongaqala ukuzenzela zona namuhla.
Hlala eduze kwakhe umlalele
Lalela abazali bakho, bakunikeze impilo, ngenxa yalokho nje, kufanele ukuthi uhlonishwe kakhulu ngakho konke ukunakwa kwakho lapho bengabantu abadala. Isikhathi yisipho esihle kunazo zonke ongasinika noma ngubani. Ngokocwaningo oluthile, iningi labazali lilindele ukuthi izingane zalo libavakashele kaningi futhi lizinikeze isikhathi nokunaka kwazo.
Kuliqiniso ukuthi abazali bakho bayakuqonda ukuthi kufanele uphile impilo yakho, kodwa-ke, balindele ukuthi uye kubo hhayi kuphela lapho udinga okuthile, kodwa balindele ukuthi ubavakashele ngoba ufuna ukubabona futhi uchithe isikhathi nabo. Ngabe ufuna ngempela ukuba yi-70% yabantu ekhuluma nabazali babo kanye ngenyanga?
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukuthi ukhumbule izinsuku zabo zokuzalwa, izinsuku ezibalulekile kubo ezifana nesikhumbuzo somshado, njll. Bavakashele ngezinsuku ezikhethekile, kanye ngesonto, noma noma nini lapho kungenzeka khona uma behlala kude. Uma ungazi ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ingxoxo nabo, khuluma nabo ngobuntwana bakho ... khumbula izikhathi ezijabulisayo.
Ukusekelwa Ngokomzwelo
Kumele uqonde ukuthi abantu uma sebekhulile kungenzeka bangabi namandla njengakuqala eminyakeni edlule. Abazali bakho badinga ukusekelwa kwakho ngokomzwelo noma nini lapho kudingeka. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi ube nokuxhumana okuhle nabazali bakho, Uma ungakhulumi nabo, ngeke uzibone izinkinga abangaba nazo noma abahlangabezana nazo.
Uma kunesidingo, uma abazali bakho bedinga usizo ekhaya, unganqikazi ukuthola umuntu omethembayo ozokwenza imisebenzi yasendlini futhi enze impilo yabo ibe lula, uma kwenzeka ungeke ukwazi ukuyinakekela.
Ukwesekwa kwezomnotho
Uma abazali bakho bedinga ukuxhaswa ngokwezimali, kungani uzokwenqaba? Abazali bakho bakusizile bakukhulisa kusukela wazalwa. Ungumuntu oyikho namuhla ngenxa yabo kanye nayo yonke imizamo yabo. Ungahlukanisa umthwalo phakathi kwezingane zakini ezingathatha futhi ukunciphisa ingcindezi (futhi inqobo nje uma lokho akusho ukubhekana nobunzima emndenini wakho, kulokhu kuzodingeka ufune ezinye izindlela ezifana nosizo lomphakathi).
Lalela izeluleko zabo
Noma uthatha isinqumo sokuthi wenzeni nokuthi uzokukwenza kanjani kamuva, kuyinhlonipho ukuthi ulalela konke abazali bakho abakushoyo, noma ngabe awulithandi iqiniso abakutshela lona. Kwesinye isikhathi, kubonakala sengathi kunegebe lesizukulwane futhi iningi lezingane likholelwa ukuthi abazali bazo abaziqondi izinkinga zabo, ngoba nabo 'bamanje'. Kepha Okuhlangenwe nakho kobuzali kunguthisha ongcono kunabo bonke.
Abazali bakho bangahle babe nezeluleko ezinhle kuwe ezihlobene nempilo nokuthi abakucabangayo noma abakukholelwayo kungaba ngcono kuwe. Vumela abazali bakho bakhathazeke ngawe futhi bakutshele ukuthi bacabanga ukuthi kuyinto engcono kakhulu ongayenza. Kamuva, uma kubonakala kungalungile kuwe, batshele ngokuqiniseka ukuthi uzithokozela kakhulu izeluleko zabo kodwa ucabanga ukuthi enye indlela ingcono, kodwa uzobabheka wonke amazwi abo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Noma ungakwenzi abakutshela khona, kubalalele, Lokhu kuzokhombisa ukuthi uyabahlonipha nokuthi kubaluleke kanjani kuwe lokho abakushoyo kuwe.
Kepha kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi kukhona umugqa omuhle kakhulu phakathi kokulawula nokukhathazeka, kubalulekile ukuthi ukubone futhi ukubheke. Uma abazali bakho befuna ukulawula yonke into futhi kungubudlelwano obunobuthi, lapho-ke kufanele ubeke imingcele ukuze kungabikho ubudlelwano obuyinkinga phakathi kwakho.
Abazali bakho bayakudinga njengoba ubudinga
Uyisisekelo somndeni, futhi iqiniso lokuthi usunezingane zakho nomndeni wakho, nokuthi uhlala kwenye indawo, akusho ukuthi kufanele ushiye abazali bakho eceleni. Ubudlelwano okufanele ube nabo nabo akufanele bube nobungani, bangumndeni wakho futhi bayohlala benjalo. Ubudlelwano obuseduze phakathi kwezizukulwane bubalulekile ekukhuleni okuhle ngokomzwelo kwezingane zakho, Futhi, kuya ngokuthi ubaphatha kanjani abazali bakho, lena indlela abazokuphatha ngayo lapho sebekhulile kanti nawe usumdala.
Kungakho kufanele ukuthi wenze umzamo esimisweni sakho esimatasa sokubona abazali bakho, ubajabulele, ubanikeze isipho esikhethekile, ubenze bazizwe bekhethekile. Benze bazizwe beziqhenya ngokukuletha emhlabeni ngokuba nguwe nangokuhlala eceleni kwabo. Akukho okudabukisa njengokubona umuntu osekhulile eyedwa emakhaya asebekhulile futhi kungekho muntu omvakashelayo, ngisho nokwazi ukuthi usenezingane, ukuthi bonke bayaphila nemindeni nokuthi lomuntu osekhulile uhlale elwela okuhle kwezingane zakhe.
Abadala bethu bafanelwe ukuhlonishwa, uthando lwethu, ukuqonda kwethu, inkampani yethu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngabantu abathi, ngaphezu kwezingane zakho, bafanelwe kakhulu emhlabeni obanikeza isikhathi sakho. Ngoba akukho lutho oluyigugu kakhulu emhlabeni kunesikhathi, futhi ukulinika abantu esibathandayo ngempela kwenza isibopho sikhule futhi sibe esikhethekile ngempela. Jabulela abazali bakho futhi ubenze bakujabulele nawe.