Ochwepheshe abaningi bezempilo bancoma ukuncelisa ibele isikhathi esingangonyaka, noma iminyaka emi-2 njengesengezo, noma kunjalo, akujwayelekile ukubelethisa ezinganeni ezindala.
Ukuncelisa ibele isikhathi esingaphezu kweminyaka emibili kuphrintiwe ngegama "lide". Kodwa-ke, ingabe kufanelekile ukukhuluma ngalezi zimo? Noma ngokuphambene nalokho, ingabe kubangela ukuncelisa ibele kungalungisi ngaphezu kwalesi sikhathi? Ngokulandelayo sizokhuluma ngezici ezahlukahlukene zomqondo.
Ukuncelisa ibele isikhathi eside
Omama abaningi bancelisa izingane zabo ibanga elingaphezu kweminyaka emibili. Kuvamile ukuzwa igama elithi "lide", okungukuthi, lihlala ngesikhathi. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuphakamisa ukuthi kungenzeka kujwayelekile ukuthi ukuncelisa ibele kumele kube yisibopho ezinyangeni zokuqala eziyisithupha zengane, futhi kuhambisane nokunye ukudla kuze kube yiminyaka emibili. Kepha uma isichasiso esithi "eside" sinikezwa, kuhunyushwa ngokuthi akuvamile ukunikezwa pecho ngale kwaleyo minyaka, futhi ngenxa yalokho sizohudula imibono ehlukile noma ukwahlulela kwenani kwabanye.
Ngaphandle kokuthi ukuncelisa ingane kuyindaba esondelene nomama nengane, wonke umphakathi uyacabanga ngakho, uhlazekile futhi umangele. Ezikhathini eziningi kukhona ukwenqatshwa lapho ubona ingane "endala" incelisa unina. Ngaphezu kwakho konke ngemuva konyaka, odokotela bezingane, imindeni, abangani ..., bazibona benelungelo lokunikeza umbono wabo nokugxeka isinqumo esibaluleke kakhulu ku- umama, futhi banciphisa ukuzethemba kwabo kwezinye izimo. Emazweni asentshonalanga namanje akuvamile kakhulu, futhi kusamele sisebenze ukuze umama nengane bangakhonjwa ngomunwe. Uma lolu hlobo lokuncelisa ibele lubizwa nangokuthi "lude", kukhuthazwa ukwesekwa okuncane komphakathi.
Ukuncelisa izingane ezindala ibele kunenzuzo
Ubisi lwebele luzivumelanisa nezidingo zengane esigabeni ngasinye, okungukuthi, alazi ukuthi ludala kangakanani.
Eminyakeni edlule kukhona okushintshile ngenkathi kwethulwa ubisi lokufakelwa futhi ukuncelisa ibele kwehla futhi kwasala. Ukuncelisa ibele ezinganeni ezindala kuyaqhubeka nokunikeza izinzuzo amasosha omzimba, yomnikelo wokudla okunempilo nowemizwa, futhi kuyafana nakumama. Ubisi lwebele akumele lubangele inkinga noma ukwesaba, kungukudla okuvumelana nezidingo zengane, okungukuthi, futhi eminyakeni yayo. Izingane ezinceliswa omama bazo zisondelana kakhulu nobaba bazo, okungasho ukuthi zingabantwana noma azizimele kakhulu.
Hhayi abasebenzi bezempilo kuphela, kepha nezinhlangano zezenhlalo kufanele ziphakamise amazwi azo ukweseka abantu besifazane uma bethatha isinqumo sokwelula ukuncela kwabo ibele kulokho okunconywe yiningi labantu, futhi babavumele bakhulume futhi bazwakalise ukungabaza kwabo kanye nokwesaba kwabo. Umama ongenalwazi futhi ongasekelwa angakholelwa ukuthi akakwazi ukwenza kahle. Ngaphandle kokungabaza, izikhungo ezihamba phambili zokusekelwa yizinhlangano ezincelisayo, lapho ungakhuluma ngokukhululekile nochwepheshe nabanye omama ongahlanganyela nakho nakho.
Izincomo ezivela kweminye imizimba
Okuthile "okwenziwe isikhathi eside" kusho okuthile okudlula umkhawulo obekiwe, futhi lo mkhawulo udwetshwe ngumphakathi uqobo. Kukhona abasebenzi bezempilo, phakathi kwabanye, abathi ngenxa yokungazi, ulwazi olungelona iqiniso lwesayensi noma imfundo encane emisebenzini yabo, abasuselwa kudatha ephelelwe yisikhathi nengasho lutho. Izinhlangano ezifana ne-WHO, i-UNICEF noma iSpanish Association of Pediatrics, zincoma ukuncelisa ingane ngendlela ehambisanayo kuze kube iminyaka 2Kodwa-ke, abafaki umngcele, babona kahle ukuthi umama nendodana banquma ukuqhubeka.
Ayikho idatha eqondiwe noma isifundo esinzima esibonisa okuthile okuyingozi kuleso sinqumo. Kubalulekile-ke ukuthi isichasiso esithi "isikhathi eside" asisahlangene nokuncelisa, nokuthi size sibonakale njengento engenzeka futhi ejwayelekile. Hhayi lokho kuphela, kepha futhi nokuthi kwenziwe ngenhlonipho kokubili maqondana nesenzo uqobo, kanye nenketho yokuncelisa ibele isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka noma emibili. Noma imuphi umama ofuna ukumnika ubisi enganeni yakhe uzokwazi ukwenza lokho uma ebeka amandla nomdlandla kulo, ikakhulukazi uma indawo akuyo imboza ngayo yonke indlela.