Lokhu akuhlali kunjalo, kepha kwesinye isikhathi kuyenzeka. Izithandani esezihlale isikhathi eside ndawonye futhi zizwana kakhulu, lapho ziqala ukuba nezingane futhi zandisa umndeni wazo, konke kuyashintsha. Ukuba nezingane kulula kakhulu kepha ukuzifundisa nokuzikhulisa ngenkathi zikhula akulula kangako. Kudinga umoya weqembu futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuhamba ngendlela efanayo yokuba ngumzali.
Ukuba nezingane kuvivinya umlingani njalo. Ekukhathaleni nasekude ngokomzwelo ngesikhathi izinyanga zokuqala zempilo yengane zingathinta ubuhlobo. Akekho oweluleka umbhangqwana ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukukhulisa izingane, futhi lokhu kungathena amandla umbhangqwana obekulindeleke ukuthi ube ngumzali olula.
Ukuba ngumzali kusho ukuthi ungalokothi ulale futhi, ukuba matasa ngaso sonke isikhathi nokubhekana nobunzima obuqhubekayo ekukhuliseni. Lokhu kungenza abashadikazi abajabulayo bahlupheke ngoba basuke ekubeni yizithandani baba umzali. Akulula ukuba nezibopho nsuku zonke futhi kufanele uzilwele nsuku zonke. Lezo zithandani ezathandana zisathandana, kepha aziqondi ukuthi manje kumele zibe yiqembu elizokwazi ukubhekana nomndeni ngothando.
Kuyadingeka ukuthi izinsuku, amasonto, izinyanga neminyaka kungavunyelwe ukudlula njengokuhlikihla kusuka osukwini olulodwa kuye kolandelayo. Ukunikezela amandla akho ezinganeni zakho kulungile, kepha futhi kufanele ube nobugovu ngandlela thile futhi ubheke izikhathi njengezithandani ukuze inhlansi yothando ingacimi. Ngoba uma kukhona okuthile izingane ezikudinga ngaphezu kokuphefumula, ngukuthi abazali bazo, ngaphezu kokuba ngabazali abahle, nabo bayathandana futhi babe ngabashadile abahle. Umbhangqwana oyisibonelo sothando olunempilo abanalo ngomunye nomunye. Isibonelo sokuqina nothando oluqhubekayo.