Abantu okungafanele bahlulele ukukhuliswa kwezingane zakho

Bonke abazali kufanele babekezelele ngasikhathi esithile abantu abahlulela indlela esikhulisa ngayo izingane zethu, kepha okubi kunakho konke ukuthi bangasenza sizizwe ngathi senza okungalungile. Uma uke wadlula kulokhu futhi othile wahlulela umsebenzi wakho njengomzali, Sekuyisikhathi sokuba uyeke ukunika ukubaluleka kwalawo mazwi, ngoba akekho umuntu ongahlulela ukukhuliswa kwezingane zakho.

Bonke abazali emhlabeni abathanda futhi abahloniphayo izingane zabo bazobheka indlela engcono kakhulu yokuba ngumzali, okungenani leyo abacabanga ukuthi bayenza kangcono ngesikhathi esithile futhi ngenxa yalokhu uzobe ususendleleni efanele . Akekho umuntu onesibindi sokwahlulela owaziyo ukuthi ungubani ngempela nokuthi ulwela ukukhulisa izingane zakho, ngoba azikho ezicathulweni zakho. Kepha kukhona abanye abantu ikakhulukazie akufanele ahlulele ukukhuliswa kwezingane zakho nokuthi uma bekwenza, yamukela amazwi abo kepha ungabaniki inani.

Futhi ngineqiniso lokuthi selokhu waba ngumama uthole izeluleko eziningi, iziphakamiso, ukuxilongwa nokuhlolwa okuvela kubantu abasondelene nabangasondelene. Kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha kungenxa yokuthi isiko lethu linjani, umphakathi lapho ukuhlakanipha okuvamile kuvunyelwe ngezizukulwane nokuthi sikuthanda ngempela lokhu futhi siyakwenza, noma kunjalo kungaba nzima kwezinye izimo.

Engingakuphika ukuthi iningi labantu abakunikeza izeluleko bazokwenza kanjalo ngazo zonke izinhloso zabo ezinhle, kepha akusho ukuthi kufanele wenze abakutshela khona. Udinga ukuphendula ngokuqinile nangomusa emazwini abanye abantu ukugomela isikhundla sabo ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa isigaba noma ukulimaza imizwa yanoma ngubani. Cabanga ukuthi bakwenza ngayo yonke inhloso yabo enhle, yize kwesinye isikhathi kungeyona ephumelela kakhulu.

Abangane noma umndeni ongenazo izingane

Ngabe uthole izeluleko ngomama kumuntu ongenazo ngisho izingane? Noma kungumngani ohamba phambili noma ongcono kunabo bonke, inqobo nje uma bengenazo izingane futhi bazi kahle ukuthi kuyini ukuba ngubaba nomama, imibono yabo ingamukelwa, kodwa-ke.

Ezikhathini eziningi laba bantu  bacabanga ukuthi bazi okungcono kakhulu kuwe nezingane zakho ngenxa yokwazi umbono othile, mhlawumbe banezifundo? Akukhathalekile ukuthi unaziphi izifundo maqondana nokunakekelwa kwengane noma ukukhula, ngoba uze ube ngumzali awazi ngempela ukuthi kusho ukuthini nokuthi imiphi imizwa edlalayo.

Kubalulekile setha imingcele ukuze lokhu kucasulwa kungabonakali ebunganeni nokuthi azikho izingxabano ezingasho lutho ngokuzayo. Chaza umbono kanyoko ukuze ufundise ingxoxo futhi omunye umuntu uzoqonda ukuthi awudingi ukusho okuningi ngoba ukuzijwayeza kuhlala kushaya ithiyori.

Ogogo nomkhulu

Ogogo nomkhulu ngabantu abalandelayo ngokwemvelo abazothanda izingane zakho kakhulu emva kwakho nomlingani wakho. Bona, noma nini lapho bekululeka noma behlulela indlela yakho yokwenza, bazoyenza becabanga okuhle kwengane yakho, kepha-ke, uma lokho abakushoyo kungakwenzi ukukuqinisekisa futhi baqale ukwenza ihaba ungazizwa ucindezelekile futhi ukuthi unomuzwa owesabekayo wokuthi wenza okuthile okungalungile.

Ngakho-ke ukuze kungabikho ukuhlukana kubudlelwano nabazali bakho ngoba akukho kuvumelana phakathi kwemibono, kubalulekile ukuthi uhloniphe amazwi abo kepha ubeke imingcele ecacile maqondana nokukhuliswa kwezingane zakho. Momotheka, bonga futhi wenze lokho okubona kufanelekile ngempela. Ungalokothi ulahlekelwe isibopho esihle nabazali bakho noma abasekhweni ngenxa yalesi sizathu.

Abazali babantu ofunda nabo enganeni yakho

Ukuthatha izingane esikoleni kungaba umsebenzi omkhulu wokubekezela kubazali abaningi. Kubukeka sengathi kulezi zimo kuyinto ejwayelekile ukukhuluma ngezingane nokukhula noma izikhathi zamagugu. Ungahlala uthola "omama abakhulu" noma "obaba abakhulu»Ukukutshela ukuthi wenzani okungalungile enganeni yakho noma ukukunikeza izeluleko zayo zosuku. Uma umzali esikoleni ekwenza ungakhululeki ngezimvo zakhe, ungabanaki, vele uphefumule kancane, umoyizele, ungaphenduli. Akukhona ukungabi nabungani, kuyenzeka ebusweni bamazwana avela kubantu okungenzeka babe nobuthi kuwe.

Izihlobo eziseduze nezikude

Ngaphezu kwabazali bakho, kukhona nomalume, obabekazi, abazala bakho, abazala bakho, abasekhweni, omamezala, osibali, abasemzini, abashana, abashana, onkulunkulukazi, onkulunkulukazi nabanye abantu abaningi abakha umndeni wakho. Bonke bayakuthanda futhi bakufunela okuhle kodwa enye yezindlela zokukhombisa ukuthi bakunakile ukukunikeza izelulekolokho abacabanga ukuthi ungakwenza kangcono ekukhuliseni izingane zakho.

Emibuthanweni yomndeni imvamisa isikhathi esihle salolu hlobo lwesimo, ngakho-ke uma uthola imibono noma izeluleko eziningi ongazicelile, ezinjengalezi: ukudla okudlula konke, ukuthi ulisusa nini inabukeni, imikhuba yokulala, imisebenzi engcono kakhulu yezemfundo , njll. Njengenjwayelo: ukumamatheka, ukunqekuzisa ikhanda futhi uma ungenantshisekelo, ungayenzi ibaluleke kakhulu.

Kubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele emazwini owanikezela kubo Kungakho-ke kudingekile ukuthi unqume ukuthi yini okuxoxwa ngayo nokuthi yini engabhekisi ekukhulisweni kwezingane zakho. Uyawazisa amazwi abo, kepha wonke umzali uzokwazi okulungele izingane zabo. Uma kukhona abakutshela khona ukuthi unentshisekelo kukho noma ufuna ukufunda kabanzi noma ucela iseluleko, kuhle-ke… kepha uma kuyiseluleko samahhala ongasicelanga, vele ube nenhlonipho.

Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi kunabantu abaningi empilweni yakho okungafanele babe nombono wokuthi ukuba ngumzali kufanele noma kungafanele kube njani? Ingabe ungomunye wabantu abamukela lesi seluleko noma uncamela ukusinikezwa kuphela uma wake wasicela phambilini?