Ingabe awushadile futhi ukhulelwe? Ucabanga ukuthi ungowesifazane odabukile kakhulu emhlabeni? Yeka ukucabanga ngale ndlela, futhi yeka ukucabanga ngakho manje. Njalo ngonyaka, izigidi zabesifazane zikhulelwa ngaphandle komlingani. Nakuba kungaba nzima, akusona ukuphela komhlaba , futhi kufanele ubonge ukukhulelwa ngoba kunabesifazane abaningi emhlabeni wethu abangenakuba nezingane futhi abazifuna ngaphezu kwanoma yini emhlabeni.
Sezidlulile izinsuku lapho abesifazane babenamahloni ngokuba omama abangabodwa. Eqinisweni, omama abangabodwa namuhla kufanele (futhi kumelwe!) baziqhenye kunanoma ubani, njengoba ukukhulisa umntwana akuyona into elula. Kodwa kungenziwa ngokubekezela, futhi abesifazane banamandla okukhulisa izingane zabo bodwa, ngakho kufanele uzizwe kahle ngakho.
Okulandelayo, ngifuna ukukunikeza amathiphu okukusiza ukuthi ukhulelwe kangcono futhi ngikubonise ukuthi, ngaphandle kokungabi wedwa, ungafeza okungaphezu kwalokho okucabangayo.
- Joyina iqembu lokuxhasa abesifazane abakhulelwe. Abanye besifazane abakhulelwe abangashadile banabangani nomndeni abangaxoxa nabo, kepha abanye abanabo, ngakho-ke unganqikazi ukujoyina iqembu lokuxhasa ukukhulelwa ngoba kuzokusiza uzizwe ujabulile futhi ujabulele isimo sakho. Ungafunda futhi ngamathiphu amaningi awusizo ozodinga ukwazi lapho ingane yakho ifika. Uqinisekile ukwenza abangane abakhulu!
- Chitha isikhathi esithe xaxa nomndeni wakho. Ukuthi awunayo indoda noma umlingani akusho ukuthi kufanele ube wedwa ekukhulelweni kwakho. Uma umndeni wakho ukuxhasa, unganqikazi ukusondela eduze kwabo futhi wabelane ngenjabulo yokukhulelwa kwakho nabo. Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi abazali bakho bazokujabulela ukuba ogogo nomkhulu, noma izingane zakini zibe omalume. Lalela izinto ezakhayo esikhundleni sezikhalazo noma ukuphawula okungenanhlonipho, noma ngubani okuthandayo uzofuna kuphela ukukubona ujabulile.
Ukusekela kanye nenethiwekhi ehambisanayo kusukela osukwini lokuqala
Awuwedwa : ukuba nengane engenamlingani akusho ukuthwala wonke umthwalo amahora angama-24 ngosuku, izinsuku eziyi-7 ngesonto. Yakha inethiwekhi yakho yokusekelana nabazali, izingane zakini, abangane, nomakhelwane ukuze nibelane ngemisebenzi futhi niveze imizwa yenu. Cela umuntu omethembayo ukuthi akuphelezele lapho uya khona ezifundweni zabesifazane ; ukwabelana ngezindaba ezinhle (noma ukuthola induduzo uma kukhona okukhathazayo) kwenza umehluko omkhulu. Ukuya emakilasini omama abasha kuzokunikeza amasu okubeletha, ukuncelisa, nokunakekela, futhi kuzokuxhumanisa nabanye besifazane abasesimweni sakho.
Inhlangano esebenzayo: isikhathi, ikhaya nemali
Enye yezinto ezikhathazayo kakhulu isikhathi . Isihluthulelo ukuhlela ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ukuguquguquka: hlela usuku lwakho ngobusuku obandulele, yenza imisebenzi yesikhathi ibe lula, futhi wenze izinto zibe lula.
- Ukupheka kwe-batch yamasonto onke: Pheka amamenyu ezinsuku eziningi ukuze wonge amahora futhi udle ukudla okulinganiselayo.
- Izinhlu eziyinhloko: Bhala phansi okubalulekile ngaphambi kokuthenga ukuze ugweme uhambo lomzuzu wokugcina.
- Imizila namashejuli: Ukulala nokuvuka ngesikhathi esisodwa kwenza kube lula ukuphumula futhi kunciphisa ingcindezi. Uma unezingane ezindala, zinike izibopho ezincane (cosha amathoyizi, wendlule umbhede wakho).
- Isabelomali esingokoqobo: Rekhoda imali engenayo nezindleko ukuze ulawule izehlakalo ezingalindelekile futhi ubeke phambili lokho okubalulekile.
Khumbula ukuthi ukucela usizo kumayelana nokuhlela: khuluma namalungu omndeni, xhumana nabangani ukuze nishintshane ngokunakekela ingane, futhi ucabangele ukuqasha umnakekeli wengane othembekile ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ukuzinakekela okuphelele nempilo yengqondo
Inhlalakahle yakho iza kuqala kithi. Hlala ulele kahle , udle ukudla okunempilo , futhi wenze umsebenzi womzimba othambile ohambisana nokukhulelwa kwakho. Uma ubhekene nokukhathazeka, ukudabuka, noma ukukhathala okukhulu, ukwesekwa kwengqondo kungakusiza ukuthi uthuthukise izindlela zokubhekana nezimo. Ukunakekela impilo yakho yengqondo kubaluleke kakhulu njengokuskena kwe-ultrasound.
Amaqembu okulungiselela ukubeletha kanye nokuncelisa anikeza ulwazi oluwusizo kanye nokusekelwa ngokomzwelo; ukwabelana ngokungabaza kwenza lokho okuzwayo kube ngokwejwayelekile futhi kunciphisa umthwalo.
Izinhlelo eziphuthumayo kanye nokunakekelwa kwezingane
Dala uhlelo oluphuthumayo: dala uhlu lokuxhumana olusebenza amahora angama-24 ngosuku (umndeni, abangani abaseduze, nomakhelwane), thola izinsizakalo zokunakekelwa kwezingane eziphuthumayo , bese ulungisa ikhithi enezinto ezibalulekile (i-thermometer, i-reducer yomkhuhlane enqunywe ngumhlinzeki wakho wezempilo, amanabukeni). Cabanga ngezinye izindlela zokusekela: yabelana ngomnakekeli wengane nomunye umndeni, shintshana ngokunakekelwa kwengane amahora ambalwa, noma ubambe umfundi omethembayo ukuze uthole usizo.
Ukubambisana, imikhawulo kanye nokuxhumana nezingane zakho
Yakha ikhaya elibikezelwayo neliphephile elinemikhuba ecacile. Nikela isikhathi esihle (ukudla ndawonye, ​​ukufunda, ukukhuluma ngosuku lwabo) futhi ukhuthaze ukuveza imizwa ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Phendula imibuzo ngempilo yakho ngokwethembeka okuhambisana nobudala , gwema ukwenza izingane zakho zibe nemfihlo ngezindaba zabantu abadala, futhi ugcine imingcele engaguquki ukuze zizizwe zivikelekile.
Ukuphathwa kwemizwelo: qhathanisa okuncane futhi wethembe kakhulu
Gwema ugibe lokuqhathanisa impilo yakho neminye imibhangqwana. Yonke imindeni ihlukile. Hlakulela ukuzethemba , khetha izimpi zakho ngokuhlakanipha, futhi uzijwayeze ukubonga ngokusekelwa onakho. Uma ngolunye usuku konke kuzwakala kungaphezu kwamandla, yehlisa okulindelwe, uphumule, bese ucela usizo.
Izinsiza, ubambiswano kanye nomphakathi
Ukuxhumana nabanye omama abasesimweni sakho kunikeza ubungane nezixazululo eziqondile. Ungaxhumana ne- Isadora Duncan Single Parent Families Foundation noma i- Single Mothers by Choice Association (MSPE) ukuthola ulwazi, ama-workshop, kanye namanethiwekhi okusekela. Ama-workshop okukhulisa izingane kanye namakilasi okubeletha avame ukuhlelwa ezikhungweni zezempilo, emitatsheni yezincwadi, nasezikhungweni zomphakathi.
Usizo namalungelo: ungaqala kuphi
Thola ulwazi mayelana nekhadi lomndeni lomzali oyedwa kanye nanoma yiluphi usizo lwezezimali olutholakalayo : ukuncishiswa kwentela yokubeletha, izinzuzo zezingane, noma izibonelelo ezihlobene nokubeletha. Izidingo kanye namanani kuncike emithethweni yamanje kanye nomphakathi wakho ozimele. Xhumana ne- National Social Security Institute , i- Tax Agency , kanye nomkhandlu wakho wendawo ukuze uthole ulwazi olusha kanye nezinhlelo zendawo. Uma ubhekene nobunzima, izinsizakalo zomphakathi zingakunikeza isiqondiso.
Yini enye ocabanga ukuthi ibalulekile ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe abangashadile bayikhumbule? Ukwakha inethiwekhi yokusekelana, ukwenza izinhlelo ezihlakaniphile, nokuzinakekela kahle kukubeka esimweni esiqinile sokujabulela ukukhulelwa kwakho kanye nokufika komntwana wakho. Ukuzizungeza ngokusekelwa, ukuhlela izinto ezibalulekile, nokuzivumela ukuthi uphumule akukwenzi ube namandla kakhulu: kukwenza ukwazi ukwenza izinto futhi utholakale kalula enganeni yakho.