Mhlawumbe bakutshele ukuthi ukuba ngumama kwakulula, ukuthi zonke izingane nezingane zinezidingo ezifanayo. Kepha kuqhubeka ngokweqiniso, ingane ngayinye yehlukile futhi izidingo zazo zehluke kakhulu. Noma unezingane ezi-3, ingane ngayinye ingaba nezidingo ezihluke ngokuphelele komunye nomunye.
Kunzima kuwe ukuthi ufune ukuthola enye ingane lapho ukukhathala kungakushaya, lapho ungasazi ukuthi uvuka kangaki ebusuku noma ulala amahora amangaki, uma usemsebenzini bakudonsela ukunaka kwakho ngoba amandla akho namandla okungenani.
Kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi ingane yakho inezidingo abanye abangenazo, kepha okubalulekile ukuthi wazi kahle izingane zakho ukuthi wazi ukuthi uhlangabezana kanjani nezidingo zazo. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukhathele kakhulu ukuthi ungacabanga, ungaphuthelwa izeluleko ezilandelayo ukusinda lapho uthola ukuthi ingane yakho ifunwa kakhulu.
Cabanga ngawe
Kubukeka kunzima noma kungenakwenzeka, ngoba izinsuku zifushane futhi uthatha amahora walokho okuncane okulala ukukuthola ukuze ufinyelele engxenyeni yazo zonke izibopho zakho. Kepha uma uzihlelela kahle kungenziwa, ungathatha usuku noma ngabe kuyimizuzu engama-20 kuphela bese uzicabangela wena nokuthi ufuna ukusisebenzisa kanjani leso sikhathi. Ungakwazi ukuzivocavoca ekhaya, uhambe uhambe, ubuke ukuxhumana nomphakathi, ube nomlingani wakho, nikhulume ocingweni ... noma yini oyifunayo. Kepha makube yisikhathi sakho.
Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi ukhokhise amabhethri akho namandla akho nokuthi ubone impilo ngombala omnandi kakhulu. Njengomama, kufanele ube ngumama, kunjalo! Kepha futhi udinga ukuba ngowesifazane. Ungase ucabange ukuthi ingane yakho ikudinga kakhulu kangangokuba awunaso ngisho nesikhathi sokugeza buthule. Kujwayelekile futhi kungokwemvelo ukubeka izidingo zengane ngaphambi kwezakho, kepha awukwazi ukukhulisa ingane enempilo uma uhlala ukhathele.
Ngokuzayo lapho usendizeni, bukela umuntu osebenza endizeni akhombise ukusetshenziswa okufanele kwesifihla-mpilo (bese ucabanga ukuthi sinembe kangakanani ngendlela): 'Gqoka imaski yomoya-mpilo ngaphambi kokuyifaka enganeni yakho' . Uma ucwila, ngeke ukwazi ukusiza ingane yakho.
Uzodinga ukuthi ube nokuhlola okuyiqiniso ngalokho okudingayo ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zengane yakho, kodwa futhi nezakho.
Yiba nesimo esihle
Kungenzeka ukuthi imizwa yakho nemicabango yakho kungabi kubi impela uma kukhulunywa ngokuba nengane edingeka kakhulu: 'Akalali', 'Akahlali phansi', 'Angifuni', 'Akalindeleki', 'Unenkani kakhulu', 'Ubonakala engangilaleli', ' Angisakwazi ukuyithatha ', nohlu olude lwemicabango ekugcina ukhungathekile kaninginingi.
Inzuzo ekukhuliseni ingane edingeka kakhulu ukuthi ngaphansi kwazo zonke izici 'ezimbi', kuzohlala kukhona okunye okuhle. Lapho uqala ukubeka eceleni lolo khula olungakuvumeli ukuthi ubone izimbali, uzobona ukuthi ingane yakho iyinsimu ephelele egcwele imibala namaphunga amnandi.
Zonke izingane ezifunwa kakhulu zinezici ezithile ebuntwini bazo ezenza zigqame futhi zibe muhle kwezinye izici zempilo yazo. Kuzofanele ubathole futhi ubondle, ngoba ngokuzayo, kuzoba lusizo olukhulu kuye. Icebo ukuwathola. Kulula ukuvumela kuphela okungalungile kubonakale futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, kufihle konke okuhle. Kuzodingeka uqoqe ukhula oluningi ukuze ubone ukuthi izimbali ziqhakaza kanjani.
Ukufeza lokhu, kufanele ugxile kokuthandayo ngengane yakho: 'Ngiyathanda ukumbuka edlala ibhola', 'Udla kahle kakhulu', 'Ungumfana onothando kakhulu'. Cabanga ngendlela ingane yakho ekujabulisa ngayo nokuthi ubuntu bayo buhlukile, futhi ubuhlakani bayo buyenza ikhetheke kangaka. Kungenzeka ukuthi uchithe isikhathi esiningi namandla uzibuza ukuthi iyiphi inkinga ebinayo ingane yakho nokuthi ibenzani kabi (ngoba mhlawumbe abantu abaningi abanezingane ezingafuneki kakhulu bakwenze wazizwa). Lapho usuqale ukubona izimfanelo eziyingqayizivele nezinhle ingane yakho enazo kunokuphambene, Umama onengane efunwa kakhulu kuzoba lula kakhulu. Futhi ikhaya lakho ngeke libe nengcindezi engaka.
Sebenzela ukubekezela kwakho
Ubuntu abuguquki ngosuku. Kungathatha izinyanga zokusebenza nsuku zonke ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho ukubona inqubekela phambili. Kuyadingeka ukuthi usebenzise amathuba amancane ezingxabano zansuku zonke ukuze ukwazi ukusebenza nengane yakho ekuziphatheni okulungile. Izingane azizalwa zifundile, futhi aziziphathi kahle ukuze zikwenze uhlanye. Abazi ukuthi baziphathe kahle kanjani bese benza izinto ngokuxhamazela, ngakho-ke umhlahlandlela wakho, imithetho yakho nemikhawulo kanye nothando lwakho, kuzobasiza babone indlela.
Ingane yakho efunwa kakhulu, lokho akudinga kakhulu kuwe ngokungangabazeki ukuqonda kwakho nozwela. Uma, ngokwesibonelo, ingane yakho ikhala futhi ungakwazi ukwenza lutho ukwehlisa ukukhala kwayo okungathandeki, okungenani ngenkathi ukukhala kusaqhubeka, kufanele yazi ukuthi useceleni kwayo ukumeseka nokumduduza. Ngakho-ke, lapho esezolile, uzokwazi ukuthola izixazululo zokungaphatheki kahle kwakhe kuwe futhi ngale ndlela, ngesikhathi esizayo lapho ezokwazi ukuthi enze kanjani ukuze azizwe kahle.
Yabelana ngomsebenzi
Awunawo amandla amakhulu futhi awukwazi ukuphatha yonke into, ngakho-ke uma uzizwa ukhathele, kufanele ucabange ngokwabelana ngomsebenzi nomlingani wakho, umuntu ogcina ingane noma nomuntu ongakusiza. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ukukhuliswa kuyindaba yabo bobabili abazali, ngoba ngaphezu kwalokho, uma kungenzeka, ingane idinga ukuvikeleka kokwazi ukuthi abazali bayo baseceleni kwayo ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Yabelana ngomsebenzi, izinsizi kanye nenjabulo. Abazali abathintekayo bazohlala benqoba umndeni. Uthola usizo oludinga kakhulu, kanti nozakwenu naye uyabandakanyeka empilweni yengane yabo. Nobabili kufanele nithuthukise izindlela zokukhulisa izingane, ngakho-ke ingane yenu izokwazi ukuthi nobabili niyingxenye ebalulekile yokungaphili.