Enye yezinkinga ezinkulu ezikoleni namuhla ukwesaba izingane ezizizwa ngakho uma zingatholi amamaki amahle noma uma zingaphansi kwezinga lontanga yazo. Enye inkinga enkulu ukuhlukumeza, nakho okudala ukwesaba. Abazali nothisha balwa mihla namalanga ukuze bayeke le ndlela yokuziphatha, bengazi ukuthi ngabantu abadala abafundisa izingane ukuziphatha kokuxhashazwa ngokumodela lapho besebenzisa usongo losayizi womzimba ukwenza izingane zenze izinto. Kwesinye isikhathi siyakhohlwa ukufundisa izingane ngothando.
Iphutha lokubala liye kwabathathu
Abazali abaningi basebenzisa ukubala kube yindlela emithathu yezingane ezincane. Kuyindlela yokuthi izingane zilalele izimfuno zazo, kepha ngiyazibuza ukuthi izingane zizocabangani uma abazali bazo beshaya inombolo yesithathu. Ngabe uzokwesaba ukushaywa, ukumemeza, ukushiywa ngokomzwelo, ukuhoxa othandweni noma ukungavunyelwa okuzokhipha umphefumulo wakho?
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zokusongelwa futhi kulokhu futhi kubala ukubala kube zintathu. Njengoba kuhlosiwe, usongo lokuthi kuzokwenzekani uma ubaba efinyelela emandleni amathathu ingane ukuthi yenze lokho uyise athi akwenze. Abazali basebenzisa izinsongo ukwenza izingane zibambisane. Abantu abaningi abadala bafundiswe kanjena, ngokwesaba ... kepha lokho akusho ukuthi kulungile futhi kungasaphathwa kangako ukuthi kufanele sizikhiqize lezo zindlela zokujezisa zemfundo.
Awukho umlingo ezinsongweni
Yize kubonakala sengathi ukubalwa kwabathathu kungumlingo ekuyaleni, abukho umlingo ekusongeleni. Izingane ziyazi ukuthi abantu abadala banamandla futhi banamandla kunabo, ngakho bayazilalela ukuze bazivikele. Uma ukuphela kwendlela esingenza ngayo izingane zisilalele kungokwesaba, senzani? Ngabe sibafundisa ukuthi ubukhulu namandla amakhulu yilokho okusebenzela ukuthi kuphumelele?
Abazali abaningi bakubona ukudelelwa kwegunya ekuziphatheni kokuhlubuka kwengane. Kepha uma abazali bekuqonda lokho ukuziphatha okungabambisani kuvame ukubangelwa yisidingo sengane esingagcwaliseki noma kokulindelwe okungenangqondo komuntu omdala, umbono uyashintsha futhi abazali abasayithathi indlela yokuziphatha uqobo. Lokhu kungasiza ukuthuthukisa isimo ngokufuna izixazululo.
Abazali nezingane banezidingo ezingafani
Abazali nezingane bavame ukuba nezidingo ezingafani. Kwesinye isikhathi izidingo zethu noma amashejuli ethu aphikisana nezidingo zezingane zethu. Izingane ezidlalayo azifuni ukuphazamisa umdlalo wazo ukuze ziye esitolo ngaphambi kokuvalwa noma ziyolala ngoba kufanele zivuke ekuseni. Lapho umzali kufanele enze into eyodwa nengane idinga ukwenza enye, izingxabano zezidingo ziyaqala.
Lokhu kungqubuzana kwezidingo kuphenduka umzabalazo wamandla lapho abazali besebenzisa amandla okwesaba esikhundleni samandla othando. Isibopho esiqinile sakhiwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lapho abazali behlangabezana ngothando nezidingo zezingane zabo ngaphandle kwezinsongo lapho kunezingxabano. Izinsongo zonakalisa ubuhlobo phakathi kwabazali nezingane. Lapho sifunda ukuxazulula ukungqubuzana 'kwezidingo' zethu ukuze zivezwe ngozwela nangokuqiniseka, isibopho sizoqiniswa nemizabalazo yamandla izogwenywa.
Sebenzisa uthando ukugwema izingxabano
Isizathu esivame kakhulu sokushayisana kwezidingo phakathi kwabazali nezingane ukungabi nezinsizakusebenza. Ukube abazali bebenezinsizakusebenza eziningi zemfundo bebengeke basebenzise izinsongo. Uma nje kunokushoda kwezinsizakusebenza ezingokomzwelo kungahle kube nokushayisana kwezidingo. Uma ufuna ukukhulisa ingane yakho emhlabeni lapho isiqhwaga nesiqhwaga singekho, uthando kufanele lube yisisekelo sokufundisa kwakho, kuhambisane nokuhloniphana, ukwethembana nokwethembeka.
Kuyadingeka ukufundisa izingane ukuthanda esikhundleni senzondo, kufanele siqale sifunde ukusebenzisa amakhono okuxazulula izingxabano kubazali ekuxhumaneni kwethu kwansuku zonke nabanye nezingane. Njengoba nje izingane zifunda ukuxhashazwa kumodeli yabantu abadala, nazo zingafunda ukuxazulula izingxabano namakhono okuxazulula izinkinga kubazali. Lapho izingane zifunda ngothando futhi zikwazi ukuwafunda la makhono ekhaya, zizokwazi ukuwasebenzisa kwezinye izingxenye zempilo, njengasesikoleni.
Xazulula izingxabano ezivela othandweni
Kuyadingeka ukufundisa izingane ukuxazulula izingxabano ezisuka othandweni nasekuhlonipheni, kushiye ukwesaba eceleni. Kwesinye isikhathi ayikho indlela ecacile yabantu ababili - abadala nengane- yokuthola abakudingayo, kepha izidingo zomuntu ngamunye zingahlonishwa njalo ukuze kufinyelelwe esivumelwaneni esivuna izinhlangothi zombili ngangokunokwenzeka.
Izingane akudingeki zishiye phansi ukungatholi okudingayo ukuze nje zigweme ukuphathwa ngendlela engazigcini isithunzi sazo. Lapho ingane enkulu ithi komunye omncane: 'Yenza lokhu engikutshela khona noma ngizokuzwisa ubuhlungu' kubizwa ngokuthi ukuxhashazwa, kodwa lapho umuntu omdala ekhuluma ngendlela efanayo nengane sikubiza ngokuthi isiyalo… kusobala ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Uma izingane ziphathwa ngendlela ebaphuca isithunzi, usuke uzifundisa ukwenza okufanayo nakwabanye abantu. Uma sifuna izingane ziziphathe ngenhlonipho, ukuthi akukho ukuxhashazwa nokuthi uthando lukhona ezimpilweni zazo, khona-ke kufanele siyeke ukuxhashazwa kwezingane noma sizifundise ngokwesaba.
Amandla okwesaba ayashesha futhi alula, kepha awasebenzi ngempela. Amandla othando adinga umsebenzi omningi futhi athatha isikhathi eside, kepha izingane zizokhula kahle emoyeni futhi azisoze - zaba nemiphumela emibi kuzo noma emphakathini.