Ezikhathini eziningi kunomugqa omuhle kakhulu phakathi kobugovu nokuba nothando lwakho uqobo. Futhi, kungenzeka ukuthi abanye bazokudida. Kepha phakathi kwale mibono kukhona umehluko ophawuleka kakhulu, ngoba umuntu ozithandayo uzicabangela yena kuphela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umuntu ozithandayo, uzibeka phambili kwabanye kodwa abanye abayeki ukucabanga.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izingane zifunde ukuzithanda, ngoba ukuzithanda isinyathelo sokuqala sokuphila impilo ephelele futhi egcwele injabulo. Ngoba abantu abaningi bayakhohlwa, kepha uthando lokuqala okufanele lukhuthazwe yilolo oluzizwelayo. Lokho akusho lokho izingane zakho zizoba nobugovu, ukuthi bangalimaza ukuzithanda noma ukuthi ngeke babe nozwela.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukufundisa izingane ukuba zizithande kuyindlela engcono yokwenza baqinisekise ukuthi bayazi ukuthi bangazazisa futhi bazihloniphe kanjani. Ukuze ngale ndlela, ukuzethemba kwakho kugcinwe njalo kuqiniswa. Ukuze bazithembe futhi bakwazi ukulwela abakufunayo, bazi ukuthi yini abakwaziyo ukuyenza. Kodwa-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ubafundise ukwehlukanisa ukuzithanda kwabo nobugovu, ukuze bangaweqi lowo mugqa omuhle ebesibhekise kuwo.
Kuyini ukuzithanda
Ukuzithanda kuzamukela wena, zihloniphe ngokwazi amandla akho kanye nokushiyeka kwakho. Lokhu kuyinto etholakala ngomsebenzi, ngoba imicabango emihle iyona ekusizayo ukuthi uzithande. Ukukwazisa konke oyikho nakho konke onakho ukufaka isandla kuwo wonke umhlaba. Ngoba uma uyeka ukuzithanda, uma uzijezisa ngemicabango engemihle ngakuwe, uyeka ukubona konke okuhle okukuwe, ngakho-ke, uyeka ukufuna ukuthi abanye abantu bakwazise njengokufanele.
Akunasimo lapho ukuzithanda kwakho kuncike ebudlelwaneni bakho nabantu okuzungezile. Ukuzithanda nokuzazisa wena, ukwazi ukuthi ungakubona kanjani konke ukubaluleka kwakho nakho konke onganikela ngakho kwabanye abantu, lokho kuzithanda wena. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izingane zifunde leli nani zisencane kakhulu. Ngoba ngale ndlela, bazokwazi ukuziqinisa, bazokwazi ukuqeda ezimpilweni zabo abantu abangabaphathi ngendlela efanele. Futhi ngalokhu, bazokwazi ukuphila impilo ephelele, hhayi ukwamukela bona kuphela, kepha nabanye.
Imihlahlandlela yokufundisa izingane ukuzithanda
Ukuba nothando lokuzithanda futhi kuqukethe ukuba munye, ku yiba nozwela nabanye kanye nokukwazi ukulalela abanye. Ngoba ukubaluleka kwakho akusho ukuyeka ukwazisa abanye. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufundisa izingane ukuthi zizithande ngaphandle kokuwela ebugovu. Lezi ezinye zeziqondiso okufanele uqale ngazo, kodwa khumbula, ukuzamukela, ukuzethemba futhi ukuzithanda kungamagugu okufanele asetshenziswe ngokunakekela impilo yonke.
- Yamukela ukugxekwa: Ukuzithanda kutholakala ngokusebenzisa sebenza ngokwakho nokwenza ngcono kulezo zici entula kuzo. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungabalalela kanjani abanye, wamukele ukugxekwa ukuze uthuthuke.
- Yiba nozwela: Ngoba zibeke endaweni yabanye, ngoba ukuzicabangela wena kuqala akusho ukuyeka ukucabanga ngabanye.
- Sekela futhi uphe: Izingane kufanele zifunde ukuba nesandla esivulekile ngaphandle kokulindela ukubuyiselwa, okungukuthi, ukusekela. Okuphambene nalokho kungaba ubugovu, ngakho-ke ukwabelana ngokudla okulula nezinye izingane noma amathoyizi nezingane zakini kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi kube isenzo sokupha, ngaphandle kokulindela umvuzo Ngokubuyisa.
- Yazi ukuthi ungazixolela kanjani: Ukuzethemba nakho kuya nge yamukela amaphutha bese uvumela ukwehluleka, ngoba kulapho kuphela lapho bengafunda khona ukuzixolela ngakho-ke bathethelele nabanye.
- Ukuba nothando lwakho uqobo akusho ukuthi uhlala ungcono njalo: lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele ifakwe ezinganeni, akufani nokufuna inguqulo engcono kakhulu yakho ukwedlula ukufuna njalo ukuba phambili kubo bonke abanye.
Ngokuzethemba okuqinile kanye namagugu afakwe kahle, izingane zizokwazi ukuzazisa, ukuzithanda nokuzihlonipha futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, zinike ukwaziswa kwabanye.