Ubusha yisikhathi esinzima lapho izingane ziba yintsha lapho sezizoba ngabantu abasha. Lolu shintsho alulula futhi kunezinguquko eziningi ezingeni lomzimba nelingokomzwelo. Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bazilungiselele kulesi sigaba ukusiza izingane zabo futhi ngaleyo ndlela zivimbele ekuzibandakanyeni ekuziphatheni okuyingozi.
Kulesi sigaba, abazali bangaba nezinkinga eziningi, ikakhulukazi lapho izingane zabo ezisencane zihlala nabangane bazo futhi zichitha amahora kude nasekhaya. Ukwethemba nokuxhumana kulesi sigaba kubalulekile ukuvikela intsha ekubandakanyeni ekuziphatheni okuyingozi lokho kubeka ubuqotho babo ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo engcupheni.
Kungani bengaba nokuziphatha okuyingozi
Noma imuphi umsebenzi ungadala ukungaqiniseki okuthile, ukungathembani, ukudumala, ukungabaza, ukusola noma izinkinga emndenini ngoba izingane ezisencane kungenzeka ukuthi ziziphatha ngendlela eyingozi kakhulu.
Lokhu ngokujwayelekile, lapho kwenzeka kungenxa yokungavuthwa kwentsha, ukungabi nalwazi kwabo ebusweni bempilo kanye nezinkinga abangaba nazo futhi abangahlanganyeli nabazali babo ngenxa yezinkinga zokuxhumana nabo. Ngisho nokwesaba ukwahlulelwa abanye.
Ingcindezi yezenhlalo nayo ingadlala indima ekuziphatheni okungafanele kubantu abasha. Kwesinye isikhathi, ngoba bafuna ukwamukeleka kwabanye, bamukela isimilo esiyingozi ngoba nje bezivumela ukuthi bathathwe yingcindezi yenhlalo evela kubangani. Ngalo mqondo, Kubalulekile ukusebenzela izingane kusukela ebuncaneni bemingcele, ukwazi ukuthi cha noma ukuzethemba ukuze lokhu kungenzeki.
Abazali abazi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngezimo izingane zabo ezizithola zikuzo lapho beshiya ikhaya. Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi awukwazi ukuvimba ingane yakho ekuziphatheni noma kokunye, ungayisiza ngamathuluzi adingekayo futhi wazi ukuthi ungathatha kanjani isinqumo esihle uma ungekho phambi kwayo futhi ihlangabezana nesimo esidinga isimilo esithile, ukugwema ukuthi kungale ndlela, isimilo esingamukeleki.
Ukukhulisa Intsha Ukugwema Ukungqubuzana
Intsha isengozini ngokomzwelo futhi ayizinzile, ikakhulukazi lapho ibhekene nemizila yobungozi. Uma ufuna izingane zakho zigweme ukuba nokuziphatha okuyingozi, kufanele ucabangele okulandelayo:
- Khuluma nezingane zakho ukuze zenze ngcono ukuxhumana emndenini futhi zithuthukise izindinganiso ezibaluleke njengokuthembeka.
- Hlela ukuphuma kwabo nezingane zakho futhi ugcine ukuxhumana okuhle lapho behamba ekhaya.
- Siza izingane zakho ukuthi ziveze imizwa yazo nokuthi uma zinokungabaza ukuthi zikwenza ngaphandle kokwesaba.
- Lalela izingane zakho ngaphandle kokuziphazamisa lapho ziveza umbono wazo.
- Musa ukubathathela izinqumo, kungcono ukuthi ubasize bathathe izinqumo ezinhle.
- Akekho umuntu othanda ukugxekwa noma ukwahlulelwa, izingane ezisakhula ziyakuzonda lokhu ngoba azazi ukuthi zingayidlulisa kanjani le mizwa noma ukuthi ziphendula kanjani.
- Abazali kudingeka baqonde ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi ubudlelwano bomndeni kumele bakhiwe hhayi ukuthi buphele.
- Cabanga ngamagama akho lapho ukhuluma nezingane zakho.
- Uma ukhuluma nentsha yakho, qaphela nolimi lomzimba wakho kanye nolwabo futhi.
- Amagama owasebenzisayo azokusiza wazi ukuthi ucabangani futhi izingane zakho zikwazi ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izinketho anazo nokuthi yiziphi izenzo ezingenzeka ukuthi zenzeke.
- Uyazazi izimpawu ingane yakho ekunikeza zona ukuthi wazi ukuthi unezinkinga ezingokomzwelo.
- Yazi izenzo ongafuni ukuthi izingane zakho zizenze.
- Khuluma nezingane zakho ngokuziphatha okuyingozi futhi uzinike amathuluzi azidingayo ukwazi ukuthi angakugwema kanjani nokuthi kungani.
Uyithonya elikhulu kakhulu ezinganeni zakho
Abazali banethonya elikhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokuhlomisa intsha ukuthi iqonde umehluko phakathi kokuziphatha okwamukelekayo nokungamukeleki (okuyingozi). Ngakho-ke isibonelo sakho nokukhulumisana kwakho okuhle nabo kubalulekile.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho ingaba nokuziphatha okuyingozi, khuluma nabo, ungasebenzisa imishwana elandelayo ukuzama ukumenza abone isizathu noma enze isinqumo esihle kunawo wonke esimweni ngasinye:
- Sicela ucabangisise mayelana nokukhetha ofuna ukukwenza, sikhathazekile ngemiphumela engaba khona
- Mhlawumbe awuboni ukuthi asikhathazekile ngesinqumo ofuna ukusithatha. Singakusiza wenze lokho kukhetha.
- Uma bonke abangane bakho beqa ibhuloho, ubungakwenza yini nawe?
Udinga ukukhuluma nezingane zakho mayelana nokuziphatha okuyingozi noma okungamukeleki. Abazali kudingeka bachaze futhi baxoxe ngokuthi bazizwa kanjani nganoma yiziphi izindaba ezingamukeleki. Ungashiyi lutho ngaphandle! Izingane zakho ebusheni, njengalapho zisencane, zidinga ukwazi ukuthi ulindeleni kuzo ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwazi ukuthi kufanele zenze kanjani.
Abanakho okuhlangenwe nakho empilweni futhi badinga ukuholwa kwakho ukuze baqonde ukuthi kufanele benze kanjani ezimweni ezithile. Hlela ukuzivocavoca nengane yakho lapho nixoxa khona (njengomndeni) umehluko phakathi kokuziphatha okwamukelekayo nokungamukeleki. Uma uthola ukumelana nengane yakho, zama ukuyenza iqonde ukuthi kulula ukukhuluma ngezinkinga ngaphambi kokuba kube nenhlekelele. Isikhathi senhlekelele singagwenywa ngokwenza izinqumo ezinhle. Izinqumo ezifanele zingagwema ubuhlungu obuningi obungokomzwelo.
Ungabhekana kanjani nezinkinga zezingane ezisakhula
Landela lo msebenzi ukuze ukwazi ukuphatha ukuziphatha okungamukeleki noma okuyingozi ezinganeni zakho:
- Nikeza ingane yakho iphepha nepeni, futhi nelungu ngalinye lomndeni.
- Ilungu ngalinye lomndeni kufanele lidwebe amakholomu amane ephepheni.
- Amakholomu kufanele abhalwe ukuthi; izindaba ezamukelekayo, ezingamukeleki, ezinkulu nezincane.
- Qhathanisa ukusebenza kwakho nokwenziwa yilungu ngalinye lomndeni wakho. Lokhu kuzokunikeza umbono wokuthi yiziphi izindlela zokuziphatha abazibheka njengezamukelekayo nezingamukeleki.
- Bakhumbuze ukuthi kuzofanele babambe iqhaza ezinkingeni ezinkulu, eziyinkimbinkimbi nezinkulu ngenkathi bencike kuwe. Imiphumela enezinkinga ingeyabo bonke abantu.
Izinkinga ezinkulu zifaka phakathi: ukubhema, ukuphuza utshwala, ukweba, izidakamizwa, ucansi, izithombe zocansi, amanga, ukuhlukumeza, njll. Yize noma yikuphi ukuziphatha okungakwenza uzizwe kabi emndenini kungathathwa njengokuziphatha okungamukeleki okumele kubhekwane nakho yiwo wonke umuntu ukwazi ukuthi kukhulu kakhulu noma kungakhululeka.