Lapho sicabanga ngokuxhashazwa, sithambekele ekucabangeni njalo ohlangothini lwabafana abahlukunyezwayo. Kodwa-ke, bambalwa kakhulu abazali ababuza umbuzo we "Ngingenzenjani uma ngithola ukuthi indodana yami ixhaphaza umuntu engifunda naye?"
Asihlali sazi njengoba besingathanda ukuthi izingane zethu zenzani noma azenzi ekilasini nokuthi zihlobana kanjani nontanga yazo. Othisha kwesinye isikhathi bayakhungatheka, futhi lokhu kubukeka kwenza izinkinga zingabaluleki futhi bazenze "izinto zobuntwana." Kuvame kakhulu kunalokho kubonakala sengathi abazali bengane ehluphayo abazi ukuthi ingane yabo injani ekilasini.
Umzali angaboni kanjani ukuthi ingane yakhe iyisiqhwaga?
Njengabazali umsebenzi wethu nomsebenzi wethu ukuthola nokubalungisa, kepha kwesinye isikhathi kungumsebenzi onzima, abakwenzi kube lula ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Kwesinye isikhathi ukuhlukumeza akudluli emazwini okusabisa, okungekho muntu omdala okubonayo. Ngisho nomhlukumezi kungenzeka angazi ukuthi abakwenzayo empeleni ukuhlukumeza, ngoba ucabanga ukuthi yilokho okumele akwenze ukuze athole inhlonipho noma ngisho nothando nokwamukelwa abanye abafundi afunda nabo.
Ngeshwa, abakwenzayo yizindlela zokuziphatha eziqinisa ukuphepha nokuzethemba kwesiqhwaga, ngakho abazali bakhe babona indodana yabo, ejwayelekile, ejabule futhi bengatholi sizathu sokukhathazeka. Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi sithathe ngokunganaki imibono elulazayo izingane zethu ezingaba nayo kontanga yazo., noma isimilo esinolaka, ngoba kwesinye isikhathi kunzima ngathi ukubhekana neqiniso.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sazi ozakwabo nokuthi sikhulume nabo ukuze nathi sifunde ngendlela abaxhumana ngayo nabangane babo. Akunandaba ukuthi baqamba amanga kangakanani, ngolunye usuku sizobona okuthile okungajwayelekile futhi senze okuthile ukuze ingane yethu iqonde ukuthi ayinayo indlela eyiyo yokuxoxa.
Izindlela zokuziphatha eziphawuleka kakhulu okufanele uzicabangele yilezi:
- Ukuhlukumeza abanye.
- Ukungabi nozwelo nababuthakathaka noma labo abahlukile kuye.
- Ukulungiswa kwendlela enolaka nabanye abantu, yohlobo "uyakufanelekela ngoba ...".
- Uyaphindisela noma uphendulela ukukhathazeka kwakhe komunye lapho ehluleka ukufeza izifiso zakhe.
Ungaqala kuphi ngemuva kokuyithola?
Lapho usuqinisekisile ukuthi empeleni ingane yakho ayiziphathi kahle nomlingani wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uthuke kancane futhi ungazi kahle okufanele ukwenze. Kufanele uhlale uzolile futhi uhlole ubukhali bokuziphatha kwengane yakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi singathukutheli futhi senze isimo sibe sibi kakhulu.
Lesi sikhungo sizosiza zombili izinhlaka ukuphatha noma yimuphi umehluko ongaba khona futhi onakalise ubudlelwano phakathi kozakwabo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi bonke labo ababandakanyekayo basebenze njengeqembu bakha ukusebenzisana okuhle ukuze ubudlelwane obuhle bugeleze phakathi kwezinhlangothi zombili.
Uma kwenzeka ingane yakho iyidinga, isikhungo singakweluleka nangolunye uhlobo lwezokwelapha, uma kunesidingo ukulawula ulaka lwakhe noma ukungabi naluzwela. Akufanele wesabe uma kungenzeka uyidinge, akuzona zonke izingane ezizalwa zilingana futhi akuzona zonke ezisabela ngokufanayo kuzikhuthazi. Uma kwenzeka ingane yakho ikhubazekile ekukhuleni kwayo nganoma yisiphi isimo, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuyithola ngokushesha okukhulu futhi uyixazulule, lokho kuzogwema ububi obukhulu.
Ngokuvikela, ukuqwashisa
Uma usuvele ubonile ukuthi ingane yakho yenze iphutha, ubeke izindlela futhi ukwazile ukuxazulula udweshu, siyakuhalalisela!
Ukuzivocavoca kwe-Dynamics yeqembu kusetshenziselwa ukufundisa ngokubaluleka kokusebenza ngokulingana.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ingane yakho izizwe iphatheke kabi lapho ibona futhi yazi ububi eyenze komunye umlingani. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokududuza lokhu kungakhululeki mkhuthaze ukuba enze abanye abafundi afunda nabo babone inkinga yokuxhashazwa. Lokhu ngeke kukusize kuphela ukugwema ezinye izimo zokuhlukunyezwa, kodwa kuzophinda futhi kuqinisekise ukuzethemba kwakho futhi kuthuthukise ukukhula kwakho komuntu siqu, ufunde ukuthi sonke singathuthuka njengabantu noma ngabe senza amaphutha.