Akuwona wonke umuntu oqonda ukuzwela okuphezulu, kepha kuyadingeka ukwazi ukuthi uma unengane ebucayi kakhulu, akuyona ingane eyindida noma engajwayelekile, kufanele umqonde kangcono ukuze ezizwe ethandwa futhi ehlonishwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kulokho okungaba yisilima kuwe, kungaba yinhlekelele.
Kodwa-ke, khumbula ukuthi ukuze ibhekwe njengokuzwela kakhulu, ingane kufanele ikhombise lezi zimfanelo ezinhlanu: ukusabela okukhulu ngokomzwelo, ukucubungula okuhlangenwe nakho ngokujulile, kunozwela kakhulu, kukhulunywa ngokweqile, kuyazwela kuzisusa ezicashile nakakhulu.
Ukuzwela ngokomzwelo
Kodwa ingabe uyingane ezwela kakhulu? Gcina lokhu okulandelayo engqondweni:
- Unokuthinteka okukhulu kwemizwa: injabulo ejulile, ukwesaba, intukuthelo, nokudabuka.
- Khala kalula; imizwa ilimala kalula
- Cubungula ngokujulile okuhlangenwe nakho - zindla ngezinto
- Kuchazwe othisha ngokuthi "bathule," "bahoxisiwe," "banamahloni," noma "bangenisa."
- Ukuzwelana kakhulu nokunakekela - kukhombisa ukukhathalela okukhulu kwabanye.
- Kukhuliswe kalula - kudinga ukuphumula okuningi noma "isikhathi sokuphumula"
- Imvamisa iba namaphupho amabi noma ikhumbule amaphupho acacile
- Unonembeza futhi uzimisele ukujabulisa; ukhathazeka ngokwenza izinto kahle
- Ubonakala evuthiwe futhi enokuqonda ngeminyaka yakhe; ubuza imibuzo ecabangayo
Ukuzwela ezintweni ezicashile
Ngaphezu kwamazwana angenhla, kubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele ingxenye lapho izwela khona kakhulu kuzisusa ezicashile. Lokhu kusho:
- Izindwangu ezibucayi noma "ezilumayo" noma amalebula ezingutsheni
- Izikhalazo zokushisa kakhulu, ukunamathela kakhulu, ubukhali, njll., Lapho izingane zakini nabanye kungabonakali ukuthi zikhathazwa okufanayo
- Gwema noma ukhononde ngezindawo ezimatasa noma ezinomsindo; izaziso zemisindo nephunga abanye abangalinaki
- Izwela kakhulu ubuhlungu kunezinye izingane.
- Ukukhetha ngokukhethwa kokudla; ingakhetha ukudla okuthambile noma igweme ukudla kokungaguquguquki okuthile
- Imininingwane yezaziso emvelweni, kufaka phakathi izinguquko ezicashile egumbini noma ezingutsheni zabanye
- Khetha izinkomba zomphakathi ezicashile: wazi ngokungajwayelekile imizwa, ukukhuluma komzimba, izinkulumo zabanye; ine-intuition engajwayelekile
Qaphela ngezimo zenoveli
Ezimweni zenoveli lezi zici ziyamchaza:
- Ithandabuza futhi ikude ezimeni ezintsha nasezindaweni ezintsha
- Imvamisa kukhungathekiswa ezindaweni eziyinkimbinkimbi zenhlalo
- Izidingo zokwethulwa ekushintsheni kancane kancane
- Hamba uye kokunye okusha
- Akathandi ukumangala nokwethuka
- Unamahloni futhi unqikaza nabantu ongabazi; wephuza ukufudumeza abantu
- Uyajabula ukudlala wedwa noma ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi wedwa egumbini lakho