Ukuba ngumzali akulula, futhi uma kukhulunywa ngokukhulisa ingane eyeve eshumini nambili, lapho-ke kungaba nzima kakhulu. Intsha ibukeka njengabantu abadala abazimele abancane, kepha iqiniso ukuthi zisencike kakhulu futhi ziyakudinga ngaso sonke isikhathi. Intsha izofuna ukukukhombisa ukuthi iyakwazi ukuzenzela izinto, kepha iqiniso ukuthi lokhu akunjalo kuzo zonke izimo.
Badinga nokuthi ubatshele ukuthi uyabathanda futhi ubakhombise uthando lwakho olungenamibandela. Badinga ukwazi ukuthi bayamukelwa futhi bayathandwa ngabazali babo, ngoba kungale ndlela kuphela lapho bezokwazi ukwakha ubuntu babo nokuthi ukuzethemba kwabo kunamandla futhi kuyanda ngaphandle kokuzikhukhumeza. Kepha, kunenye ingxenye yentsha yokuba ngumzali okungewona wonke umuntu okhuluma ngayo kepha lokho kwenzeka nsuku zonke ngaphakathi kwawo wonke amakhaya: izikhalazo ezingapheli ezivela kubazali.
Izikhalazo ezivela kubazali
Abazali bakhononda ngentsha yabo ezikhathini eziningi zosuku. Bakwenza phambi kwabo noma ngemuva kwabo lapho bekhuluma nabanye omama noma obaba abanezingane ezineminyaka efanayo, noma mhlawumbe kuphela lapho bekhuluma nezihlobo eziseduze. Imvamisa bakwenza ukukhipha noma ukuthola izixazululo zezinkinga abazibona zinkulu kakhulu.
Iqiniso ukuthi intsha ayidingi ukulalela lezi zikhalazo ezihlala zikhona, ngoba kuzonciphisa ukuzethemba kwazo futhi kufakazele ukuthi azifanelekile, noma ukuthi ziyavilapha, noma zingumgwaqo, noma ukuthi azilaleli. .. bagcina ngokufaka ilebula eliyingozi lelo bazali abalibekezelele ngokungazi ngezikhalazo zabo ezihlala zikhona.
Amalebula azokwenza intsha icabange ukuthi injena, yize benamandla anele okukwazi ukuba nokuziphatha okwanele. Izikhalazo zidala ukungakhululeki emndenini futhi zigcine sezigcina, zidale ukuthi abazali nezingane baqhelelane ngokomzwelo ... Abanye ngoba bekhononda kanti abanye ngoba bezizwa becasulwa kaninginingi.
Intsha ayidingi izikhalazo zakho
Intsha ayidingi izikhalazo, okudingayo yimithetho nemikhawulo okufanele iyilandele. Yize imithetho nemikhawulo ingahle iphikisane nalokho intsha ekufunayo kule minyaka yokuthi 'Ngifuna ukuzimela', 'awungithumeli', 'Ngiyakwazi okufanele ngikwenze, akudingeki ungitshele ', iqiniso ukuthi badinga ukuthi bazizwe bephephile futhi bazi ukuthi benzeni ngasosonke isikhathi.
Ngaphandle kwemithetho, abasebasha ngeke bazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani noma baziphathe kanjani futhi kungaholela ekulingiseni, mhlawumbe ngamamodeli angalungile njengalawo abonwa kuthelevishini noma abakubona esikoleni esiphakeme. Kukho konke lokhu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uyeke ukukhononda ngezingane zakho bese uqala ukwenza izinto ekhaya, ubeke imithetho nemikhawulo okufanele wonke umuntu ayilandele ukuze athuthukise ukuhlala ndawonye. Inhlonipho iyohlala iyisisekelo sale mithetho kanye nempilo yomndeni.
Intsha kule minyaka ikhula ngokushesha okukhulu futhi futhi kuyisikhathi ezimpilweni zayo lapho iqala khona ukubheka ukuthi ikusasa layo lizoba njani nokuthi ifuna ukulandela yiphi indlela ukufeza amaphupho ayo. Amanye amaphupho okuthi njengabazali, kufanele ubasekele ... yize ngasikhathi sinye ukhombisa ukuthi iyiphi indlela eyiyo yokufinyelela lawo maphupho.
Isikhathi sobusha yisikhathi esinzima
Isikhathi sobusha yisikhathi esinzima, kubo bobabili abasakhulayo kanye nakubazali okufanele babafundise futhi baqiniseke ukuthi basendleleni efanele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Intsha isesigabeni soshintsho futhi kungaba nokungaboni ngaso linye nokungabekezelelani okuqhubekayo phakathi kwezizukulwane ezihlala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa. Ngaphambi kokudala amaqembu ahlukene ngaphakathi kwendlu eyodwa, udinga ukuthatha umoya ojulile bese ubheka kabusha isikhundla sakho njengomzali.
Ngezansi uzothola uhlu lwezizathu zokuthi kungani ungayisebenzisa ngokugcwele iminyaka yakho yobusha, futhi ungayiphenduli ibe yiminyaka yokufuna ukuyikhohlwa. Ungesabi ubusha bezingane zakho, ngoba akukubi njengoba kubonakala. Ngisho nakulezo zinsuku lapho kubonakala sengathi awunakho ukulondolozwa ngokomzwelo ukubhekana nezimo ezithile, ngisho nakulezo zinsuku, ungathola ukuthi kunezinzuzo okufanele uzithole empilweni yakho yobusha.
Izizathu zokuthi ukuba nentsha kumnandi kanjani
Bayazigeza bageze
Cishe wayithanda ngenkathi indodana yakho eyeve eshumini nambili isewusana futhi uyigeza… kepha bekuhlanya ekupheleni kosuku, ikakhulukazi uma unezingane ezingaphezu kweyodwa. Ngemuva kwalokho bekufanele wenze isidlo sakusihlwa ngokushesha futhi ubalungiselele ukulala ngokulandela inqubo yabo. Manje, ngakolunye uhlangothi, izinto zihluke kakhulu futhi ngenkathi wenza isidlo sakusihlwa, ingane yakho igeza ngokuzola yodwa, ngaphandle kosizo.
Ulala amahora amaningi
Ngokuqinisekile awubukhohlwanga ubusuku obude izingane zakho ezikudlulise ngabo lapho ziseyizinsana noma izingane ezincane. Manje ngeke baphinde bakunike leyo nkinga (ngaphandle kokuthi uma behamba nabangane, ukuthi baze bafike ekhaya unenhliziyo engahlaliseki). Kepha uma belele ubusuku bonke bese bevuka ... abadingi ukuthi wenze noma yini, Bazenzela ibhulakufesi bazigqokise bona!
Bangenza izinto bebodwa
Uma ubafundise kahle, bazokwazi ukuba nemisebenzi yasendlini yansuku zonke ezokwenza impilo yakho ibe lula. Dala ishadi lomsebenzi womndeni ukuze nabo benze imisebenzi efana nokubeka imishini yokuwasha, ukulengisa izingubo, ukugoqa izingubo zokuwasha izingubo, ukugeza izitsha, ukusula izintuli, ukukhuhla phansi, ukukhipha inja, ukuyothenga, njll. Yize ekuqaleni bangabaza, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bazokujwayela futhi bazobona ukuthi ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole kungenye yemikhuba okufanele bayenze.
Banemibono yabo
Intsha inemibono yayo futhi iyathanda ukuba nayo. Kepha njengobaba nomama, ngaphezu kokuba nombono wabo, kufanele ubafundise ukuthi babe nezindlela zabo futhi baveze imibono yabo ngaso sonke isikhathi behlonipha abanye, ngozwela nangokuqiniseka.
Imibono yentsha yakho ezikhathini eziningi kungenzeka ukuthi ayakheki kahle noma ingaziswanga kahle, noma ukuthi nje abakuqondi kahle abakhuluma ngakho. Kwesinye isikhathi izingane zakho zingahle zicabange ukuthi ziphikisana nawe kepha wena uzibandakanya ezweni labo futhi uzama ukwenza umqondo wazo zonke lezo zinxushunxushu. Uma ubenza bacabange, uzizwa sengathi wenza umsebenzi omuhle, akunjalo?