Ukufunda ngokuncelisa ibele akufani nokukuzwa ngendlela esondelene kangako.
Baningi phakathi kwethu abalwela ukuncelisa ibele futhi ukuncelisa isikhathi eside, hhayi lokho kuphela, kepha umqondo wokuthi umama nendodana yibo abanegama lokugcina ngale ndaba. Indima kamama kule nqubo ingabandakanyeka emizweni ejulile, lapho abanye begxambukela. Uzothola ukuthi iziphi ezingezansi.
Kukhona imizwa yokudabuka nesizungu uma ungumama, ingasaphathwa eyokuthi uma ukhetha ukuncelisa ingane yakho ibele. I-loop lapho owesifazane nomama bacwiliswa khona kungakhathaza, hhayi kuphela ngenxa yakho konke akuphethe ngemuva: ekhaya, emsebenzini, ukukhulisa ingane ..., kepha ngoba indawo yomndeni nomphakathi kubekwe phambi kwakhe ukuze anikeze umbono, ahlulele futhi anqume, noma okungenani uzame njalo.
Lapho owesifazane ethatha isinqumo sokuba ngumama, uyaqiniseka futhi aqiniseke ukuthi ufuna ukubhekana nesigaba esisha, esihle futhi ngasikhathi sinye esinzima kakhulu. Lapho nithatha isinqumo sokuba ngumama nezithandani, kusobala ukuthi niyakhuluma phakathi kwenu nobabili. Phakathi kwalokhu okubili, izimfundiso eziningi ezalandela ezizosetshenziswa enganeni zithathwa njengokunqunywa, kepha akumele sikhohlwe ukuthi konke kuyiziqalo nemibono eyedlule. Ukuba ngumama, ukuqonda, ukwazisa, ukuzivocavoca ..., uze uphathe ingane ezandleni zakho, uyibuke futhi uyazi, awazi lutho. Kuze kube yileso sikhathi esiqondile, awukwazi ukukhetha enye indlela noma enye.
Yilapho inkinga isungulwa khona. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo ababelindele ukuthi wenze ngendlela ethile, noma ababevumelene nawe ngezinqumo ezithile, bangazizwa bekhohlisiwe ngemuva kwezinguquko abazibonayo ezenzweni zakho. Njengoba ngiqonde, owesifazane angacabanga ukuthi uzokwenza izinto ngandlela thile, kepha lokhu ngeke kuqiniswe ngokubaluleka, ngaphandle kokuba nokuhlukahluka okwaziwayo kusukela ekuzalweni kwengane.
Owesifazane angacabanga ukuthi uzoncelisa izinyanga ezintathu noma ezine, ukuthi ngeke abe naye embhedeni wakhe, kepha Akufani ukucabanga ngakho njengokuphila, ukuzizwa, nokuba nomthwalo wokuba ngumuntu. Ukuncelisa ibele kubonakala kubanda uma kukhulunywa ngakho, kepha imvamisa umama oqala ukuncelisa, uthuthela kolunye uhlangothi lomzwelo futhi angazitholi izizathu ezidingekayo zokuyeka.
Imvelo nomphakathi maqondana nokuncelisa ibele
Ukuba ngumama kuyinto enhle kakhulu ekhona, kepha kungakhathaza. Kwabesifazane, amandla engqondo nawomzimba kufanele ahambisane, ukuze angabi buthakathaka. Uma, ungezwe esigabeni esisha uqobo, ungeza ukuncelisa ingane, khona-ke umthwalo ongokomzwelo ungadlula imikhawulo engalindelekile. Ngenxa yalokho futhi ukuze yonke into ibekezeleke, imvelo kufanele ihlale ibambisene nowesifazane aqine futhi azethembe.
Ngemuva kokuba ngumama futhi zonke izinguquko ezenzekayo, zombili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, owesifazane angawela ku- ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, nokuzizwa kwakhe enecala kugqama ngokungatholi izimpendulo ngokwenzeka kuye. Kuyinto elula, evela emphakathini, ukwenza ukuhlaziywa konembeza nokwenza ukuze ngesikhathi sokuba ngumama futhi ikakhulukazi ukuncelisa, owesifazane angazizwa esekelwa futhi awekho amacala wesizungu nokwenqatshwa.
Kuyadabukisa ukuthi labo abakuthanda kakhulu abahlali eceleni kwakho futhi basekele izinqumo zakho.
Njengoba unengane yakho futhi uhlala ezimeni ezithile esikhunjeni sakho, ukucabanga kwakho kuyashintsha. Ukufunda ngokuncelisa ibele, ukuzwa ngezinzuzo zenu nobabili, akufani nokukuzwa kusondele kangaka. Abaningi bethu bayazi ukuthi ukuncelisa kusho ukuthini, isibopho siyinto engachazeki futhi ekhethekile, ngenxa yalokho, Labo abayizibukeli nje kungenzeka bangaqondi ukuthi sizizwa kanjani, njengomama. Ngakho-ke isizungu sikamama onquma ukukhetha ukuncelisa.
Imindeni, imibhangqwana ..., labo ababekhulume ngale ndaba ngaphambi kokuba ingane ifike umndeni, zidalwe zinelungelo lokuyalela izenzo ezithile kamuva. Kudalwa ingxoxo engapheli ngakho, iphefumulelwa emoyeni. Kumama othatha isinqumo sokuqhubeka nokuncelisa, akukho ukuxhaswa kwezenhlalo futhi uvame ukwaliwa noma ukuvezwa ecaleni. Ukuze umphakathi uncelise ingane ibele ngaphezu kwezinyanga eziyisithupha noma unyaka usevele umude, kwe-WHO, ukuncelisa ibele kufanele kube okuncishisanayo kuze kube seminyakeni engu-2 futhi kusukela lapho kuye phambili njengokufiswa ngumama nengane.
Uma lokhu kwenzeka, umama akudingeki nje kuphela ukuthi abhekane nenkinga engokomzwelo ebandakanya ukuba ngumama, kepha futhi kufanele Bhekana nemibono engapheli nsuku zonke yokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuyeka ukuncelisa, ukuthi ingane inkulu kakhulu nokuthi uyenzela kabi ukuzimela kwayo, ukuzicabangela nokuzithuthukisa, akukho okunye okuqhubekayo kusuka eqinisweni. Kuyadabukisa ukuthi labo abakuthanda kakhulu abahlali eceleni kwakho futhi basekele izinqumo zakho.
Ukuzwa ukwenqatshwa abanye kunobugovu futhi kunesihluku, kusobala ukuthi iphesenti lokungazi noma le-pasotism lingabonakala. Kuyinkimbinkimbi ukuthi abazibeki eceleni kukanina noma bazwelane naye nezifiso zomntwana, ikakhulu lapho lesi senzo singalimazi muntu. Omama kufanele bathole amandla okubhekana futhi babhekane nalabo abasivimbezele ngezinkulumo zabo futhi bazimise njengabasindisi be isenzo esiqhubeka naso ngoba yikho okungcono kakhulu esingakunika izingane zethu.
Singomama ngakho-ke singabesifazane, okuthi, njengakwezinye izici eziningi zempilo yethu, kufanele bathethelele izenzo zethu kwabanye, kube sengathi asikwazi ukuzinqumela. Kumele sikhumbule ngendlela enobudlova ukuthi bayizingane zethu. Akuyona yonke into elula kangaka. Odokotela bezingane, abazali, ogogo ..., akulula kangako ukuqala inqubo noma ukuthatha isinqumo nokushintsha ubusuku obubodwa noma usethe umnqamulajuqu. Uma wonke umuntu enelisekile aze afike ezinyangeni eziyisithupha ubudala, kwenzekani ngemuva kwalokho ukushintsha imibono yabo? Sisebenzela okuhle kwezingane zethu futhi kufanele sibe nesibopho futhi sihambisane nemibono yethu. Le ndlela yiyo esifuna ukuthi izingane zethu ziyithathe.