Njengomzali, kwesinye isikhathi uyakwazi futhi KUFANELE uthi 'cha' ezinganeni zakho. Kungenzeka ukuthi wake wahlangana nengane abazali bayo abangazange bathi cha entweni ethile, futhi kungenzeka nokuthi ubone kuye isimilo esingalungile, njenge-capricious or even despot.
Yimiphumela yokungabi namithetho noma imingcele, ngaphezu kokuzenyeza nokungazethembi ngokwakho nakwabanye.
Leyo ngane engenamikhawulo izototoswa kakhulu kunalokho ekudingayo futhi isimo sayo sengqondo sikwenza kucace bha. Lapho abazali beshesha ukuthi 'yebo' ngaso sonke isikhathi (ukugwema izingxabano), izingane zikhula zicabanga ukuthi umhlaba uzothi "yebo" kuzo zonke izifiso nezifiso zazo. Noma kunjalo, lelo akulona izwe langempela.
Izingane zizokuzwa ukwenqatshwa, usizi, futhi zitshelwe ukuthi AZI kaningi empilweni yazo. Uma bengakuthola ekhaya futhi bafunde ukusingatha futhi babhekane no "cha," bayoba ngcono ekuhambeni kwesikhathi. Bazohlonyiselwa kangcono ukuphatha i-NO emhlabeni wangempela, Ngoba uzobe umtshele ngezikhathi ezithile futhi uzobe efunda ukulawula ukudumazeka nokukhungatheka.
Izingane nazo ziyazi ezinye izindlela. Isibonelo, uma kuwumdlalo wevidiyo omusha abawufunayo, ubatshela ukuthi cha, kufanele uwunqobe. Ukusuka lapho, ingane izobheka etafuleni futhi abale ukuthi imiphi imisebenzi emingaki okufanele ayenze ukuze anqobe umdlalo wevidiyo. Bazofunda namanye amakhono abalulekile kule nqubo, njengokuphathwa kwesikhathi nokwaneliseka kokuzuza okuthile ngokwenza izinto kahle. Ukuthi "cha" nokunikeza ezinye izindlela zokuthi ingane yakho ithole lokho ekufunayo kuyakunika amandla. Lokhu kubafundisa ukuzenzela izinto.
Ukuzithokozisa okulibazisekile nakho kunamandla. Lapho izingane zifunda ukuthi zingazitholela okuthile ezikufunayo ngempela, lapho ekugcineni zikuthola, zizizwa zinamandla. Basebenza kanzima futhi bafeza umgomo wabo. Bazizuzele bona. Le yi-ejenti enamandla yokusiza ukukhulisa ukuzethemba. Gcina uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe ukuze ingane yakho ibe nethuba lokwakha ukuzethemba ngokukuqedela. nokuhola izinto ozifunayo empilweni.