Uma ingane yakho idlala ngonodoli kungaba yingxenye yesimo semvelo, impela kuhlobene naleyo ngxenye yesilisa yokwenza imikhuba yakhe emincane ukuze ngokuzayo akwazi ube ngumzali futhi ube yingxenye yomndeni.
Vumela izingane zidlale ngonodoli akugcini ngokuba nokuningi okuphathelene nomphakathi wethu, njengoba iqhubeka nokuphuma kokujwayelekile. Isenzo sokudlala ngamathoyizi afana nodoli asiqedi ingxenye yakhe yobudoda, kepha kunalokho siba lusizo ekukhuleni kwakhe.
Kungani ingane yami idlala ngonodoli?
Sihlale sichaza noma sihlukanisa amathoyizi "ngamathoyizi abafana" nangokuthi "amathoyizi amantombazane" ukuzimisela okungachazwanga kahle. Indawo yethu uqobo ibhekisisa iqhaza lobaba ukwenza eminye imisebenzi engahlangene naleyo yabesifazane.
Ukukhangisa bekudala njalo lokhu kwehlukaniswa nokwehlukaniswa kobulili, lapho kwenziwa khona ukuqhuma kwamabhomu njalo ukudala amaqiniso angenabulungisa. Kancane kancane kunezinkampani zamathoyizi ezijwayela imikhankaso yazo futhi ezinikeza ithuba lokuthi izingane zidlale ngonodoli nakho konke okuphathelene nalokho, funda ukuba ngabantu abadala abangcono ngokudlala.
Ukuba nengane yakho idlale ngonodoli kuyizindaba ezimnandi, ngoba bazakhele imihlaba yabo engokomcabango, ukusungula ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo kuzoba njani nokuthi bangaxhumana kanjani nomunye nomunye. Izingane zinekhono loku sebenzisa umcabango wakho bese uwuguqula ube yinoma yini futhi eziningi zazo zisebenzisa onodoli njengesivivinyo samakhono omphakathi ikusasa eliwaphethe, njenge ukuxazulula izingxabano, ukusebenzisana nokubambisana.
Onodoli nokuxhumana kwabo nezingane
Namuhla zikhona emakethe izinhlamvu ezahlukahlukene ezimele izindima nemisebenzi (ijaji, ezempilo, abadlali bebhola likanobhutshuzwayo, odokotela, othisha ...) ngamathoyizi asiza izingane ukuthi zikhombe onodoli bazo futhi zicabange ngezimo ezahlukahlukene ezingapheli. Ngakho-ke, ingane isivele inikezwa ithuba lokufunda ngokudlala nangonodoli. njengokunye okuhlukile kokufunda.
Umdlalo onodoli kukhiqiza amakhono okuqonda, kwakha ukukhula kwengqondo kanye nokukhula ngokomzwelo. Ingane edlala ngonodoli ivezwa ekwazini ukuthi kanjani hlela futhi uqaqe imisebenzi yakho yasekhaya esikhathini esizayo. Uzozijwayeza amakhono wansuku zonke ngethoyizi lakho njengokuligeza, ukulondla, ukuhamba nokugqoka.
Abazali babhekene nobukhona obunjalo ekufundeni kwabo ukudlala noma ukuzijabulisa akudingeki banqume ubulili bezingane zabo. Baningi abafana abadlala ngamathoyizi ahlobene namantombazane, namantombazane adlala ngezimoto namabhola. Bese bekhula bezwa ubulili ukuthi bangobani.
Okusemqoka ngothando nangenhlonipho
Uma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ingane edlala lo mdlalo iyikhombisa ngokuthambekela kwayo kwezocansi njengobungqingili, Akudingeki nokuthi ubhekane nenkinga yangempela. Kuyaziwa ukuthi namuhla kunabazali abaningi abesabayo nabadidekile ngezindlela zabo zobulili. Kunokubandlulula okuningi nezingcindezi zenhlalo lokho kusekhona esikweni lethu ngakho-ke sihlala senqaba ukuvumela "indodana yethu idlale ngonodoli".
Kunzima ukucacisa kusuka lapha okungaba yisinqumo esihle kunazo zonke. Uma amasiginali ecacile, okufanele sikucabangele ngukuthi uthando nenhlonipho, kuyiqiniso langempela, kodwa kunzima ukulenza. Kunoma isiphi isibonakaliso uma ubona ukuthi ingane yakho iyathanda ukudlala ngonodoli ungalokothi uhlekise noma wakhe izinkulumo njenge "izinza".
Ingane ethanda ukudlala ngokukhululeka nabazali abayicindezelayo iyenza yiba namahloni ngokwenzayo futhi uzizwe udelelekile. Uma kusenza sibe namahloni ukubona izingane zethu zinje, sikhuthaza kuphela ukuthi "bazothini" ngalo mphakathi. Into efanelekile ukushiya khulisa ingane yakho ngothando nangenhlonipho ukuze ufunde ukuzithanda nokuzihlonipha.
Izingane zethu ziyigugu kakhulu, kumele sizithande ngoba ngezethu, futhi abazali abaningi benza izinqumo ezinzima futhi balahlekelwa yimibuthano yomphakathi emsulwa. Njengesincomo esihle kakhulu, kufanele singene emkhakheni wethu njengabazali, sinikeze ukwazisa nokudumisa.