Akunakwenzeka ukulawula bonke ubungane bezingane esikoleni, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ubungani obuphikisayo buzobenza buqine kakhulu. Lapho izingane zisencane, ungalawula imibuthano yazo ngokwakha imisebenzi yokudlala futhi ubuke ukuxhumana kwazo ngakunye eduze. Kepha lapho izingane zifinyelela esikoleni samabanga aphansi, konke kuyashintsha. Izingane ziqala ukwakha indlela yazo yomphakathi, into engadala ukuthi zakhe abangane abangaba nethonya elibi.
Ngisho nobungane bengane yakho bungaba yingozi, ikakhulukazi uma ingane ihlale ingena enkingeni futhi ezinye izingane ziyishukumisela ukuthi ibambe iqhaza ezimweni ezahlukahlukene ezingafanele. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho inomngani onethonya elibi, manje yisikhathi sokuthi wazi ukuthi wenzeni kulezi zimo.
Okufanele ukwenze lapho umngane wengane yakho eyithonya elibi
Gwema ukumgxeka
Noma ufuna ukukwenza futhi ucabanga ukuthi kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuhlukanisa ingane yakho nomngani wakhe, kubalulekile ukuthi ugweme ukuyigxeka. Kungcono ukuhlala kude ngokomzwelo nobungane ingane yakho enabo naloyo mngani, kepha ngaphandle kokubheka kwenye indawo futhi. Intsha ingamela abangane bayo futhi awufuni ukubamba iqhaza kulo mzabalazo wamandla.
Ukugxeka umngani wakhe kuzokwenza ubuhlobo phakathi kwengane yakho nomngani wakhe buqine. Esikhundleni salokho, ungaphawula ngokubheka ukuthi abangane babo baziphatha kanjani ngaphandle kokwenza izahlulelo zenani eliphansi noma ukugxeka.. Udinga ukucabanga ngokuziphatha kwengane yakho futhi umenze abone ukuthi kufanele abhekane nezenzo zakhe nezenzo zakhe, ngaphandle kokuziphatha kwabangane bakhe.
Beka imingcele ecacile
Umuntu osemusha unamandla anele okukwazi ukuthatha isinqumo ngaphandle kokwephula imithetho noma cha, futhi lokhu kungenza abazali bangazi kahle ukuthi bangenelele nini ukuqondisa izingane zabo endleleni efanele. Kuyadingeka ukukhumbula ukuthi ungubaba noma umama nokuthi nguwe kuphela okufanele ngabe futhi ungabeka imingcele yengane yakho.
Uma wazi ukuthi umngane wengane yakho unethonya elibi futhi umbandakanya ekuziphatheni okungafanele, kufanele ubeke imingcele ekutheni uchitha isikhathi esingakanani nalowo muntu futhi uvumele ingane yakho ikutshele ukuthi wenzani nokuthi ukuphi ukuze akwazi ngikwethembe. Uma eqamba amanga kuwe noma engaziphathi kahle, kuzobaluleka ukubeka imingcele ecacile.
Gcina ukuxhumana okuhle nengane yakho
Kuyadingeka ukuthi uhlale ugcina intambo yokuxhumana evulekile nezingane zakho. Badinga ukuthi bakwazi ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka nawe, mayelana nokukhathazeka kwabo ngempilo yabo kanye / noma nabangane. futhi kuzodingeka futhi bakwazi ukucela umbono wakho othembekile noma kunini lapho kudingeka khona.
Abazali kufanele bagxilise ingxoxo emizweni abanayo mayelana nezinqumo zabo nezinkolelo zabo, ukuthi abangane babo babathonya kanjani (noma cha). Ungengeza futhi imininingwane yakho kanye nezeluleko, khumbula ukuthi uzoba yithonya eliphezulu kakhulu futhi ubaluleke kakhulu enganeni yakho, noma ngabe kwesinye isikhathi ucabanga ukuthi akulona.
Yiba nentshisekelo empilweni yomngani wakho
Ukuze ingane yakho ingazizwa ukuthi uphikisana ngokuphelele nobungane anabo nomngane wakhe onethonya elibi, kuyadingeka ukuthi aqonde ukuthi uyakhathala nokuthi nawe uyakhathala. Ngaphambi kokuthola isahlulelo (noma ngabe kusengqondweni yakho kuphela) ngomngani wakho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ufunde kabanzi ngendaba yakhe ukuze wazi ukuthi kungani ebeyile ndlela ayiyo.
Uma kunesidingo, mmemele endlini yakho ukuzodla ndawonye, ukuthola ukuthi unjani, ucabanga kanjani ... Ngakho-ke, uma nganoma yisiphi isikhathi esithile kufanele uphawule ngezenzo zakhe, ungazi ukuthi kungani eziphatha kanjena. Akuyona ingane yakho, awudingi ukuzibandakanya kakhulu uma inempilo enzima, unganikeza usizo lwangaphandle uma kunesidingo, kepha inhloso yakho eyinhloko ukuvikela ingane yakho kulelo thonya elibi futhi uyisuse ngokuphelele uma kunesidingo.
Khuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho noma okuhlangenwe nakho kwabangane
Uma usebenza ekuxhumaneni nezingane zakho, ungakhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okungenzeka wakuthola ebusheni bakho nokuthi indodana yakho iyaphila manje. Uma ungenakho okuhlangenwe nakho okuqondile nalokho ingane yakho ebhekene nakho kodwa wazi ezinye izindaba ezenzayo, zingaba yingxabano enhle yengane yakho ukuthi izizwe iqondakala futhi ingafuna izixazululo zezingxabano zangaphakathi noma zangaphandle.
Ukuze ingane ikwazi ukukhuluma ngokukhululeka, idinga ukuzwa ukuthi abazali bayo bangasohlangothini lwayo, okungukuthi, bafuna ukuyisiza ithuthuke futhi bangagxeki nje kuphela noma bazame ukumenza azizwe kabi.
Izindlela zokukhulumisana okuhle nengane yakho
Uma ingane yakho inomngani onethonya elibi, kubalulekile ukuthi usebenzele ukuxhumana kuqala ukuze kuphumelele nokuthi ngale ndlela, ukwazi ukuxhumana nengane yakho. Ukubandakanyeka ekuxhumaneni kahle nomntwana wakho osemusha, ungaphuthelwa yilezi zihluthulelo eziyi-8:
- Hlola izinga lokushisa ngokomzwelo. Imizwelo ingangena endleleni yokuxhumana okuhle.
- Vala intukuthelo. Ukuze ukwazi ukukhuluma kufanele ukwenze kusuka kuthule, sebenzisa noma yini edingekayo ukuze 'uvale' ulaka.
- Cabanga ngomgomo. Nquma ukuthi yini ofuna ukuyifeza lapho uletha isihloko ozokhuluma ngaso nengane yakho.
- Khetha isikhathi esihle sokuxoxa. Isikhathi sokuxhumana siyikho konke, uma ukhetha isikhathi esihle ngaphandle kweziphazamiso, ingane yakho izowamukela kakhulu amazwi akho.
- Khuluma ngqo nengane yakho. Gwema ukukwenza ngokusebenzisa ubuchwepheshe.
- Khulisa ithuba lokuthi uzwakale. Ngalokho, yiba nephimbo eliqotho nelinobungane, izwi elifanayo ongalisebenzisa nomngane noma nomuntu ongamazi.
- Qaphela ulimi lomzimba.
- Yiba nengxabano enhle ngaphandle kokungena emizabalazweni yamandla noma yamafa.
Akulula ukukhuluma nomuntu osemusha, ikakhulukazi lapho esemusha okuthola kunzima ukuveza imizwa yakhe noma ukuphawula ngokwenzekayo. Uzwela nokuqina kuzoba yizikhali zakho ezingcono kakhulu zokufeza ukuxhumana okuhle nokwenza ingane yakho ukuthi icabange ngamathonya amabi.