Uma ungumama, impela ezikhathini eziningi (hhayi ukusho nsuku zonke), ukhale ngokungabi nesikhathi sakho. Lapho izingane zifika, isikhathi somuntu siqu asithathi isihlalo sangemuva, siyanyamalala ngokoqobo ebhanoyini. Yimuphi umama onesikhathi sokulala phansi isikhashana ukuze aphumule, afunde incwadi ngaphambi kokulala, aphume ayodlala imidlalo?
Ukungabikho kwesikhathi somuntu siqu sithinta ngokomzwelo omama abaningi, abahlupheka ngokulahlekelwa ubunikazi bomuntu siqu, okungenani phakathi neminyaka yokuqala yezimpilo zezingane. Isikhathi sihamba nsuku zonke phakathi kwamanabukeni, ama-lullabies nakho konke ukunakekelwa okudingwa yizingane. Uma isikhathi somuntu siqu sishoda, isikhathi sokungcebeleka nakanjani asikho.
Lo muzwa ofanayo wabiwa ngomama emhlabeni wonke, noma sekudaliwe igama elichaza kahle. IMONPET, imele i-MOther nge-NO Personal Time, elihunyushwe ngeSpanishi lisho ukuthi "umama ngaphandle kwesikhathi sakhe."
Umama ngaphandle kwesikhathi sakhe
Njengamanje, bambalwa abesifazane abazinikezela kuphela ekunakekeleni izingane nasemakhaya. Namuhla, abesifazane banezinhloso zomsebenzi, izifiso zomuntu siqu, zokuphuma babone umhlaba, ngamafuphi, abesifazane bayafuna hlala ngale kwezindonga ezine zekhaya. Ngalesi sizathu, abesifazane abaningi babuyela emsebenzini ngemuva kwekhefu lokugula ukuze ukubeletha.
Kepha ukuba nesikhathi sokusebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya, futhi ukuphatha ikhaya nomthwalo wokunakekela nokukhulisa izingane, kusho ezimeni eziningi ukunikela ngesikhathi sakho. Ngoba uma ufuna ukuba neminithi uwedwa, kufanele ushiye enye into eceleni, futhi lokho akunakwenzeka nhlobo.
Yize abesilisa beqhubeka nokubandakanyeka ekunakekeleni izingane nasemisebenzini yasekhaya, iqiniso ukuthi ezimweni eziningi ungathathi umthwalo oyinhloko wale misebenzi. Futhi akuwona umbuzo olula we-machismo, wudaba olujule kakhulu olususelwa kwezemfundo.
Ukunqoba isikhathi sakho
Kujwayelekile kakhulu kwabesifazane ukuthi babe nomuzwa ogxilile wokuthi banesibopho sekhaya. Umuzwa wokuthi uma ungazinakekeli, izinto ngeke zenziwe kahle. Futhi lokhu kubangela kuphela owesifazane uthwele kanzima ngumsebenzi nezibopho. Kepha ukufuna leso sikhathi nokunqoba isikhala sakho kungumsebenzi womuntu wonke umama okumele asebenze kuwo.
Ukunikezwa amandla kuyisihluthulelo, ukuthunyelwa ekunakekelweni kwezingane, imisebenzi yasendlini, ukupheka, ukusebenza, nazo zonke izindawo ezingezona ezomuntu. Kuyadingeka ukudlulisa amandla ukuze ukwazi ukudedela isikhwama sakho semithwalo yemfanelo, le ukuphela kwendlela yokunwaya usuku ngalunye imizuzu embalwa bese uyiphendula ibe yisikhathi sakho.
Abesifazane abaningi bazizwa benomona othile lapho bebona abalingani babo belele phansi bebuka ithelevishini, baze bahambe baze bafike lapho uthukuthele lapho ebona ukuthi unesikhathi samahhala, lapho abanaso ngisho nesikhathi sokugeza. Le yindaba elula yokufuna isikhathi, amadoda anekhono lokuthola izikhathi zamahhala kalula. Kubo, indlu ihlale iphelele, ukudla kungalinda futhi izingane zingadlala isikhashana.
Banekhono lokukwenza lahla ingcindezi futhi ungahlushwa ukungabi nakho konke kusesimweni, konke kuphelele. Njengoba kunikezwe lokhu, abesifazane bajezisa ukuziphatha okunjalo, kodwa akuyona indlela.
Sesha futhi uthole isikhathi sakho samahhala
Lokhu kungumsebenzi ngamunye, wonke umuntu wesifazane kufanele athole isikhathi sakhe. Ukuhleleka, ukuhlela, ukwabela abanye nokukhohlwa ukuphelela. Zitholele isikhathi nsuku zonke, bhala imizuzu embalwa ngehora ukugeza, isikhathi sokungenzi lutho. Kepha yebo, lapho uyithola, ungazizwa unecala ngokucabanga ngayo yonke into okungenzeka ukuthi uyayenza.
Ufanelwe ukuba nesikhathi sakho ukwenza okufunayo noma ungenzi lutho. Umzimba wakho, impilo yakho engokwenyama nengokwengqondo incike kuwo futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, uzokwazi ukuphila a umama ojabulayo.