Kwesinye isikhathi izingane nentsha ziyeke ukukhuluma ezimeni ezithile zomphakathi, ikakhulukazi nabantu abangaphandle kwendawo abakuyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kwezinye izimo bahlangana ngokuphelele. Namuhla sichaza ukuthi kungani lokhu mutism okhethiwe ezinganeni nasebusheni, yini okufanele yenziwe nokuthi iphathwa kanjani.
Kuyini ukukhetha okungaguquki?
Ukuthula okukhethiwe kuyi- ukuphazamiseka kwengane nentsha iboniswa inkinga yokuvinjelwa inkulumo evame ukuqala ezikoleni zasenkulisa. Kubonakala ngokuthi, yize unekhono lokukhuluma ngokuphelele, Unquma ukungakhulumi nabantu ongabethembi ezimweni ezithile.
Imvamisa kuyiphutha ngamahloni amakhulu, kepha ukuphazamiseka okuhambisana nokukhathazeka lokho kunganciphisa kakhulu izingane ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi nasekusebenzeni kwazo esikoleni, futhi lokho kuthinte kabi ukukhula kwazo okulungile. Izingane ezine-mutism ekhethiwe zivame ukuba namahloni, zingazethembi (kepha hhayi njalo) zithambekele ekukhathazekeni.
Lapho besesimweni sokuphepha nokwethembana, bayakhuluma futhi baxhumane kahle. Kepha esikhundleni salokho kwezinye izimo kubonakala sengathi balahlekelwa amandla okukhuluma. Kuyimpendulo ekukhathazekeni abazizwa bekhulu kakhulu nokuthi abazi ukuthi bangalawula kanjani, futhi kubavimba ekuxhumaneni ngokujwayelekile. Lokhu kuziphatha kwandisa ukungakhululeki kwakhe, ngoba uzizwa ebonwa futhi ahlulelwe kabi, okwandisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe.
Ezinye izingane zikugwema ukuxhumana ngomlomo kepha zithuthukisa ezinye izindlela zokuxhumana njengokuthinta noma ukunyakaza kwekhanda, ukuhlebela, ... kuzoncika ezingeni ezithinteka kulo ukuphazamiseka. Lesi sifo sivame ukudideka namahloni, ubutha, ukuziqambela, ukungabi nasithakazelo, ubukhali, ... kanjalo lezi zingane zizizwa zingaqondakali kakhulu nokuzethemba kwabo kuyahlupheka.
Yini imbangela ye-mutism ekhethiwe?
I-mutism ekhethiwe yisifo esiyinkimbinkimbi esingenayo imbangela eyodwa, kepha sithinteka yizici eziningana. Izimbangela eziyinhloko ezengqondo, ikakhulu kuhlotshaniswa nokukhathazeka. Lapho ubhekene nesimo lapho ingane ikutolika njengokusongela, ngokwesaba ukwahlulelwa abanye noma ukunganikezi impendulo efanele, uhlangabezana nokukhathazeka nokwesaba okungangokuthi uvinjelwe futhi nekhono lakhe lokukhuluma libonakale linyamalala. Kuyindlela ingane noma osemusha okufanele abhekane ngayo nokwesaba kwakhe.
Izingane eziningi zingahlangabezana nokukhathazeka ezimweni eziyinqaba kepha hhayi zonke zikhombisa ukungakhethi, kungani kunjalo? Yebo, izinga eliphakeme lokukhathazeka lihlanganiswa nokubekwa phambili kokukhathazeka, kwesinye isikhathi okuhlanganiswa namahloni, ukuhoxa, ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana kanye ne-phobia yezenhlalo. Kungumphumela wofuzo lwabo nemvelo, okuholela ekutheni baphendule ngale ndlela ekukhathazekeni.
Yini ukwelashwa kwalesi sifo?
Ukuhlolwa kwengqondo kuzovumela hlaziya zonke izakhi nezici lokho kuthonya imvelaphi nokugcinwa kwenkinga. Ukuhlola kufanele kuqoqe:
- Umlando wokuvela kwengane, kusukela ekukhulelweni kuze kube manje.
- Ukuhlolwa kwezinga labo lokuqonda.
- Ukuhlolwa kobuntu nezici zokuzivumelanisa nezimo.
- Amakhono akho omphakathi.
- Amakhono akho angokomzwelo nokuziphatha.
- Amakhono abo wokuxhumana nolimi.
- Ukuhluka komndeni, uhlobo lomndeni, isitayela semfundo, ukuxhumana komndeni, ...
Ukwelashwa kuzogxila kukho phatha ukukhathazeka okukhulu ukuthi ingane izizwa kanjani kulezi zimo, isimo somndeni kulezi zimo (lezi zimo zivame ukuqiniswa ungahlosile) futhi ziyasebenza ukungabi nokuvikeleka kwengane endaweni engajwayelekile. Uma siphoqa izingane ukuthi zikhulume kulezi zimo futhi sigxile kuzo, sondla ukuthula kwazo kunokuba sizelaphe futhi lokho kuzosizakala. Ukuyazi kuzosivumela ukuthi siqede izinto ezigcina lokhu kuphazamiseka futhi siziguqulele ezinye ezifanele ingane.
Ngoba khumbula ... Uma usola ukuthi ingane yakho ine-mutism ekhethiwe, kungakuhle ukuthi uyihambise kuchwepheshe ukuze ahlole icala lakhe futhi athathe izinyathelo ezifanele.