Akunandaba ukuthi lihle kangakanani isu lakho lokuvikela ukumemeza, kwesinye isikhathi uzophakamisa izwi lakho. Kulungile. Yivume futhi uxolise, futhi izingane zakho zizofunda isifundo esibalulekile: Sonke siyawenza amaphutha futhi kufanele sixolise. Uma izingane zakho zikhala, zikhumbuze ngemingcele nokuthi ukumemeza akuyona indlela yokuxhumana eyamukelekayo. Badinga ukwazi ukuthi ukulungele ukulalela inqobo nje uma bekhombisa inhlonipho.
Imodeli efanayo ngokunikeza isikhathi sokupholisa izinjini zakho ngaphambi kokukhuluma nezingane zakho lapho ucasukile noma ukhungathekile. Kuzobasiza ukuthi bakhe imikhuba yempilo yonke eyenza ukulawulwa kwezingxabano kube lula. Lokhu kuzofundisa izingane zakho ukuthi ziqonde amaphutha, awabo nawabanye abantu, nokuthi ukuthethelela kuyithuluzi elibalulekile lokuxhumana okunempilo emndenini.
Uma uthembele ekukhaleni ukuze ujezise izingane zakho kuze kube manje, mhlawumbe ubona imiphumela:
- Izingane zakho zingaxhomeka ekumemezeni ukuze zixhumane.
- Bayakuphendula futhi baze bakumemeze esikhundleni sokukhuluma ngenhlonipho.
- Ubudlelwano bakho nabo abuzinzile futhi buyashintshashintsha kuze kufike ezingeni lokungakwazi ukuxhumana ngendlela enempilo.
- Bangase bafulathele wena futhi bathonywe kakhulu ontanga yabo kunawe.
Ungakushintsha konke lokho. Qala ngokuba nengxoxo eqotho nezingane zakho mayelana nento engalungile yokwenza ngokumemeza nokuthi kungani ukuveza ulaka lwakho ngaleyo ndlela akunampilo. Yenza ikhaya lakho libe yindawo enokuthula lapho abantu bekhuluma ngenhlonipho futhi bevuma imizwa yabanye ngaphandle kokusola, ukuhlazisa noma ukwahlulela. Ukuzibophezela ngokungagunci kugcina inkhulumomphendvulwano ivulekile futhi kwenza wonke amalungu omndeni aphendule.
Uma wenza amaphutha, ungayeki. Akuyona indlela elula, kepha kufanele ukuthi wenze umzamo wokuzuzisa izingane zakho kanye nomndeni wonkana.