Njalo uma owesifazane odumile ekhulelwa noma engumama, abantu bayakhuluma ngakhoEmpeleni, hhayi kuphela ngalesi sici sempilo yabo, ngoba sibonakala sinentshisekelo kakhulu ezimpilweni zabanye abantu kepha sidume kakhulu. Ngicabanga ukuthi kuzoba nzima ukuba ngumculi, umethuli wezinhlelo, umlingisi,… nokuthi abanye bakubheke; mhlawumbe kuyiqiniso ukuthi "yintengo yodumo" futhi kucatshangwa ngokwemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka.
Njengoba wazi, uSara Carbonero ube ngumama okwesibili (cishe inyanga edlule) kanti izolo umagazini wemfashini uveze ukuthi 'ukugxekwa' okutholakele ngoba uhlose ukujoyina umsebenzi wakhe kungekudala. Komama (hhayi abadumile nje kuphela) kuyohlale kukhona umuntu osicubungulayo ukuze abone ukuthi sizenza kanjani izinto, kungakhathalekile indlela yethu yokuba ngumama. Engikuthola kungasekho kokuningi kwalokhu kuhlaziywa yizidingo zengane.
Kungani yebo: omama behluke kakhulu komunye nomunye, kepha ukuba ngumama akusona isihloko sokuzivocavoca noma ilungelo, kepha kungumthwalo omkhulu, ngoba iqhaza lethu ekukhuleni kwamantombazane nabafana liyanquma. Isibonelo, lapha sikhulume ukuphazamiseka kwesibopho lapho kungekho okunamathiselwe ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuvezwa ngokomzwelo noma ukulahlwa (ngomqondo obanzi wegama). Udaba oluncane kakhulu olwaziwayo kepha olungathinta kabi ukukhula kwengane, futhi luveze imiphumela ngokuzayo.
Ukuba ngumama nobudlelwano nezingane.
Intatheli edumile ithi inalo usizo kanye nogogo nomkhulu abakhulu abasiza isandla (sesivele sazi ukuthi 'ukukhulisa ingane udinga isizwe sonke'). Ngakolunye uhlangothi, njengoba umndeni uhlala ePortugal, kufanele bahambe amakhilomitha ayizinkulungwane ezimbalwa ukuya emsebenzini, ngeke kube owokuqala noma owodwa; futhi lizohlelwa njengoba ufisa futhi ukwazi kahle. Ngiyakuqonda ukuthi ukucabanga ngokuthi uzoqinisa kanjani isibopho esingokomzwelo nengane akudingekile, kepha bengifuna ukudlulisa ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu kunendlela ocabanga ngayo, ngoba bangabantu abasengozini abaqale ukwakha isibopho nomama, futhi abanethemba lokuthi baqhubeke nokwenza kanjalo
Lapha besingakhuluma ngezihloko ezahlukahlukene kepha ezihlobene, ngakho (ngicabanga ngazo zonke izingane) ngizokukhumbula futhi lokho Kulinganiselwa ezinyangeni eziyi-9 isikhathi lapho ukukhishwa komzimba kufanele kuhlale khona (isikhathi esiqedela ukukhula kwe-intrauterine kubantu. Abancane badinga (futhi yebo, kuyisidingo) ukuthwalwa ngezingalo, yize kungenjalo kufanele kube ngumama ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa bekungaba kuhle kakhulu uma umuntu oyinhloko oyisithenjwa bekunguye.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lesi sigaba se-puerperal abambalwa abasazi ngokuningiliziwe, futhi-ke asikhawulwanga 'odweni lokuhlukaniswa' oludumile, empeleni lungahlala iminyaka emibili (kuyalinganiselwa). Inencazelo ebalulekile ngaphandle kokululama kukamama ngokomzimba, ukufakwa emsebenzini, njll. ngoba umama uthatha isinqumo sokuthi ingane 'ivulekele' umhlaba, futhi ikwazi ukuzizwela futhi iphile yedwa, hhayi ngonina.
Kungaba lula kakhulu uma ...
Ukubuyisana esinakho bekungokunye (okungukuthi, ukubuyisana kwangempela), noma uma umphakathi ungazange ubabone omama abasha abathatha izingane zabo bayosebenza njengabangaphandle (Uyamkhumbula uCarolina Bescansa?). Ukube besihlala emiphakathini emikhulu kune umndeni esiwujwayele, futhi omama abahambanga ibanga elide ukuya emsebenzini bekungabuye kube lula kakhulu, empeleni kunezindawo lapho kungaba khona noma ngabe ilivu yokubeletha ayisebenzi ngoba ngobuningi bemvelo ingane ikhulelwe, iyasukuma futhi yenze ingane ibambe iqhaza umndeni wabo kanye nomphakathi, ngaphandle kokuhlukaniswa nomama isikhathi eside.
Ukubuyela esihlokweni sokuqala: Kuncane engikwaziyo ngomndeni wakwaCasillas Carbonero, kepha engikwaziyo ukuthi ngokujwayelekile kufanele sikhulume kakhulu ngobuntwana, hhayi nje ngamawadi wabakhulelwe.. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukugcwaliseka kobungcweti kwabesifazane akufanele kungqubuzana nokuba ngumama (yize kwesinye isikhathi kuba njalo), futhi kusobala ukuthi uma wonke umuntu enikeza umbono wakhe, ngamunye uzokhuluma into eyodwa. Okwenzekayo ukuthi i-biology iyikho futhi kunezidingo zezinsana ezingaphezu kombono wanoma ngubani.
Futhi ngasendleleni: ukuhalalisela uSara ngalowo mama wesibili, uzokujabulela impela 🙂
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