Omama abaningi abasebenzayo babona ukuthi amalungelo ethu njengomama nabasebenzi ahluleka kanjani futhi kubi kakhulu, kubukeka sengathi uma ungumama kulo mphakathi kufanele ugxile ekubeni munye, uvale iminyango yezinye izici zempilo, noma uma ungavali, uyibeke okunzima kakhulu. Futhi ongakusho uma ungumama ozimele, khona-ke izinto ziba nzima kakhulu ... kubonakala sengathi izithiyo zikhuliswa ngaphandle kwelungelo lokuthola noma yini. Kepha namuhla, sifuna ukubhekana nodaba lomama abayizitshudeni, omunye umzabalazo.
UMireia Cabanillas uneminyaka engama-24 futhi ungumama. Isimo sakhe eyunivesithi sithathe ukunakwa kwethu, kodwa hhayi ngoba engumama, noma ngoba ehambisa ingane yakhe ekilasini ukuze ikwazi ukufunda futhi icabange ngekusasa elifuna ukuyinika ingane yayo futhi, nokuziklamela eyakho ikusasa. Kepha ngenxa yomzabalazo obekufanele abhekane nawo ebusweni benyuvesi lapho abhalise khona.
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UMireia ufunda izifundo zokugcina zePedagogy e-University of Barcelona futhi ungumama wentombazane enhle enezinyanga eziyishumi nanye ubudala. Ubeya ekilasini nengane yakhe ngokujwayelekile, kepha kubonakala sengathi eyunivesithi akubukanga kahle kangako ngoba sebemthumelele incwadi ecela ukuthi angabe esayisa indodakazi yakhe emakilasini.
Kungaba inkinga kwabanye abalingani lapho ingane ikhala noma ilambile, noma mhlawumbe kuphazamisa ikilasi futhi uprofesa uzizwe esesimweni sokuqhubeka noma ukumisa ikilasi ... Kepha lezi akuzona izizathu ezenze inyuvesi yaphawula encwadini eyayiya eMireia. Encwadini bakutshela ukuthi ingane yakho ayimboziwe yinoma yimuphi umshwalense nokuthi kufanele futhi uhloniphe ukuthi abanye abafundi bathola amakilasi ezimweni 'ezifanele'. UMireia akasasiqondi lesi simo kwazise iqembu labangane bakhe nalabo afunda nabo bayameseka -ngisho osolwazi- futhi, futhi kuyaziwa ukuthi abantu abaningi bangangena ekhampasi ngaphandle kokuba nomshwalense.
Baningi abantu abebemeseka kusukela ekuqaleni, ngoba empeleni uma ungumama wengane kuyilungelo lawo wonke umuntu wesifazane ukuba naye njalo. Akekho umuntu ongakuphoqa ukuthi ushiye ingane yakho enkulisa uma ungafuni noma ukuthi abantu besithathu kufanele bayinakekele noma bayondle ngenkathi wenza eminye imisebenzi. Kepha kubukeka sengathi emphakathini wethu, kusenendlela encane yokuqonda ukuthi omama banelungelo lokuba nezingane zabo ngenkathi befunda. Abasebenzi phambi komphakathi, akuwona umsebenzi obeka engcupheni ukuphepha kukamama, usana noma abanye abantu ... Kuyisigaba, lapho uthisha echaza khona, abafundi balalela, bafunde futhi bahlanganyele .. futhi uma ingane ivuka noma ilambile, kungumsebenzi kanina ukuyinakekela hhayi omunye umuntu.
UMireia uzoqhubeka nokuyisa indodakazi yakhe ekilasini aze aphoqeleke ukwenza ngenye indlela. kwazise akafuni ukumshiya nomunye umuntu. Iyunivesithi imnikeze ithuba lokuthi enze ukuhlolwa okukodwa, kepha wakwenza ngonyaka owedlule futhi kwakunzima kakhulu kuye ukuhlanganisa izifundo zakhe nokuba ngumama. Okwamanje, uMireia uzothathela indodakazi yakhe into yokuqala ekuseni, eqondana nesihlwathi sentombazanyana bese iyalala, bese ugogo eyomlanda kuze kuphele isikole. Ugogo unakekela intombazanyana engaphansi kobuhlakani, esekolishi lasenyuvesi, kodwa kubonakala sengathi ngale ndlela, akekho okhathazekile.
Ukusiza omama abangabafundi
Esikhundleni sokwenza kube lula komama abasebasha, kubonakala sengathi bakwenza kube nzima ngokwengeziwe, noma okungenani kube nzima kakhulu kunabanye omama abangekho esimweni esifanayo. Akulungile ukuthi omama kufanele bazizwe becwaswa ngenxa yokuba omama kuphela, uma bengomama kufanele bakuhlehlise ukuqeqeshwa kwabo? Kuthiwani uma abakufunayo ukuhlanganisa izifundo zabo nokuba ngumama? Kwenzekani uma umama engenayo indawo yokuthi abanye banakekele ingane yakhe? Kuthiwani uma ungafuni ukuthi abanye banakekele ingane yakho?
Umama othatha isinqumo sokuya enyuvesi ukwenza ngcono ikusasa lakhe futhi ngenxa yalokho futhi nelomntwana wakhe. Ngalesi sizathu, kuyadingeka ukuthi amalungelo abo alingane noma okungenani banikezwe izikhungo zokuhlanganisa izifundo zabo nokuba ngumama. Kuyacaca ukuthi banqume ukuba ngomama, baphinde banquma ukuba ngabafundi futhi zombili izinto kufanele zihlonishwe ngokulinganayo ngoba zingamalungelo wanoma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane.
Omunye umqondo wokukwazi ukusiza labomama ukuthi ngaphakathi kweyunivesithi - futhi eduze komama babo abazokwazi ukubalanda noma ukubalanda noma nini lapho beyidinga khona - kunesikhala esifanele izingane, njenge-nursery. UMireia ucabanga nokuthi lesi sixazululo sizokwanela futhi empeleni akuyona leyo nto eyinkimbinkimbi. Igumbi lokufundela elinobuntwana elinabasebenzi abaqeqeshiwe lizoba lihle, futhi akufanele libize inyuvesi ezinye izindleko ezengeziwe, kungahle kube khona intengo engokomfanekiso ukuze omama bakwazi ukuyikhokha nokuthi izingane zinakekelwa kahle ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Isibonelo sikaProfesa Sydney Engelberg: isifundo kwezomthetho
Akekho umama okufanele akhethe phakathi kwezingane zakhe nemfundo yakhe, lokhu yilokho abaningi bethu abakucabangayo futhi noSolwazi uSydney Engelberg. Ngenkathi ifundisa ikilasi lenkosi, ingane yaqala ukukhala kwathi uma umama wayo engazolile, yasukuma yahamba inamahloni, kepha uthisha wayengazimisele ukuthi lokhu kwenzeke. Ngakho-ke wabamba ingane yakhe ezandleni zakhe ukuze ayithule ngenkathi efundisa ikilasi lenkosi. USydney Engelberg unguthisha ovumela abafundi bakhe abangomama ukuthi bangene ekilasini nezingane zabo futhi abancelise ibele uma kunesidingo.
Okubalulekile emphakathini wethu ukufinyelela ezivumelwaneni lapho sonke siphila khona, futhi kulokhu, kufanele kutholakale izixazululo lapho zombili izinhlangothi zenza kahle. Inyuvesi, omama nezinsana. Kepha okungcono kakhulu, ukuthi kunamacala amahle kakhulu futhi ahle ngokwengeziwe.