Izingane nazo zihlushwa ukucindezeleka, kodwa ngokuvamile azikuvezi ngokucacile. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuba abazali baqaphe izingane zabo eduze futhi bafunde ukulawula ukucindezeleka, futhi bakugweme ngokuphelele.
Ukuziphatha kwethu kungaba nomthelela omkhulu esimweni sezingane zethu. uma sicindezelekile maningi amathuba okuthi izingane zethu nazo zigcine zinengcindezi. Kufanele sikukhumbule lokhu futhi sibheke ukulawula ukucindezeleka kwethu ukuze singakudluliseli. Kunoma yikuphi, akukhona ngaso sonke isikhathi ngenxa yokucindezeleka kwethu, kufanele sikwazi ukuphenya ukuthi yini ebangela lokhu kungahambi kahle nokucindezela.
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Lapho izingane zizizwa zikwazi ukulawula nokuxazulula izinkinga zazo, zikhula ngendlela elinganiselayo, ezithuthukisa ukuzethemba. Izinga eliphezulu lokucindezeleka isikhathi eside lingaphazamisa lokhu kuthuthukiswa kwengqondo.
Ukucindezeleka kubonakala kanjani ezinganeni?
Ukucindezeleka kungazibonakalisa ngezindlela eziningana, izimpawu ezingenzeka yilezi:
- Belly ache
- Umjuluko
- Ubuhlungu bekhanda
- Isicanucanu
- Ukuntuleka kwesifiso sokudla
- Inkinga yokulala
- Ukucasuka
Okubalulekile: Uma lezi zimpawu zenzeka izikhathi eziningana ngesonto noma uma ukuphila kwengane noma komkhaya kuthinteka kakhulu, abazali kufanele basihlaziye ngokucophelela isimo. Eqinisweni, izingane zivame ukuthumela amasignali "encoded", okusho ukuthi ungavezi ngokusobala uma kukhona okungalungile noma ngenxa yokuswela ukudla.
Ngokunembile-ke kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bangagcini nje ngokubheka ukuziphatha kwengane yabo, kodwa futhi nokwabo. Ingabe izimpawu enganeni zenzeka ngokuhambisana nezimo ezithile? Mhlawumbe thina, njengabazali, siphinde sibe nestress? Kungenzeka yini ukuthi ukucindezeleka komuntu kuthinta ingane? Ukuziphatha okuhlobene nokucindezeleka kungathuthukiswa ngokuqaphela ngokuqaphela ukuthi izimo ezithile ezicindezelayo zivela nini futhi kungani.
Nansi indlela ongayisiza ngayo ingane yakho ukuthi ilawule ingcindezi:
Nakuba kubonakala kusobala: zama ukuba yisibonelo sokuzola izingane zakho futhi udale indawo lapho ukungapheleli kuvunyelwe.
- Ukutholwa kokucindezeleka okunengqondo: siza ingane yakho iqonde kungani kuvela ukucindezeleka nokuthi kushintsha kanjani ukuziphatha kwakho ekuphenduleni ukucindezeleka.
- khombisa ukuqonda ngezinkinga zengane futhi utshele ngolwazi lwayo mayelana nokucindezeleka, okwenza isimo sokwethembana sikwazi ukufuna isisombululo ndawonye.
- Sekela ingane ku funa izixazululo.
- Beka kuqala futhi ushiye isikhathi samahhala esingahlelekile, nikela isikhathi soku imisebenzi eyabiwe (ukudla, ukuhamba ngezinyawo, njll.).
- Dumisani ingane uma yenze into enhle.
- Kufanele uzilungiselele futhi uvulekele ama-tabos nezihloko ezibucayi.
- Dala isimo se ukufunda okunokuthula, ukuvumela izigaba zokugxila.
- Bhekisisani imiphi imisebenzi esiza ingane ukuba ikhululeke: ezemidlalo, ukulalela umculo, amasu okuphumula noma uhambo lokucabanga, ukutotoswa.
Uma singeke sikwazi ukuzithathela sona, singahlala sithembele osizweni lwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo nongoti ukuze sibhekane nalokhu kucindezeleka nokucindezela kwezingane zethu, ngisho nokusinika iziqondiso ezithile ukuze sikwazi ukuqhubeka nosuku nosuku. Ukucela usizo akusho ukungakwazi ukwenza izinto, ingane ngayinye ihlukile futhi nesimo ngasinye futhi. Akumele sicabange ukuthi singakwazi ukwenza yonke into sisodwa ngoba leli elinye lamaphutha amakhulu abazali, ukungaluceli usizo ezimeni lapho kudingeka khona usizo. Singazama njalo ukuzithatha ngokwethu futhi silandele iseluleko esisithola kochwepheshe, kodwa uma lokho kungenele, ngikukhuthaza ukuba uye kudokotela wezengqondo ukuze uqedele ukuphatha lesi simo ngaphandle kokwehluleka emzamweni.