I-Las ubuhlobo bomndeni bubaluleke kakhulu ezimpilweni zethu. Futhi, ngendlela efanayo yokuthi kunabazali abanobuthi, futhi kukhona ubudlelwane obunobuthi phakathi kwezelamani. Futhi sibhekisa ebudlelwaneni, noma kunalokho, kunezikhathi zobudlelwano obuhle kanti ezinye azinazo. Okufanele sizame ukuthi lezi zikhathi ezingezinhle azihlali ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Indlela esihlangana ngayo nomndeni, nabazali bethu kanye nezingane zakwethu, izonquma indlela esikwenza ngayo kwezinye izindawo.
Yini ethathwa njengobudlelwano bezelamani ezinobuthi?
Umuntu ngamunye uhlukile futhi unobuntu bakhe. Abazalwane ababili, yize bekhulele emndenini owodwa, ngaphandle kokuba badala kakhulu, futhi esimweni esifanayo kwezomnotho nakwezenhlalo, baphila okuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo emibonweni eyehlukene.
Ngokuvamile, izingane zakini ngabantu obathembayo, abangeke bakufulathele. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akuhlali kunjalo. Ngeshwa, iqiniso lisibonise konke ukuthi kukhona ubudlelwane bobuzalwane obuphela kabi. Uthando, lukhona ngokuthula phakathi kwezelamani ezimbili, ngenxa yokuthi zingabazalwane, kodwa okubalulekile ukuthi eyodwa iba kanjani ekhethekile empilweni yomunye, futhi lokhu kuncike ekubekezelelaneni abanakho.
Yize abantu ababili bengabazalwane, phakathi kwabo kungahle kube nobutha, umbango, ukuncintisana, umona ngisho nenzondo. Le mizwa ngokomongo womndeni, nokuningi phakathi kwezelamani, iyingozi kakhulu, ngoba yakhiwe kancane kancane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ayithinti kuphela izelamani ezimbili, kepha ngandlela thile ibandakanya futhi idonse bonke abanye obhuti, nabazali.
Izizathu ezijwayelekile ezakha ubudlelwano obubi phakathi kwezelamani
Kusukela ebuntwaneni noma ebudaleni, kungaba nezizathu eziningi ezenza ukuthi sithathe izingane zakwethu zinobuthi. Okuvame kakhulu yilezi:
- Izizathu zezomnotho nezimbangi. Lokhu kungumthombo wokuwohloka komndeni njalo uma ungazi ukuthi ungazisingatha kanjani lezi zingxabano.
- Ukufuna ukunakwa futhi ukuqhathanisa ngabazali. Kwesinye isikhathi kuba ngabazali abakha bengahlosile izingane ezingavikelekile, ngokukhombisa ukwazisa okukhulu komunye kunomunye. Omunye wabafowethu uzoba ingane ekhungathekile, okuzodala ukuthi umbango othile nomunye umfowabo uzizwe ubukelwa phansi. Abancane kakhulu ukungalingani okuzwelayongakho-ke, abazali kufanele baqaphele ukuthi bangaphathi enye ingane ngenhlonipho enkulu kunenye. Abazali kumele bakwamukele ukuthi asinaphutha ukubiza omunye umzalwane njengesisulu kuthi omunye anecala.
- Umehluko weminyaka. Olunye ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi izingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka emibili zihlukene zinengxabano enkulu kunezingane zakubo ezindala.
- Ubuntu obuhlukile. Ilungu ngalinye lomndeni linobuntu babo nezinto abazithandayo. Abanye bacasulwa kaningi, abanye bayangeniswa, bayathokoziswa ... Ngalo mqondo, ukuntuleka kwamakhono okuxhumana nabantu kukhuthaza nobudlelwano obunobuthi phakathi kwezelamani.
Izinkomba zokuthola ubudlelwano obunobuthi
Ezinye izimpawu ezisixwayisayo, uma umfowethu ezwa omunye umzalwane njengobuthi, ziyizinkinga zansuku zonke ezinjengezi:
- Izilinganiso zokuthi yi intandokazi kamama noma kababa. Uma ingane cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi ithola lokho ekufunayo futhi ingenziwa ukuba izwe imiphumela yezenzo zayo, inikezwa umuzwa wamanga wokuphakama. Lokhu kuzoholela kubo bonke ubudlelwano emndenini.
- Ukulawula nokukhohlisa. Uma enye yezingane zakho icabanga ukuthi kulula ukwamukela okufunwa ngumfowabo kunokuphikisana naye, lokhu kuyindlela yokulawula. Lapho umzalwane ethukuthelela omunye ngoba engenzi akufunayo, noma emenza azizwe enecala, nakho kuwukukhohlisa.
- Enye yezingane zakho ulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kukhona abazalwane ngokweminyaka, noma ngokuqeqeshwa, abakholelwa ukuthi bahlala bekwazi okulungile futhi abawazisi umbono womunye umuntu. Okufanayo kuzokwenza hhayi ngemibono kuphela, kepha nangemizwa yabanye abazalwane.
Uma ubona noma yikuphi kwalokhu kuziphatha ekhaya, sincoma ukuthi uhlale uqaphile bese uzama ukukwenza shayela ubuhloboNgoba ubudlelwano obuhle bezelamani nabo buyakhuthazwa.