Namuhla kunezinhlobo eziningi zokuhlukumeza okuthi, ngeshwa, abantu abaningi babhekane nakho, kunoma yisiphi isikhathi. Eqinisweni, uma kukhulunywa ngokuxhashazwa noma ukuxhashazwa, abazali bakhathazeka ngokuthi ingane yabo izoba isisulu sokuhlukunyezwa (kungaba esikoleni, emisebenzini yangemva kwesikole, noma ku-Intanethi). Ukuxhashazwa noma ukuxhashazwa kwenzeka kaningi kunalokho abantu abangakucabanga (ingane eyodwa kwezingu-1 iyahlukunyezwa ngohlobo oluthile, futhi zonke izingane zisengozini).
Okufunwa yiziqhwaga
Ukuhlukumeza noma ukwesatshiswa ukungaziphathi kahle kwabahlukumezi futhi akukho cala lapho isisulu kufanele sisolwe nganoma yiluphi uhlobo. Ukuhlukunyezwa noma ukwesatshiswa kuyinkinga enkulu futhi ekhathazayo enemiphumela emibi kulabo abahlukunyeziwe.
Uma kukhulunywa ngokuxhashazwa, iziqhwaga zifuna isisulu esingasisebenzisa ngamandla. Kepha ukukhetha kwabo ukuthi ngubani ozomhlukumeza kunzima kakhulu kunokucasula abantu ababuthaka kunabo. Empeleni, kunezizathu ezahlukahlukene zokuthi kungani umuntu engaba yisisulu sokuxhashazwa, kufaka phakathi yonke into kusuka kokwehluka kobuntu kuya ekubeni sendaweni engafanele ngesikhathi esingalungile.
Ezinye zezizathu ezivame kakhulu ukuhlaselwa kwezingane zifaka ukwehluka ngandlela thile, njengokuphakama, ukuba mfushane, ukusinda, noma ukuzaca. Izingane nazo ziqondiswa ngenxa yohlanga lwazo, inkolo, inkanuko yobulili, nobulili. Ngezinye izikhathi izingane ziyahlukunyezwa ngoba ziphiwe ngandlela thile. Mhlawumbe bahle esikoleni noma bavelele enkundleni yebhola. Noma ngabe siyini isizathu, kukhona okuthile ngesisulu esihlukumezayo okuthola ukunakwa kwesiqhwaga.
Kuvamile nokuthi izingane ezithandwayo zihlaselwe yiziqhwaga ezinesilinganiso esifanayo nesomfundi ozihlukanise nabantu emphakathini. Umehluko isisusa se-stalker. Uma isiqhwaga sihlasela ingane evame ukuba nesizungu, kungenxa yokuthi iyambona ebuthakathaka futhi inabangane abambalwa abazoyivikela. Uma kunalokho, ehlasela umfana noma intombazane ethandwayo, imvamisa kungenxa yomona ... Kuzozama ukusabalalisa amahemuhemu noma ukukukhipha kweminye imisebenzi.
Ngisho nohlobo lwabazali ingane enalo nayo ingenza ukuthi kube namathuba amancane noma amancane okuthi ingane ibe isisulu sokuxhashazwa. Abazali abavikela ngokweqile bavame ukuba nezingane ezingaba yizisulu zeziqhwaga. Lesi sitayela sokuba ngumzali sivimbela izingane ekubeni nokuzimela okuhle, ukuzethemba noma ukuzethemba ngokwanele ukubhekana nezimo zokuxhashazwa.
Indlela isisulu sokuxhashazwa esizizwa ngayo
Lapho umuntu ehlukunyezwa kuyisimo esibuhlungu esingaba nemiphumela ehlala njalo. Izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ziyathinteka emzimbeni, emoyeni, emphakathini nasezifundweni. Bazizwa benesizungu, bebodwa, bebuthakathaka futhi besengozini. Futhi izikhathi eziningi, kubonakala sengathi akunakuphela futhi akukho ndlela yokuphunyuka. Le mizwa itholwa kakhulu uma isisulu sihlukunyezwa nge-inthanethi.
Izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa nazo zingaqala ukudala izinkinga ezinkulu uma ukuxhashazwa kungalungiswa ngokushesha. Isibonelo, ezinye izisulu zokuxhashazwa ziba nokukhathazeka nokudangala. Abanye baze babe nezinkinga zokudla, ukuphazamiseka kokulala, kanye nengcindezi yangemva kwenhlekelele. Abaningi basola bona ngokwabo okwenzekayo kubo futhi banomuzwa wokuthi ukube bebehlukile ngandlela thile, ngeke bahlupheke.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho iyahlukunyezwa, udinga ukukhuluma nodokotela wezingane. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi uhlole inhlalakahle engokomzimba nengokomzwelo yengane futhi unikeze nezeluleko zokwelulekwa uma kunesidingo. Khumbula ukuthi iqiniso lokuthi ingane yakho ithola usizo lohlobo oluthile akulona neze uphawu lobuthakathaka, okuphambene nalokho. Kuyisibonakaliso samandla ngoba uthatha izinyathelo zokunqoba lokho okubangelwa ukuxhashazwa. Ingane yakho izodinga ukuthuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana nabantu nawokomzwelo ukuze izizwe iphephile futhi ukwazi ukukhuluma ngezinto ozesabayo nezikukhathazayo ungakaze uzizwe wehlulelwa.
Amakhono adingekayo ukuvimbela ukuxhashazwa
Ayikho ifomula eqinisekile yomlilo yokuvimbela ukuxhashazwa kungenzeki empilweni yengane yakho, kodwa kunamakhono athile nokuziphatha okuthuthukisa isithiyo esivikela ukuxhashazwa. Isibonelo, izingane ezinokuzethemba okuqinile, ezikwaziyo ukuveza imizwa yazo ngokuqinile, futhi ezinamakhono aqinile wokuxhumana nabantu mancane amathuba okuthi zixhashazwe kunalezo ezingenawo la makhono. Yini enye, izingane ezinobungani obuhle nazo azivamile ukuhlukunyezwa.
Kudingeka futhi bafunde ukugcina ukuthintana kwamehlo, ukuma kahle, babe namakhono aqinile wokuxazulula izinkinga, bazi ukuthi zikuphi izindawo ezinenkinga, futhi bazigweme. Ukuqina kuyadingeka ngoba bazofunda ukuphila impilo ngempumelelo enkulu kakhulu. Bazoba nesimo sengqondo esihle yize behlangabezana nezimo ezithile ezicindezelayo.
Izindlela zokubhekana nokuxhashazwa
Into ebaluleke kakhulu izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ezingayenza lapho zibhekene nokuxhashazwa ukuqaphela lokho ezikuphetheyo nalokho ezingenakukulawula. Isibonelo, izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa kungenzeka zingakwazi ukulawula lokho isiqhwaga esikushoyo noma esikwenzayo, kepha zingalawula ukusabela kwazo ekuhlukunyezweni. Bangakwazi futhi ukuthatha izinqumo mayelana nokuthi bangabhekana kanjani nokuxhashazwa, njengokulwisana nokuxhashazwa, ukuzimela, nokubika ukuxhashazwa kubantu abafanele. Lesi sinyathelo sokubuyisa ukulawula kaningi kuyisinyathelo sokuqala ekwelapheni ukuxhashazwa ngoba Inika amandla isisulu esihlukumezayo futhi ivumele ukuthi isuke ekucabangeni kwesisulu.
Enye indlela yokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ukugxila ekuvuseleleni isimo noma ekutholeni indlela entsha yokucabanga ngokuhlukunyezwa. Isibonelo, izisulu zokuxhashazwa zingabheka kulokho ezikufundile ekuxhashazweni kunokugxila ebuhlungwini isihluku esibenze kubo. Mhlawumbe bathole ukuthi banamandla ngokwengqondo kunalokho ababecabanga ngaphambili. Noma mhlawumbe bathole ukuthi banabangani abakhulu abahlale bebonakala beseduze kwabo. Kungakhathaleki ukuthi uqondiswa kuphi ngesitimela sakho sokucabanga, inhloso ukuphambanisa amagama nezenzo zomhlaseli. Akufanele neze babe namazwi okushiwo ngabo noma bavumele lawo magama ukuthi azichaze ukuthi bangobani.