Ukuze izingane zakhe ubungane nezinye izingane kungenye yemisebenzi esemqoka yokuthuthuka ebuntwaneni. Abangane, ukuqala besebancane, siza izingane ukuthi zizizwe zizinhle, ukusiza ingane ukuthi ivumelane kalula nendawo ezikuyo futhi iqale ukuzethemba. Ngamafuphi, ukuba nobungane obuhle nokwakha ubudlelwano obuhle nabanye kusiza izingane ukuzethemba okungcono.
Ubungane beqiniso
Ubungane beqiniso bungabonakala phakathi kwezingane ezineminyaka emithathu noma emine ubudala. Izingane zizolungela kakhulu ukugcina ubungani, zingcono kunabantu abadala ngisho! Ungalokothi ubukele phansi ukubaluleka kwalabo bangane bokuqala ngoba kwabancane, babaluleke ngempela. Ziyasiza ukukhula ngokomzwelo futhi nasezingeni lomphakathi. Bafunda ukuqala ukuphatha umhlaba obazungezile nokuqonda kangcono izinkambiso zomphakathi.
Yize kwesinye isikhathi kunzima ukuthi izingane zihlangane njalo ngoba kuyinto ejwayelekile futhi ejwayelekile kakhulu ukuthi kube nokulwa okuncane (ikakhulukazi ngaphezulu kwamathoyizi, imithetho yemidlalo noma ukushaywa). Kepha lokhu kuziphatha phakathi kwabangane abancane kuzohlala kuyithuba elihle lokufunda. Izingxabano zivela ngoba izingane azikabi nawo amakhono okulungisa ukungaboni ngaso linye. Abantu abadala badlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu kule minyaka, bachitha isikhathi esiningi bekhumbuza izingane ukuthi 'zisebenzise amazwi azo' kunokushaya nokuthatha amathoyizi ezinye izingane ngaphandle kwemvume.
Ukwenza abangane akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi
Kusukela enkulisa kuya ebusheni, ubungane buyingxenye ebalulekile yobuntwana. Ubungane beqiniso bandisa ukuqonda kwezingane, kwakha ukwethembana, futhi kulethe injabulo ehlala njalo. Ubungane bezingane abuyona nje imidlalo nemidlalo. Ubudlelwano obuhle bezenhlalo bunezinzuzo ezinkulu zokukhulisa izingane. Ucwaningo olusha lukhombisa ukuthi abangani abasondelene ebuntwaneni bakhulisa imizwa yokuzihlonipha futhi basize izingane zikwazi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka.
Kodwa ukwakha nokugcina abangane akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kusukela ekubeni namahloni nokulwa phakathi kwabangane nokucindezela kontanga, ubungani bunikeza izingane izinselele eziningi ezingadida ngisho nomzali osebenza kakhulu. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde ukusiza izingane zakho ukubhekana kangcono nezingxabano ezingaba khona ebunganeni nokuthi ungafunda ukugcina abangane abahle ngakuzo.
Izingane eziphakathi kweminyaka engu-0 nengu-5 ubudala
Yize izingane nezinsana zingachitha isikhathi nabangane bazo, izingane azibenzi ubungani beqiniso, ubudlelwano obusekelwe ekwazaneni, ukwethembana, nokunikeza nokuthatha, kuze kube baneminyaka emi-4 noma emi-5 ubudala.. Okwezinye izingane, Lobu bungani bokuqala bukhula ngokwemvelo lapho beqala isikole sabantwana, amaqembu okudlala, kanye nokuxhumana nomphakathi. Ezinye izingane zingangabaza noma zesabe izingane ezingazazi.
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, abazali kufanele bagweme amalebuli afana nokuthi "anamahloni" angahlala impilo yonke. Esikhundleni sokubiza ngokuziphatha kokuhoxa kwengane, abazali bangasiza ingane ukuthi iphume egobolondweni lakhe ngokuhlela ama-hangout wokudlala nezinye izingane ngezikhathi ezithile. Lapho izimo zenhlalo zidala ingcindezi, kuzodingeka ukuqondisa ukunaka kwengane kuthoyizi noma kumdlalo, ukhombe ubuso obujwayelekile esixukwini, futhi uqinisekise imizwa yengane. Uma ufuna abe nabangane kulesi sikhathi, kuzodingeka ukuthi umkhombe esikoleni noma ezindaweni lapho angadlala khona nezinye izingane.
Izingane ezineminyaka ephakathi kwengu-6 nengu-10 ubudala
Izingane kule minyaka zidinga ukwakha ukuzethemba. Lapho izingane zifika esikoleni, ubungane buya bubaluleke ngokwengeziwe. Ubungani obusezingeni eliphakeme esikoleni samabanga aphansi babaluleke kakhulu ezinganeni. Isifundo esisha esivela eNyuvesi yase-Illinois sikhombisa lokho izingane okungenani ezinomngane omuhle enkulisa zazinezinkinga ezimbalwa zokuziphatha esikoleni sabaqalayo.
Njengoba ubungane buba bubaluleke kakhulu, kanjalo nokuxabana phakathi kwabangane. Iminyaka eyisisekelo yisikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuphikisana nabangane abaseduze. Cishe eminyakeni eyisi-6 noma engu-7 ubudala, izingane ziqala ukwakha ubungani ngokuya ngokwethembana, ngakho-ke izingxabano zingavela lapho umngane ezwa ukuthi ukwethembana kwephuliwe: lapho umngane etshela imfihlo, isibonelo.
Ukulwa phakathi kwabangane kuyingxenye ejwayelekile yokukhula. Abazali bangasiza izingane ukuxazulula ukungaboni ngaso linye ngokwazisa imizwa yezingane, ukuxazulula izinkinga, kanye nokwenza imodeli yokuxazulula izingxabano.
Kusukela eminyakeni engu-11 kuye kwengu-18 ubudala
Ngaphambi kokuthomba, izingane zidinga ukuxhumana okuhle. Abangani bazobaluleka kakhulu ezimpilweni zabo futhi bazofuna ukuchitha sonke isikhathi sabo benabo. Kepha kuthiwani uma omunye walabo bangani ethonya elibi kuwe. ingane? Kumele ukhumbule ukuthi yize abangane babo bebaluleke kakhulu, uma wazi ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani kahle, unamandla amakhulu kakhulu kunalokho izingane zakho ezikucabangayo.
Intsha ifuna ukwamukelwa ngabazali noma ingasho njalo. Ngokugwema izahlulelo ezingezinhle nokugxeka okulimazayo, abazali bavula umnyango ezingxoxweni ezithembekile ngomngane ongabuzwa. Kufanele ubuze intsha nentsha ukuthi bacabangani ngezenzo zalo mngani, Kwesinye isikhathi izinqumo ezimbi zabanye zingazithinta.
Abazali kufanele bagweme indlela yobushiqela noma yokulwa. Ingane akufanele nanini inqatshelwe ukubona enye ingane, ngoba lapho kuba nomphumela ophambene kuphela otholakalayo. Kungcono ukunikeza ithuba lokuhlangana nalowo mfana noma leyo ntombazane futhi ugcine imizila yokuxhumana ivulekile njalo. Unganikela ngendlu yakho ukuze intsha ihlangane, ukuze wazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngaphandle kokuqaphela. Uma kwenzeka okuthile, thatha ithuba lokuxoxa futhi ucabangisise ngalo nengane yakho.