Emndenini wakho, ikakhulukazi uma unezingane, kubalulekile ukuthi unakekele ubuhlobo bakho bothando ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye, inqobo nje uma bunempilo nokuthi ayisiyo ingozi kunoma ngubani. Ukubekezela kuyinto enhle uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu, kungakhathalekile ukuthi hlobo luni lobudlelwano onabo, kepha kusamele kubonakale kakhulu emshadweni.
Lapho ushada nomuntu futhi wakhe umndeni, empeleni kufanele uhlale unomphela, kepha uma ubudlelwano abunakekelwa kahle, lolo thando lungasheshe lukhohlwe.
Kungani kufanele uhlakulele ukubekezela ebudlelwaneni bakho bothando?
Ukubekezela kubalulekile ebuhlotsheni bothando ngenxa yezinzuzo ezihlala njalo. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi, kodwa lapho nje ufunda ukuthuthukisa amakhono okubekezela, uba ngumuntu ojabule ngokwengeziwe. Lokhu kwenzeka ngokwanda kokubekezela:
- Uba nesineke kakhulu kuwe: Ngalokhu kuzethemba okusha, udala ukuvumelana kuwe okuzogcina kukhanya uthando nokuthula okwengeziwe okuzungezile. Lokhu izingane zakho zizokuqaphela.
- Ukubekezela kubalulekile hhayi kuphela ebudlelwaneni bothando kepha futhi nasesimweni somsebenzi lapho ungacelwa ukuthi ube ngumholi weqembu. Ukubekezela kuzokuvumela ukuthi wakhe ubudlelwano obuqinile nabantu osebenza nabo. Bheka ukubekezela njengokutshala imali esikhathini esizayo.
- Uba umuntu onempilo. Lapho uphelelwa isineke, wehlise ulaka, umzimba uphendula kabi: ungahle uthole ukuphefumula okuncane, umzimba wakho ushuba.
Ngakho-ke uma umngani wakho omkhulu ekutshela ukuthi une-fuse emfushane, mlalele, kungenzeka ukuthi uqinisile, awunaso isineke futhi lokhu kungaba nemiphumela emibi ebudlelwaneni bakho nasemndenini wakho. Ngamanye amagama, uma ungakhulisa ukubekezela okubaluleke kangako empilweni yansuku zonke, usendleleni eya emandleni. Lobu buhle obunokuthula abuqinisi kuphela ubudlelwane obunothando nomndeni, kepha futhi kukusiza ukuthi ufeze izinhloso zakho zomuntu siqu nezomsebenzi.