I-Preadolescence yisigaba lapho izingane ziguquka ziye ekubeni yintsha. Zonke izigaba zobuntwana zibalulekile, kepha kuzo zonke kuyadingeka ukuthi abazali balalele ngoba kunezikhathi lapho izingane zingaba nengcindezi. Ama-preadolescents angakhombisa nezimpawu zokucindezeleka futhi uma kwenzeka ukutholile, kuzodingeka ukuthi bathole usizo oludingekayo ngokwengqondo ukuze bakwazi ukwenza ngcono isimo.
Kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuthi ngabe ingane yakho ibhekene nesiqephu esikhulu sokucindezeleka kwengane noma ukungaziphathi kahle okwesikhashana ngoba 'kuyingxenye ejwayelekile yalesi sigaba sokuthuthuka'. Ukwenza ngokushesha ukusiza ingane yakho, noma ngabe ikusiphi isimo, kubalulekile. Akudingeki ubheke kwenye indawo bese ucabanga ukuthi isimo sizodlula wedwa ... Ngoba ngeke futhi okungaphezu kwalokho, ngaphandle kosizo, lezi zimo zihlala zimbi kakhulu.
I-Preadolescence nokudangala kwengane
AmaHormone avuliwe, anemithwalo yemfanelo eminingi, futhi amashejuli awo ansuku zonke aqala ukugcwala ngokweqile. Ukwenza izinto zibe yinselelo enkulu, ama-tweens nawo alwa nobudlelwano obuguqukayo phakathi komndeni nabangane, ingcindezi, ukudideka okulindelwe kwamasiko, kanye nokukhathazeka okuvame ukulethwa yintsha yabo elandelayo. Akumangalisi ukuthi izingane eziningi kangaka zihlushwa usizi ngezikhathi ezithile noma mhlawumbe nokudangala kwengane.
Izingane ezinengcindezi ebuntwaneni maningi amathuba okuthi zisebenzise utshwala nezidakamizwa. Basengozini enkulu yokubandakanyeka kwezinye izindlela zokuziphatha eziyingozi… Ngakho konke lokhu kanye nenhlalakahle yabo engokomzwelo kuyadingeka ukuthi izimpawu ezingenzeka zinganakwa ukusiza abacindezelekile noma abadidekile ngaphambi kweminyaka eyishumi nambili.
Yazi ukucindezeleka kwabasencane
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekusizeni ingane yakho ukubona ukuthi kungenzeka kube nenkinga. Ukudangala ngamashumi amabili kungahle kungabonwa khona manjalo. Izimpawu kungaba nzima ukuzibona futhi zingaphutha ngezigaba zokukhula ezijwayelekile. Kule minyaka, isimo esibi sivamile, amahomoni abo kanye nemizwelo eguqukayo kungenza kube nzima ukwazi ukuthi ngabe badlula esigabeni noma ngabe kuyinto ebucayi kakhulu.
Izimpawu zokucindezeleka kwabangaphambi kweminyaka yobudala zingashintsha kuye komunye nomunye, kepha akuvamile ukuthi babonise okulandelayo kokuziphatha okulandelayo kwesinye isikhathi noma ezinsukwini zabo lapho kwenzeka:
- Shintsha ukuthanda ukudla (ukudla kakhulu noma ukungadli kakhulu)
- Ukuhoxa kubangani nemisebenzi
- Izinkinga zokulala njengokulala kakhulu, ukungalali kahle, noma ukugwema ukulala
- Yehla emabangeni esikole
- Ukuqaphela isithombe somzimba wakho
- Imizwa yokukhungatheka
- Ukungakwazi ukuqedela imisebenzi elula
- Ukuzisola ngokweqile nokuzizwa ungelutho
- Shintsha ekuziphatheni okujwayelekile nasekushintsheni kobuntu
- Ukuyekelwa kokubamba iqhaza emisebenzini yomphakathi
- Intukuthelo nokuqhuma okukhulu kwemizwa
- Ubuhlungu besisu, ikhanda elingaphenduli ekwelashweni
- Ubuhlungu obungokomzimba obungenakuchazwa noma ukwelashwa
- Ukungakwazi ukujabulela impilo
- Ukungabi nentshisekelo esikhathini samanje nekusasa
Lezi zimpawu ezingenhla, yize ziyizinkomba zokucindezeleka, zingadida abazali ngoba kujwayelekile nokuthi abafana namantombazane akule minyaka babe nazo njalo. Lokho wukuthi, lezi zimpawu azisho ukuthi banokudangala kwengane ngoba bayizici zalesi sigaba. Esikhundleni salokho, Kuyadingeka ukuthi kubhekwe izindlela ezithile ukuze ukwazi ukwehlukanisa uma ngabe kungukucindezeleka kwasebuntwaneni ngempela futhi ukwazi ukuthatha izinyathelo ezifanele:
- Uma ukuziphatha kwengane yakho kuhlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili, kungaba wuphawu lokuthi kungaba wukucindezeleka kwengane.
- Uma ungaqiniseki ngokuziphatha kwengane yakho, thintana nodokotela wezingane, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo ukuthola umbono mhlawumbe nokuhlolwa okuphelele.
- Buza amalungu omndeni, uthisha wengane yakho, noma omunye umuntu omdala oxhumana naye njalo ingane yakho, bacabangani ngokuziphatha kwengane yakho.
- Ukudangala ezinganeni, uma kuyekwa kungalashwa, kungaholela kwezinye izinkinga ezinkulu, njengokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa notshwala, izinkinga zobudlelwano besikhathi esizayo, ngisho nokuzibulala.
Izimbangela zokucindezeleka kwengane
Entsheni, ukudangala kungadalwa ukungabi bikho kwama-neurotransmitters (abasiza ukuthi bazizwe bejabule). Inhlanganisela yezehlakalo ezihlukumezayo noma ezinengcindezi (isehlukaniso, ukufa, izinkinga zobungani, ukuhamba komndeni, njll.) Nakho kungadala ukucindezeleka kwabanye abantu abasha, njengoba nomndeni ungenza lesi sifo. Uma ungakukholwa noma ungakukholwa, empeleni ukudangala kuyinsakavukela kubantu abasha, umuntu oyedwa kwabangu-1 angaba nokudangala.
Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi ukucindezeleka kungelashwa ngempumelelo. Ngokulandelwa okuhle okuvela kosizo lobungoti nolwanele oluvela kubantu abaseduze, ingane ehlushwa ukucindezeleka inethuba elihle lokusinqoba lesi sifo.
Okufanele ukwenze
Okwamanje, ungahle uzibuze ukuthi yini okudingeka uyenze ukuze usize ngempumelelo ingane yakho ecindezelekile. Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukuvakashela udokotela wezingane. Lochwepheshe angancoma ukuthi ingane yakho inakekelwe ngumhlinzeki wezempilo yezengqondo, lapho ezodlulisela khona okufanele. Kwezinye izimo, ukwelashwa kwanele ukusiza ingane enezinkinga ngezikhathi ezinzima. Kwezinye izimo, umuthi ungadingeka, konke kuzoya ngokuthi ingane iguquka kanjani.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho inengcindezi, kubalulekile ukuthi uqiniseke ukuthi injani impilo yayo esikoleni, nabangane bayo noma ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Kuyadingeka ukwazi ukuthi ngabe kukhona okwenzekayo kubantu abaseduze kwakho noma uma uhlushwa ukuxhashazwa. Noma ngabe iyiphi indima yakho, kuyadingeka ukuthi ingane yakho izizwe njengokwesekwa kothando okuzoba eceleni kwayo noma nini lapho ikudinga khona. Okwakho:
- Lalela njalo ingane yakho lapho wabelana ngolwazi ngemizwa yayo
- Ungalokothi umehlulele ngokuthi uthini kuwe
- Mazise ukuthi uzoba eceleni kwakhe uma ezokudinga
Kufanele uqhubeke ubatshele konke lokhu noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi bayazi vele noma lapho bekhombisa imizwa yobutha kuwe. Abantu abayishumi nambili abacindezelekile badinga ukuzwa ukuthi uzoba khona nokuthi uthando lwakho alunamibandela.