Kubantu abaningi cishe akucabangeki ukuhlobanisa ukucindezeleka nobuntwana noma nentsha. Le minyaka ivame ukubhekwa njengejabulisa kakhulu, eshubile kakhulu, nevuza kakhulu emjikelezweni wempilo. Kodwa-ke, kufanele sazi isici esibalulekile: ukuba ingane akulula, futhi ukubhekana nobunzima bentsha kudinga ibhalansi enkulu yangaphakathi nokuxhaswa okwanele komndeni kanye nomphakathi. Kukholwe noma cha, iminyaka eyi-10-24 ngokungangabazeki ingesinye sezikhathi ezinzima kunazo zonke kubantu abasha namuhla.
Ngokusho kwakhe "I-National Institute of Health Mental«, Cishe u-14% we intsha efunda imfundo yasesekondari kwesinye isikhathi icabanga ngokuzibulala, futhi kulokhu, cishe ama-6% azamile ngesikhathi esithileIminyaka ebucayi kakhulu iphakathi kweminyaka eyi-13 nengu-18. Lezi zibalo ezethusayo futhi ezibucayi ngempela okufanele zisenze sazi, okokuqala emindenini bese kuthi zonke izigaba zenhlalo zisebenzise izindlela zokuvikela nokunakekela. Yize kungekho izibalo eziqondile zenombolo ye- ukuzibulala minyaka yonke emhlabeni wonke kula maqembu eminyaka, ochwepheshe basitshela imininingwane emibili okufanele siyicabangele: imizamo yokuzibulala iyanda, futhi nemikhawulo yobudala iyehla. Isibonelo esidabukisa ngempela esenzeka eSpain ngesika Diego, umfana oneminyaka engu-11 kuphela owaqeda impilo yakhe ngenxa ukuxhashazwa. Te invitamos a reflexionar sobre ello en «Madres Hoy".
Ukudangala ezinganeni nasebusheni
Injani ingane eyeve eshumini nambili noma ingane enengcindezi? Singaba, isibonelo, intombazane ekhathazeke njenganoma iyiphi enye nguHarry Potter, ngokufunda ukufaka izimonyo kwizifundo ze-YouTube, ofaka izithombe zakhe ku-Instagram ngezikhathi ezithile kepha nokho echitha amahora ekhubazekile embhedeni wakhe. iphuzu lewindi ngenkathi usizi lumgona futhi lumucwilisa, angafuni enye into, futhi nokuncane ukuya ekilasini. Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi naye uqobo lwakhe angazi kahle kamhlophe ukuthi kwenzakalani ngaye, nokuthi akazi nokuthi lokhu okwenzeka kuye kunegama.
Kwesinye isikhathi imindeni ngokwayo ibeka le ndlela yokuziphatha njenge "ejwayelekile", isuke ikuleso sikhathi lapho ukuziphatha kwayo kufana nezinguquko ezijabulisayo, amandla nobuvila, ukukhala nokukhala. "Uzokhula", "Kuzodlula," abanye obaba, abanye omama bayacabanga. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula lokho uma kukhulunywa ngezingane nentsha, isikhathi esihle njalo "manje", imfundo ayihlehliswa, izingxoxo azihlehliswa, ukukhathazeka akuhlelwanga. Izingane ziyasidinga ngalesi sikhathi futhi kufanele ube enembile futhi wamukele ngokuziphatha kwazo.
Ukudangala ezinganeni nasebusheni: izimpawu
I-WHO uqobo (Inhlangano Yezempilo Yomhlaba) eminyakeni eyi-15 edlule sibone ukwanda wenani lezingane nentsha etholakale inesifo sokudangala. Ochwepheshe basitshela izinto ezimbili ezibalulekile kwasekuqaleni: okokuqala, ukuthi ukudabuka akufani kuphela nokucindezeleka. Okwesibili, ukuthi i-WHO uqobo incoma ukugwema ukuphathwa kwezidambisi ezinganeni nakubantu abasebasha.
Kufanele siqale ngezinye izindlela, amanye amasu, njengezindlela zokwelapha zokuziphatha. Kodwa-ke, into ebaluleke kakhulu, njengoba sesishilo ngaphambili, ukunaka lezi zimpawu ezingakhombisa inkinga engokomzwelo ezinganeni zethu.
- Kubi lapho uya ekilasini. Lapho sekuyisikhathi sokulungiselela ukuya esikoleni noma esikhungweni semfundo ephakeme, baphendula ngokubi, ukwesaba noma usizi.
- Kuvamile ukuthi izingane nentsha babe nezinkinga zokuqwasha, ukondla, izikhathi zokucasuka okukhulu, izinselelo eziqhubekayo, kanye nesidingo sokuba wedwa.
- Okufanele ngabe kusixwayisa iqiniso lokuthi bayayeka ukwenza lokho ababekuthanda phambilini noma lokho ababekuthanda. Ukunganaki, ukwephuza, ukuphelelwa amandla, ukukhathala noma ikhanda ngokungangabazeki yizici okufanele zisenze siqaphe.
Izimbangela ezingaba khona
Izimbangela lapho ingane noma eyeve eshumini nambili agcina ngokutholakala ukuthi unesifo sokucindezeleka ngokungangabazeki zihluke kakhulu. Inqubo yangaphakathi yokwakhiwa kabusha kobunikazi, ukuba sengozini komuntu ezimweni eziningi, noma umuzwa wokuthi "ungafaneleki" emphakathini kwesinye isikhathi ofunana njengoba uvumela ngasikhathi sinye, kwenza abantu bethu abasha bazizwe bengahlanganisiwe noma bekwazi ngokomzwelo ukukwazi ukuthola indawo yabo emhlabeni, bayivikele futhi bajabulele abakubona njalo ekuseni phambi kwesibuko.
- Ngaphezu kwalokhu, kunezinye izimbangela eziningi. Isici somndeni noma umlando wokudangala kubaba noma kumama kuvame ukuthwala isisindo esiningi, kanye nezindinganiso ezithile zemfundo.
- Ubudlelwano nontanga yabo, ukuxhashazwa esikoleni, ubudlelwano bokuqala bokuthinteka noma ukwamukelwa komzimba wabo, imvamisa kuyizinto okufanele zibhekwe ukuthi sonke, kusuka emikhakheni yethu, kufanele sibekhona ngendlela ehlakaniphile kodwa engaguquki.
"Ndodana yami unengcindezi"
Ukucindezeleka akuyona imizwa ekhethekile ebuchosheni obudala. Kumele sikuqonde ukuthi ukukhathazeka njengokucindezelwa yizenzo ezimbili ezingokwemvelo zomuntu ezivela ezingqondweni zethu njengempendulo "engozini". Lapho ubuchopho bethu buthola usongo kusilungiselela indiza.
Namuhla asifanele ukubalekela amabhere noma amanye amaqembu abantu anenzondo njengoba kwenza okhokho bethu. Namuhla sinezitha ezingabonakali ezenza umzimba wethu usebenze, futhi ezikhiqiza izinga eliphezulu le-cortisol emzimbeni wethu kuze kube sezingeni lokuthinta impilo yethu.
Futhi izingane zivikelekile kulo muzwa. I- ingcindezi, njengokukhathazeka noma ukudangala yizinkinga zangempela ebuntwaneni. Mayelana nengcindezi, isibonelo, yi-substrate yansukuzonke kuleyo mindeni enolindelo olukhulu ezinganeni zayo.
- Balindele ukwenza okuhle nokuphelela kubo, bafuna ukuba nezingane ezinhle kakhulu, ezinekhono futhi ezinekhono. Ngalokhu, abakufezayo ukwethula ingane kulokho okujwayeleke kithina sonke «ukusheshisa». Kufanele siye yonke indawo, senze izinto ezi-5 ngasikhathi sinye, senze lokho namuhla kepha ngasikhathi sinye silungiselele okuzayo, asiwabekezeleli amaphutha futhi ukwehluleka kufana nje nokucwaswa.
- Uma bonke lobu bukhulu buyingozi kubantu abadala, umphumela enganeni kuyalimaza. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukukhumbula isihloko ebesivele sibhekane naso esikhaleni sethu «Ukuzala ngokushisa okuphansi". Kungaba kuphela ngokuhlonipha isigqi sengane. Ngoba akusizi ngalutho ukuba nezingane eziphelele uma kungezona izingane ezijabulayo. Kuyinto okufanele siyicabangele.
- Njengamanje, into eyenzeka kaningi ngenxa yalesi simo senhlekelele, isifiso sokunikeza umhlaba izingane ezinamakhono futhi ezincintisanayo ukuze ziphumelele esimweni esiya ngokuya siyinkimbinkimbi futhi sinobutha. Akekho owaziyo ukuthi kuzokwenzekani ngokuzayo, ngakho-ke Ake sijabulele lesi sikhathi futhi sifundise izingane zethu ukubaluleka kokujabula. Mhlawumbe, kusuka ku-Emotional Intelligence eyanele, kusuka ekuthobekeni kwabo, kanye nenjabulo yabo, bangaba ngabantu abadala kusasa abakwazi ukuguqula umhlaba.
Ukuphetha, sincoma ukuthi ubuke okufushane okulandelayo ukuze ufundise izingane nabantu abadala ekulawuleni ngokomzwelo kwengcindezi nokukhathazeka. Kujabulele.