Bengilokhu ngizibuza izinsuku ezimbalwa ukuthi ngabe i-violencia de género lokho okuye kwabonwa kubantu bentsha, kungabangelwa ukucabanga komphakathi ngalokho esikubiza ngezinkolelo zobulili, ngani 'bakhona ngqo empilweni yansuku zonke yentsha, ethinta indlela abaziphatha ngayo nezinqumo zabo' (lesilinganiso sivela UMargarita Petit noMontse Prat, abahlengikazi nababhali balo msebenzi ngale ndaba).
Kukaningi sibona izimo zamehlo kwabancane kunabo bonke, ngisho nakwabancane, kunzima - impela ukuzama ukuqonda ukuthi isizukulwane samantombazane nabafana abakhule bebuka omama babo beya emsebenzini, kanti oyise bathatha ukubambisana kwasekhaya umthwalo; bavume (bona nabo) ukuthi akunakugwenywa / kwamukelekile ukulawula amashejuli abalingani babo noma ukuwavimba ekuboneni abathandekayo bawo; Abekho ngaphansi kwamaphesenti angama-33 abacabanga ngale ndlela ekuqaleni konyaka odlule ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwe yi-CIS, futhi oluthunyelwe nguMnyango Wezempilo!
U-Angel Peralbo ngudokotela wezengqondo osebenza ngokukhethekile ezinganeni nasebusheniUngumbhali wencwadi ethi "From girls to bad girls"; ngesinye isikhathi ngibe nengxoxo naye, ukuzama ukungichazela ukuthi kungani kukhona amantombazane okuthi, yize ekhuliswe ngokulingana nangenhlonipho, avume ukubuswa nokunqotshwa. U-Angel ungitshele ukuthi mhlawumbe akubona abazali noma isikole, hhayi umphakathi, banikeze ukusekelwa ukuthuthukisa ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo nokuqinisa ukuzethemba kwabo, ngenxa yalesi sizathu izinhloso zihlala emfundisweni. Angimphiki isizathu, kepha kunezinto eziningi okufanele ngizihlaziye, yingakho benginentshisekelo ezindimeni zobulili kanye nezinkolelo.
Amantombazane, abafana, izindima nezinkolelo-ze.
Singakuqinisekisa ukuthi umuntu ungowesifazane noma owesilisa ngokwe-biology yabo, kodwa-ke, akunakwenzeka ukuthi kuthiwe imisebenzi yobufazi noma yesilisa kubo, ngoba lezi zichasiso zihlobene nokwakhiwa kwamasiko. Lokho wukuthi, uma sonke sijwayela ukuthi thina futhi sinezibopho ezahlukahlukene kunoma iyiphi indawo, siphika namathuba alinganayo, kanye nabesifazane (Uma KUHLALE umama ethatha izingane aye kudokotela wamazinyo noma emisebenzini yangaphandle, ngenkathi ubaba efundela ukuhlolwa, owokuqala ulahlekelwa yithuba lokuthuthukisa ukuqeqeshwa kwakhe, ngigqamisa 'njalo' ukuze kuqondwe ukuthi wayengeke abeke inkinga uma ngabe sikhuluma ngesimo esithile).
Ngokuzihlanganisa nabantu, sifunda futhi nokuziphatha imvelo ekubheka njengokwabesilisa nokwabesifazane, lezi yizindima
Izindima ezinje zakhiwe ngokuzikhulisa kanye 'nokwenza ikhaya' kwamantombazane, nokwesekwa kwabafana kwezomnotho; kamuva zidluliselwa ngezinkolelo mayelana nokuthi kufanele 'kube yini'. Izindima ezibhekiswe kithi ngokususelwa ebulilini bethu zisungulwe ngale ndlela ngoba siphila emphakathini wezinzalamizi, ohlose gcina ubudoda obunamandla.
Lapha uzothola i-athikili esungula ubudlelwano obuqondile phakathi komyalo wezinzalamizi nodlame lobulili. Umbhali wayo ukhuluma ngendlela izinto zethu zakudala nezokuzijabulisa ezinikela ngayo ekunakekelweni, ngokwamukelwa ngumphakathi wonke; Sigcine sinje ngokushaya ihlombe. imvamisa into okungafanele ibe yiyo.
Amantombazane nabafana: indlela efanayo yokuziphatha, izincazelo ezahlukahlukene.
Cabanga ukuthi unamadodakazi namadodana, cabanga ukuthi ngenxa yemfundo abakunike yona, ithonya lemvelo, nokwamukelwa kwakho, ulinganisa ukuziphatha kwabo ngokuhlukile, lapho lokhu kufana. Cabanga ukuthi izingane zakho ziyakuqonda lokho zikulahle ebusweni bakho, futhi nokuthi ezinye ziyajabula, futhi kuyadabukisa ezinye zikwamukele; umonakalo wenziwe, ikakhulukazi uma ungawuboni futhi uqhubeka nawo.
Kepha, njengoba uzobona etafuleni eledlule, ingxenye ebi kakhulu ayiwona amantombazane ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba bheka ukuthi umuntu omncane ozwelayo uchazwa kanjani 'njengobucayi' noma 'owesilisa', kuya ngokuthi sikhuluma ngobani. Kepha ngokujwayelekile, sivame ukuba nomusa ngokwengeziwe ngabo: Intombazane ephikelelayo inenkani, uma kungumfana, iyoqina; enye, inolaka engahambisi, iqine leyo engathobeli.
Imiphumela yokusungula imibono eyeqisayo.
URebecca Cock unguchwepheshe wesifazane ezindabeni zobulili, uthi inkinga iza lapho inkolelo ifaka umthwalo noma yenqaba inzuzo ethile (Ngabe leso sikhathi sizwakala sijwayelekile kuwe lapho abesifazane bengakwazi ngisho ukuvota?). Kepha inikeza umbono ofanele ukugqanyiswa: awugcini nje ngokubhekisa ezinqubekelaneni maqondana nezindima zobulili ezenziwa kwabesifazane, kepha futhi iqinisekisa ukuthi kukhona 'ukungavunyelwa umphakathi' kwabesilisa ababambe iqhaza ekukhuliseni, yize kunjalo, kuncane ( ngenhlanhla).
Ngikholwa ukuthi manje, umsebenzi awusebenzi nje kuphela ukuthi thina bantu abadala sibhekana kanjani nalezi zinkoleloze, kepha ukufaka isandla kancane ukuze leyo mibono ephathelene nezingane umdwebo okhuluma ngayo inguquko
Uma usifunda, unamadodakazi noma amadodana, noma mhlawumbe abashana noma abazukulu, khumbula lokho njengoba besho 'imfundo iphethe ukhiye', kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sihlanganyele ukufeza ukulingana kwangempela, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukuze aqede udlame lobulili.
Futhi ekugcineni, ngethemba ukuthi awucabangi ukuthi nginehaba, uma kunjalo, ngincoma ukuthi ufunde lokhu okuthunyelwe kwethu, okususelwa ocwaningweni olwenziwe yiReina Sofia Center ku-Adolescence and Youth; umphumela omkhulu ukuthi i-80% yentsha ephakathi kweminyaka eyi-14 nengu-19 ubudala isazi isenzo esithile sodlame lobulili emibhangqwaneni yobudala babo. Kwaxoxwa nangama-stereotypes, owavela kakhulu kwaba 'Onamandla njengobaba, ozwelayo njengomama'. Kuthiwani uma siqala ngokukholelwa ukuthi amadoda angazwela futhi? Kuthiwani uma sizama ukunika amandla amantombazane ukuba abe nemizimba yawo, izenzo zawo, izinqumo zawo nezinhlelo zawo zekusasa?
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Ithebula - Kusuka encwadini ethi «Feminism for Wabasaqalayo», ogama lakhe linguNúria Varela
Ngiyabonga kakhulu ngenothi, nangeposi owabelane ngalo nathi. Uqinisile, kuningi okumele ukwenze, kanti-ke, kusalindwe umthelela wokukhangisa kwezobulili, futhi usazoshoda, ngoba ngaphandle (futhi mhlawumbe uzokhuluma kokuthunyelwe kwakho) kufanele sicabangele okunye okuqukethwe kwedijithali njengamavidiyo we-youtubers adume kakhulu (phakathi kokunye, angifuni ukukhomba noma iyiphi into ethile).
Ngiyaphinda, ngiyabonga futhi, kungenzeka ngivuselele okuthunyelwe kusuka ekubonisweni kwakho okuthakazelisayo.
Sawubona .. Angijwayelekile nge-nvio yami sigcina ubudlelwano obusondelene kusukela ngoSepthemba 22 futhi kuze kube namuhla, isikhathi sami sisanda kufika .. Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi ngabe kuyisikhathi sami yini vele izimpawu zeshubhu k ukukhulelwa sonke lesi sikhathi k kudlula xk ukuzwa izimpawu futhi izivivinyo ziphuma zingenayo… uma ngifuna ukwazi kepha konke engikwenzayo, ziyangisiza. ? Ngiyabonga
Indodana yami ineminyaka engu-6 futhi ibinemicabango emibi usuku lonke. Ngizama ukwenza konke okuchazayo ku-athikili yakho, kepha kwesinye isikhathi ngemuva kwesikhathi eside sezincazelo ngigcina ngiphelelwa yisineke. Angazi ukuthi yini enye okufanele ngiyenze